QUOTE(kamiyacp @ Nov 11 2022, 05:20 PM)
I been using dating apps like Tinder, Bumble, Coffee Meets Bagel, OkCupid, Badoo, and Omi for past few months... feel like average looking guys like me can never get a match.
Depends on what you use. Don't bother about tinder. Tinder all scam and hookups only. Unless you want hookups.
For me I only use coffee meets bagel cause in Malaysia scene according to review that's the app with highest quality of girls looking for serious relationship.
My friend who is a girl had to scan the app for 2 years to look for men. It took 2 freaking years of match and going out before she can settle on one man and getting married soon. Yup she is a girl. And yes she uses the free app.
I have 10 matches so far and so far only 3 agree to go out. 1 already went out 2 more agree to go out. 1 is in another state unlikely going to continue. Maybe as friend. The one I went out with we is going to for 2nd meeting. Yes I am using the free version of coffee meets bagel. Out of the 10 matches, I got all their phone number and 7 of them were like despite chatting on them via whatapp with me, I don't like their personality and just ghost them and they even never make any afford to keep the conversation going.
Way to get matches (from my experience)
1. Please write our your profile describing yourself
2. Write a message to the girl.
3. Don't just say hi.
4. There are 2 ways after match
- some people try to meet up as soon as possible
- for myself I chat first for around a month then I ask her out
5. Don't boast. Be honest.
Even now with me going out on 2nd meeting, I am still active in coffee meets bagel. Why? Cause unless we are serious and committed, nothing is concrete yet. I want to have backup in case things don't workout.
For me I will make up my mind by 3rd meeting and casually tell the girl I deleted myself from that app. That way she will know I am serious.
Sometimes lower your standard a bit. Don't go click on those super models or those working models type. Click on ordinary looking girls. Why? Cause lots of people will be chasing those girls and unless you are super good at chatting, super confident, the girl won't notice you, bother about you. There is a Chinese saying beautiful girls are not your wife and handsome guys are not your husband.
My settings have always been Buddhist, Christian, distance of 40km.
I always read the girl profile before I message them. If you don't fill up your profile, out you go.
If you write unsure out you go.
If they write casual relationship, out you go.
I skipped all fat girls cause if they are fat that means they dont make an afford to take care of body and health. Not to mention potential health problem down the road.
I also skipped girl with picture of bars/alcohol drinks cause I don't like that kind girls
I skipped girls with profile of grabbing a drink, cocktail for reasons above.
If the girl mentioned about golf, I skipped.
If they write they work part time model, I skipped them also.
Yes I am using the free version. I am not handsome or well build. I am average Chinese guy. I message them with honesty. I don't use any pickup line. Cause very simple. If they cannot accept me for who I am, better not continue.
Sometimes the girl I send message like 3 days ago I will only see them at day 5 on the coffee meets bagel. But who cares. I don't need fast reply. I just need them to like or reply me.
Everybody, different criteria. Keep trying. It took me like a month before got any matches. People said it's a number game. Eventually you will match. Impossible not to match. But as mentioned above match does not mean will work out.
This post has been edited by Ramjade: Nov 11 2022, 08:04 PM