After reading so many of your comments, I actually agree with your mindset on meeting up multiple girls at the same time. Just that I don't buy your approach towards sex in dating, but that's another story.

Well, please don't be offended. My stand is agree to disagree with our sex theory differences.
Actually I am not a sage to think of girl's disadvantages in this area.
But for my own health, I prefer not to f**k around.
for me, sex is created to firmly bond husband and wife together physically, mentally and emotionally.
If we do it with multiple person, this function of our body will somehow lose its effectiveness, like a glue losing its adhesive nature gradually.
That's why when we broke up with a person, we would feel more hurtful if there is sexual relationship.
Without sexual relationship, the broke up will be less hurtful and we could recover faster.
For me and many conservative people I know, it works this way.
But for you, sex might be just a game to enjoy without other effects.

We as conservative guy have to beware of woman players also. Yeah, of course we want a partner who can really accept our appearance and vice versa. And it is not that we want a virgin girl or healthy body to have sex with. That's really superficial. There are girls inside dating apps who played around during their 20s and wanted to settle down during 30s. At this stage of their life, they started to consider to "date" those less attractive and conservative guy (like myself). As a loser to them during 20s, I don't understand why I suddenly became dateable at 30s. 

So fast to be prejudice about people life?
Have you even heard about their side of stories?

If you have no interest to deeply understand why he or she chooses to be promiscuous you're very superficial.

Its like claiming a disabled person is (destined) cannot make any fortune

I have deal with girls who have over 20-100 (lost count) body counts. If you think a woman dont know how to hide their body counts to suit your *ideal* imagination that she's not the type of girl who sleeps around.

sorry bro, you haven't even been in the game deep enough
very naive

Would you mind sharing some of your non-negotiables? Mine was pretty standard; no beef, no vegan, no 'has children', no smoking, no tattoo. My friend told me I was being unreasonable lol

For completeness

Below 30
Bodycount less than 3
Not married before/no kids
Non-muslim

Correct?

The next thing is whether you can make the girl to desire/want you.

They need to constantly update insta and tiktoks to show off how interesting their lives are. Very irritating

Low socmed activity is big green flag in my pov.

The eldest one I am talking to is 3 years, should be ok...

Just learnt that my match is no longer a virgin...

The Shanghai girl in SG also the same...

Both went for hookups when they were young... Body count for both = 2... 

Luckily both also think hookups are terrible so both into long-term relationship only...

25 and still Virgin?
Its either being a "high" quality guy or just being naive in this sexual marketplace. Just stay blue pill yah

yes. be aware. nowadays the effect of feminist ideology started to become rampant in East Asia (China). I am not saying they are gold digger. But if you can support their lifestyle after you married them, by all means, go ahead with your pursue. If you don't have this confidence., it is wiser to stay away from all these "worldly troubles". At least, for the sake of your mental health....

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D2IQr-Bpt2k

Regarding this, there was a "30+ years old pretty girl" in dating apps mentioning she was independent a few years back. Graduated from oversea with photos of YOLO lifestyle fully displayed in CMB. In our conversation of that 7 days, we kept on chatting about money issue. Until the last day, she revealed to me that she is still living with her parents with 4 figure saving in bank account.....Yeah...of course, no phone number exchanged.....And I think she is still finding it hard to define her "independent"

I's hard to find girls who can delay their gratification these days. Young people fail to appreciate the power of compounding...

Damn where do you set your location in CMB

I set my location at KL with radius of 400 km so I cover whole West Malaysia + Singapore (and accidentally part of Indonesia).

Looks like a lot people using tinder and tantan, but did anyone use sugarbook? I got saw this apps but not sure is it same like tinder, anyone got use before can give some advise?

For my case, she never see getting into relationship as a thing for her, maybe just optional. She's always busy with work, work day and night. I msg her but she could just leave it for days before she bluetick me and reply. Even on weekends, she would just ignore her phone for the whole day. Usually I only text her on weekend, but very less interaction. If I never initiated, I think we would have been strangers. At the same time, I'm worried that I'm being too pushy.

How did u get your gf? What are your tips?

to the guys who are on dating apps, do you send selfie to your matches like every single day? if so, what's the purpose of it? thanks.

Most of the time I think it only works if you're good looking (if you're a guy la) or at least seemed to be well settled or have that bad boy vibe. I tried many times didn't work out but the moment I tried being a bad boy, got la a couple of matches that ended up in bed. If I'm being honest, I'm not that of an eye candy and I honestly looking for a real relationship but unfortunately, most of the dating apps are looking for sugar daddies, quick fix or just time past.

Does subscription help? I am reluctant to pay for dating apps these days...



As for speed dating, I tried once in SG. I am the youngest... All 40s-50s uncles and aunties mix and match... 

You know of any speed-dating activities/platforms for 20s-30s?

Anyone having luck finding your long term partner off dating apps?

I've tried = no luck.