did IVF... total 50k.. tried 3 times.. third time hit jackpot and got twins.. haha

consider 66% success rate? "-_- .. lol

we did nothing radically different for each try... but i believe the doctor changed the meds for the third try...

of course we took a one year break between attempt 2 and 3 and went to have some fun vacations..

attempt 1 and 2.. we use the embryos from a single egg harvest (i forgot the exact medical term haha)... for attempt 3, it is another harvest..

we are 40 when we welcomed our twins hahaha..

anyway, ur wife needs ur support.. especially after a failure, because it feels like a miscarriage for some...

money is one thing.. but it is hard on the couple but especially hard on the wife..

we also tried for 5 years before opting for IVF since we r both getting close to 40..

we also only have grade 3 and grade 4 embryos.. (highest is grade 5)

i don think ur doctor will suggest to only implant one embryo... i believe most doctors will try to put in two.. to increase the chances.. since alot of money and effort have to be spent on "preparing" the uterus..

sometimes it is just pure luck why a couple cant get pregnant.. we also got a clean bill of health from two fertility doctors.... cant pinpoint why we cant get conceive..

of course, we slowed down our careers for the two years and took more vacation time...