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post Nov 11 2022, 06:09 PM

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QUOTE(ifourtos @ Nov 11 2022, 05:33 PM)
Bro...
You totally get it wrong.

Is never about look. and the more desperate you seem, the lousier you looked.

Number 1 feats that actually attract Women : Confidence.
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Women really dislike Men who dont even trust themselve. They despise man like that

Number 2 feats that attract women : Humor.

Number 3 feats : Your achievement.
If you think women check your look.... just because all they can see is 1 picture of you. Dont judge on look then judge on what??

I can see you are desperately looking for partner.
You are really doing it wrong.

Build your confidence level 1st. Before go out hunting.
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You right~ But I just can't get off that itch that my Photo in those Apps is just making it difficult, LOL
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post Nov 11 2022, 07:25 PM

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QUOTE(kamiyacp @ Nov 11 2022, 05:20 PM)
I been using dating apps like Tinder, Bumble, Coffee Meets Bagel, OkCupid, Badoo, and Omi for past few months... feel like average looking guys like me can never get a match.
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Depends on what you use. Don't bother about tinder. Tinder all scam and hookups only. Unless you want hookups.

For me I only use coffee meets bagel cause in Malaysia scene according to review that's the app with highest quality of girls looking for serious relationship.

My friend who is a girl had to scan the app for 2 years to look for men. It took 2 freaking years of match and going out before she can settle on one man and getting married soon. Yup she is a girl. And yes she uses the free app.

I have 10 matches so far and so far only 3 agree to go out. 1 already went out 2 more agree to go out. 1 is in another state unlikely going to continue. Maybe as friend. The one I went out with we is going to for 2nd meeting. Yes I am using the free version of coffee meets bagel. Out of the 10 matches, I got all their phone number and 7 of them were like despite chatting on them via whatapp with me, I don't like their personality and just ghost them and they even never make any afford to keep the conversation going.

Way to get matches (from my experience)
1. Please write our your profile describing yourself
2. Write a message to the girl.
3. Don't just say hi.
4. There are 2 ways after match
- some people try to meet up as soon as possible
- for myself I chat first for around a month then I ask her out
5. Don't boast. Be honest.

Even now with me going out on 2nd meeting, I am still active in coffee meets bagel. Why? Cause unless we are serious and committed, nothing is concrete yet. I want to have backup in case things don't workout.

For me I will make up my mind by 3rd meeting and casually tell the girl I deleted myself from that app. That way she will know I am serious.

Sometimes lower your standard a bit. Don't go click on those super models or those working models type. Click on ordinary looking girls. Why? Cause lots of people will be chasing those girls and unless you are super good at chatting, super confident, the girl won't notice you, bother about you. There is a Chinese saying beautiful girls are not your wife and handsome guys are not your husband.

My settings have always been Buddhist, Christian, distance of 40km.
I always read the girl profile before I message them. If you don't fill up your profile, out you go.
If you write unsure out you go.
If they write casual relationship, out you go.
I skipped all fat girls cause if they are fat that means they dont make an afford to take care of body and health. Not to mention potential health problem down the road.
I also skipped girl with picture of bars/alcohol drinks cause I don't like that kind girls
I skipped girls with profile of grabbing a drink, cocktail for reasons above.
If the girl mentioned about golf, I skipped.
If they write they work part time model, I skipped them also.

Yes I am using the free version. I am not handsome or well build. I am average Chinese guy. I message them with honesty. I don't use any pickup line. Cause very simple. If they cannot accept me for who I am, better not continue.

Sometimes the girl I send message like 3 days ago I will only see them at day 5 on the coffee meets bagel. But who cares. I don't need fast reply. I just need them to like or reply me.

Everybody, different criteria. Keep trying. It took me like a month before got any matches. People said it's a number game. Eventually you will match. Impossible not to match. But as mentioned above match does not mean will work out.

This post has been edited by Ramjade: Nov 11 2022, 08:04 PM
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average guys have to pay to get algorithm prior
only chads dont need to pay...
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post Nov 13 2022, 06:11 PM

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QUOTE(Ramjade @ Nov 11 2022, 07:25 PM)
Depends on what you use. Don't bother about tinder. Tinder all scam and hookups only. Unless you want hookups.

For me I only use coffee meets bagel cause in Malaysia scene according to review that's the app with highest quality of girls looking for serious relationship.

My friend who is a girl had to scan the app for 2 years to look for men. It took 2 freaking years of match and going out before she can settle on one man and getting married soon. Yup she is a girl. And yes she uses the free app.

I have 10 matches so far and so far only 3 agree to go out. 1 already went out 2 more agree to go out. 1 is in another state unlikely going to continue. Maybe as friend. The one I went out with we is going to for 2nd meeting. Yes I am using the free version of coffee meets bagel. Out of the 10 matches, I got all their phone number and 7 of them were like despite chatting on them via whatapp with me, I don't like their personality and just ghost them and they even never make any afford to keep the conversation going.

Way to get matches (from my experience)
1. Please write our your profile describing yourself
2. Write a message to the girl.
3. Don't just say hi.
4. There are 2 ways after match
- some people try to meet up as soon as possible
- for myself I chat first for around a month then I ask her out
5. Don't boast. Be honest.

Even now with me going out on 2nd meeting, I am still active in coffee meets bagel. Why? Cause unless we are serious and committed, nothing is concrete yet. I want to have backup in case things don't workout.

For me I will make up my mind by 3rd meeting and casually tell the girl I deleted myself from that app. That way she will know I am serious.

Sometimes lower your standard a bit. Don't go click on those super models or those working models type. Click on ordinary looking girls. Why? Cause lots of people will be chasing those girls and unless you are super good at chatting, super confident, the girl won't notice you, bother about you. There is a Chinese saying beautiful girls are not your wife and handsome guys are not your husband.

My settings have always been Buddhist, Christian, distance of 40km.
I always read the girl profile before I message them. If you don't fill up your profile, out you go.
If you write unsure out you go.
If they write casual relationship, out you go.
I skipped all fat girls cause if they are fat that means they dont make an afford to take care of body and health. Not to mention potential health problem down the road.
I also skipped girl with picture of bars/alcohol drinks cause I don't like that kind girls
I skipped girls with profile of grabbing a drink, cocktail for reasons above.
If the girl mentioned about golf, I skipped.
If they write they work part time model, I skipped them also.

Yes I am using the free version. I am not handsome or well build. I am average Chinese guy. I message them with honesty. I don't use any pickup line. Cause very simple. If they cannot accept me for who I am, better not continue.

Sometimes the girl I send message like 3 days ago I will only see them at day 5 on the coffee meets bagel. But who cares. I don't need fast reply. I just need them to like or reply me.

Everybody, different criteria. Keep trying. It took me like a month before got any matches. People said it's a number game. Eventually you will match. Impossible not to match. But as mentioned above match does not mean will work out.
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CMB like no luck for me..been using it for a week now and no matches at all like zero..Bumble is decent tho got quite a few matches there..and yes tinder is horrible nowdays..mostly hookup and scammers in that app

Any advise on how to get matches on CMB?

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post Nov 13 2022, 06:29 PM

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QUOTE(GambitFire @ Nov 13 2022, 06:11 PM)
CMB like no luck for me..been using it for a week now and no matches at all like zero..Bumble is decent tho got quite a few matches there..and yes tinder is horrible nowdays..mostly hookup and scammers in that app

Any advise on how to get matches on CMB?
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A week and you are complaining. I had to wait like a month before matches appear. Keep doing it. Your likes and message won't appear so fast unless you are a paid person. You can always do bumble, CMB, FB instead of just doing CMB.

Send messages instead of clicking love.
Don't just say hi. Look at her profile and comment about it.



This post has been edited by Ramjade: Nov 13 2022, 06:45 PM
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post Nov 14 2022, 07:38 AM

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Here's the deal, FREE to download/trial then PAY if you need to use continuously.

You might ask if you paid, any chances of getting matches then go out for a date?
Yes and no, I believe some users here indeed get matched and a or maybe few dates.

Here's a tip, if you saw those profiles with instagram QR code, most of them just fishing for followers. If you looks like oppa or hollywood stars then yea they'll respond to you DM(If you DM them on instagram), or else just save you breath. No right or wrong here, I mean dude expecting super hot girls and the girl expecting tall bright skin tone oppa/hollywood stars looking dude, sounds fair to me though. Yea I know, not everyone expecting those or got those criteria so no need to reminds me.
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QUOTE(GambitFire @ Nov 13 2022, 06:11 PM)
CMB like no luck for me..been using it for a week now and no matches at all like zero..Bumble is decent tho got quite a few matches there..and yes tinder is horrible nowdays..mostly hookup and scammers in that app

Any advise on how to get matches on CMB?
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pay for the algorithm
but if you still unable to match or ask out girls
should be your pic or texting problem
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post Apr 17 2023, 11:13 PM

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hi i used free version of tinder tantan omi okcupid, my profile is a mugshot with my job title industry and edu background, my matches on tantan comprise of 95% scammer and 5% low quality girl, other apps al low quality, will paying premium help me
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post Apr 22 2023, 11:20 AM

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QUOTE(somewhataut @ Apr 17 2023, 11:13 PM)
hi i used free version of tinder tantan omi okcupid, my profile is a mugshot with my job title industry and edu background, my matches on tantan comprise of 95% scammer and 5% low quality girl, other apps al low quality, will paying premium help me
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Hi, short answer: no.
Long answer:
Finding a decent match takes a very long time, and even then you still need to meet up a few times before you can decide if s/he is a potential partner. I think... roughly out of 100 profiles you'll see:
- 80 are scammers or low quality profiles
- 10 are inactive/unresponsive after you match/liked
- 9 are found incompatible as you chat on app.
- 1 is a person you finally meet up

For example with Coffee Meets Bagel, it limits the frequency of you browsing through profiles, however the profiles there are generally higher quality.
For example with FB dating, there's no restriction and afaik no payment whatsoever, but the profiles there are way worse, the ratio is skewed more towards scammers/low quality profiles.

You can pay for CMB, sure, but I personally did not because I didn't want to try THAT hard, because every potential connection you make (those 9+1 put of that 100), you need to spend time and effort to try to connect. I treated the restriction as opportunity for me to take breaks.
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post Apr 25 2023, 10:38 PM

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QUOTE(somewhataut @ Apr 17 2023, 11:13 PM)
hi i used free version of tinder tantan omi okcupid, my profile is a mugshot with my job title industry and edu background, my matches on tantan comprise of 95% scammer and 5% low quality girl, other apps al low quality, will paying premium help me
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If u're willing to pay for premium, CMB is yr best bet coz there are more ppl looking for serious relationships there compared to other apps. It'll show your profile to more ppl, helping u to get more matches. Plus u get to see everyone's activity report which is very useful coz it'll help u to determine if that person is serious abt u or not.
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post Apr 26 2023, 10:52 PM

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QUOTE(parisiansky @ Apr 25 2023, 10:38 PM)
If u're willing to pay for premium, CMB is yr best bet coz there are more ppl looking for serious relationships there compared to other apps. It'll show your profile to more ppl, helping u to get more matches. Plus u get to see everyone's activity report which is very useful coz it'll help u to determine if that person is serious abt u or not.
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I get zero matches on CMB


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post Apr 26 2023, 10:57 PM

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QUOTE(Takudan @ Apr 22 2023, 11:20 AM)
Hi, short answer: no.
Long answer:
Finding a decent match takes a very long time, and even then you still need to meet up a few times before you can decide if s/he is a potential partner. I think... roughly out of 100 profiles you'll see:
- 80 are scammers or low quality profiles
- 10 are inactive/unresponsive after you match/liked
- 9 are found incompatible as you chat on app.
- 1 is a person you finally meet up

For example with Coffee Meets Bagel, it limits the frequency of you browsing through profiles, however the profiles there are generally higher quality.
For example with FB dating, there's no restriction and afaik no payment whatsoever, but the profiles there are way worse, the ratio is skewed more towards scammers/low quality profiles.

You can pay for CMB, sure, but I personally did not because I didn't want to try THAT hard, because every potential connection you make (those 9+1 put of that 100), you need to spend time and effort to try to connect. I treated the restriction as opportunity for me to take breaks.
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I don’t get any matches on cmb while I get tons of scammers and low quality girl, prove that cmb is scammer-proof

Putting my job title and education on my profile apparently didn’t help, I still get zero matches on cmb. My photo is a company mugshot and a workout photo, anything I can do to my profile more appealing ?
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post Apr 26 2023, 11:11 PM

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QUOTE(somewhataut @ Apr 26 2023, 10:57 PM)
I don’t get any matches on cmb while I get tons of scammers and low quality girl, prove that cmb is scammer-proof

Putting my job title and education on my profile apparently didn’t help, I still get zero matches on cmb. My photo is a company mugshot and a workout photo, anything I can do to my profile more appealing ?
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By company mugshot, if it looks like a passport or IC photo then that screams "boring".
Workout photos show your sweaty ass look, it's hardly good looking... I think you'd be better off writing your routine/hobby but not showing it in photo.
Selfies imply narcissism/lonesome, kinda turnoff.
Avoid topless photos unless you're looking for hookups.

Try a solo photo taken by your family/friends that you like. If you don't have then go out socialise more (don't forget to take a picture especially if you're wearing nice or the scenery is good!). That should be your main profile picture.
Add some group photos with you in it, preferably surrounded by your family/close friends. It makes you more approachable/friendly.
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QUOTE(somewhataut @ Apr 26 2023, 10:57 PM)
I don’t get any matches on cmb while I get tons of scammers and low quality girl, prove that cmb is scammer-proof

Putting my job title and education on my profile apparently didn’t help, I still get zero matches on cmb. My photo is a company mugshot and a workout photo, anything I can do to my profile more appealing ?
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Comment about a girl profile. Don't just click heart only (which usually give you nothing in return). Be patient. My friend was on the platform for 2 years+. And she's a girl.

This post has been edited by Ramjade: Apr 27 2023, 03:31 AM
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QUOTE(somewhataut @ Apr 18 2023, 12:13 AM)
hi i used free version of tinder tantan omi okcupid, my profile is a mugshot with my job title industry and edu background, my matches on tantan comprise of 95% scammer and 5% low quality girl, other apps al low quality, will paying premium help me
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For chinese, CMB is the best. Second is Bumble. Premium subscription comes with some benefits.

I have been using these apps for half a year now.

Premium on CMB lets you see if the girl is active or not. If she active and not replying you, then most likely she is not interested. CMB mostly chinese girls.

Premium on Bumble lets you rewind a profile that you left-swiped in case you had second thoughts. It also has incognito mode which only shows your profile to girls you are interested in. It's good to have some privacy with incognito to prevent your clients from seeing you (to save you from awkwardness at work). Bumble has a normal mix of chinese and malay girls which to my opinion has more attractive girls in terms appearance maybe say by 50% more than CMB.

This month experiencing dry season @ CMB, so i wrote them CMB tech support an email and they told me it wasn't a bug and they gave me 1000 free beans.
The free beans could be used to revive an old convo. Spending on Discovery is a waste because u get to swipe the profiles at a later date.

TanTan and Tinder are the worst. You get some matches but they only chat once a month.
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Holy why is the subscription for CMB is so expensive like RM80++ per month?
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QUOTE(Takudan @ Apr 26 2023, 11:11 PM)
By company mugshot, if it looks like a passport or IC photo then that screams "boring".
Workout photos show your sweaty ass look, it's hardly good looking... I think you'd be better off writing your routine/hobby but not showing it in photo.
Selfies imply narcissism/lonesome, kinda turnoff.
Avoid topless photos unless you're looking for hookups.

Try a solo photo taken by your family/friends that you like. If you don't have then go out socialise more (don't forget to take a picture especially if you're wearing nice or the scenery is good!). That should be your main profile picture.
Add some group photos with you in it, preferably surrounded by your family/close friends. It makes you more approachable/friendly.
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My mugshot is my best looking photo, I think is the filter. I do have group photos, it didn’t help, been adding a few more group photos, still zero matches.

Will paying premium help or a waste of my money?

How about lunch actually, 4k+ for two matches, for someone who gets zero matches on CMB, is it a risky investment, it sounds really unreasonable but I’m running out of choices

I will pay anyone who can help me find a gf, just suggest a channel

What is my chance to get a decent looking gf at all? 28, engineering designer, 3000sgd a month income, 166cm, a bit odd looking, is my career decent enough to cover my appearance and height
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QUOTE(Michael_Light @ Jun 14 2023, 08:28 AM)
Holy why is the subscription for CMB is so expensive like RM80++ per month?
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Speaking of expensive, Did you know the dating agency Lunch Actually charges 5k for two matches, success not even guaranteed

I’m getting zero matches on dating apps, it’s my last resort now

This post has been edited by somewhataut: Jul 4 2023, 06:52 AM
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QUOTE(somewhataut @ Jul 4 2023, 06:51 AM)
Speaking of expensive, Did you know the dating agency Lunch Actually charges 5k for two matches, success not even guaranteed

I’m getting zero matches on dating apps, it’s my last resort now
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5K?????? 2 MATCHES? SERIOUS?
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post Jul 5 2023, 02:50 AM

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QUOTE(somewhataut @ Jul 4 2023, 06:49 AM)
My mugshot is my best looking photo, I think is the filter. I do have group photos, it didn’t help, been adding a few more group photos, still zero matches.

Will paying premium help or a waste of my money?

How about lunch actually, 4k+ for two matches, for someone who gets zero matches on CMB, is it a risky investment, it sounds really unreasonable but I’m running out of choices

I will pay anyone who can help me find a gf, just suggest a channel

What is my chance to get a decent looking gf at all? 28, engineering designer, 3000sgd a month income, 166cm, a bit odd looking, is my career decent enough to cover my appearance and height
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From what you're telling me, you better save the money and work on yourself. You keep saying you're odd looking -- you don't even like your own looks, how do you expect a stranger to take interest in you at all? Say if you earn 20k per month, will you truly be happy that a girl takes an interest in you, or will you doubt that she's in for the money? Be careful when you think money attracts girls. Sure it does, but I daresay it's the wrong type of girls for long term relationships.

Few k to match 2 girls ....... "Running out of choices"? You sound way too desperate. To pay thousands for an agency(?) to feed you 2 matches who may be receiving commission or something to go out with you, I'd say totally not worth it. Then again, maybe that amount is not a big deal to you, and it's all about your personal priorities. If you think it's worth the try to gain some experience, sure, go ahead. Just don't expect success from the get go.

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