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TSanilin
post Nov 25 2020, 01:36 PM

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QUOTE(achong09 @ Nov 25 2020, 07:14 AM)
wah lau wei... why u like married man meh?
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What should I do now?
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post Nov 25 2020, 01:58 PM

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QUOTE(anilin @ Nov 25 2020, 01:36 PM)
What should I do now?
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Find single man. Here got a lot
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post Nov 25 2020, 03:20 PM

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QUOTE(anilin @ Nov 21 2020, 09:31 PM)
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He will share to me many info and case studies related to our field of studies.. Helped in my academic somehow...but he seems got other intention behind the sharing.
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QUOTE(anilin @ Nov 21 2020, 11:04 PM)
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I'm thinking about quit talking to him, but somehow I feel I need him for some advantages in my academic. Are we taking advantages of each other?
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You know what's the situation. There's no free meal in this world. The more you accept favours/ help from him, the more you'll feel compelled to reciprocate - meaning, to accept or agree to the "simple" things he ask of you.

I'm sure you can find someone else to help with your Academics. Pretty sure you don't need him. Part of you wanted to cling on him for some reason, and imo, using academics as an excuse maybe? Imagine if he didn't appear in your life at all. How would you handle your Academics? Are you going to flunk it?

If you can sense the other person has ulterior motive and yet, you still accept his help/ favour and advances, then it's obvious what road you have chosen.

Otherwise if you're really not interested,
- just cut down the chatting and go straight to academics
- whenever he flirts, just avoid it and divert straight back to main topic
- reduce the frequency of chatting with him
- show that you're disinterested in his advances
- turn him down
- discourage whenever he makes a move
- lastly, casually point out that he's married with kids and that he should stop all these flings for the sake of his family

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post Nov 25 2020, 05:23 PM

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ts obviously finding people to validate her actions in case something does happen between her and the guy and she wont feel bad about it.

the moment that guy flirt/xxx chat and ts selamba saja, means anything can happen in future.
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post Nov 25 2020, 06:19 PM

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QUOTE(sweet_pez @ Nov 25 2020, 03:20 PM)


Otherwise if you're really not interested,
- just cut down the chatting and go straight to academics
- whenever he flirts, just avoid it and divert straight back to main topic
- reduce the frequency of chatting with him
- show that you're disinterested in his advances
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But its so obvious that TS is interested

But anyway seems there are different state and so long as they don't meet up for a fling.. It's just all talk and no action so does not consider as affairs
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post Nov 25 2020, 06:22 PM

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He is trying his luck with TS


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post Nov 25 2020, 06:28 PM

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QUOTE(cfa28 @ Nov 25 2020, 06:19 PM)
But its so obvious that TS is interested

But anyway seems there are different state and so long as they don't meet up for a fling.. It's just all talk and no action so does not consider as affairs
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On this... there are different school of thoughts imo.

Some feel that emotionally involved is also considered cheating. Example, even if they couldn't meet physically and be intimate, doing so over the phone (flirting, love talk) etc emotionally - it's also cheating. So whether she flirted back or not - only TS will know. On the other hand, whether the guy misinterpreted her friendliess or took advantage of TS's situation - this is another question mark.

Also, my suspicion only... TS may not have been entirely honest about the situation. Probably start to feel some sort of guilt that the guy has a family, and yet, still somewhat interested in him.
TSanilin
post Nov 26 2020, 08:16 AM

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QUOTE(sweet_pez @ Nov 25 2020, 06:28 PM)
On this... there are different school of thoughts imo.

Some feel that emotionally involved is also considered cheating. Example, even if they couldn't meet physically and be intimate, doing so over the phone (flirting, love talk) etc emotionally - it's also cheating. So whether she flirted back or not - only TS will know. On the other hand, whether the guy misinterpreted her friendliess or took advantage of TS's situation - this is another question mark.

Also, my suspicion only... TS may not have been entirely honest about the situation. Probably start to feel some sort of guilt that the guy has a family, and yet, still somewhat interested in him.
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Ya true.. I flirted back and advanced.. He videocall me mostly in the afternoon but i only answered couple of times. Yeap, he asked for more, horny talk, etc.. Then same time he could switch back to serious topics about our academics.. Partly I'm attracted to him also he's good looking. Well he did admit he's "naughty" and often look for flings and flirts.... I am wondering whether he gonna confess his status or not someday. I stalked his FB he got post his Kid's photos recently...

QUOTE(tomato people @ Nov 25 2020, 06:22 PM)
He is trying his luck with TS
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True... He approached me back in many months ago.. Only recently he tried his luck further. Previously i dint reject, but he dint advance too! Weird. Probably he got other flings that time.. Well we have been chatting almost everyday for past 4 months..

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post Nov 26 2020, 08:23 AM

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women chg after marriage. period
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post Nov 26 2020, 10:00 AM

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Hehe. Ts finally admit she is hoping for fling. See good looking talk hamsap no issue. Faceproblem talk hamsap, ppl will feel disgusting.

At the end of day it depend on your own code of conduct or standard. My code of conduct, never touch married ppl. Many trees out there.
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post Nov 29 2020, 05:06 AM

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QUOTE(anilin @ Nov 21 2020, 08:39 PM)
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Haha. late 30s considered aunties ya? Still single and hot yo.
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kesian 30s still not married yet.
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post Nov 29 2020, 05:45 AM

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QUOTE(godhand @ Nov 26 2020, 08:23 AM)
women chg after marriage. period
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expand u mean?
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post Nov 29 2020, 10:02 AM

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TS,

U already chat daily with him for 4 months. So, it is very hard for you to stop now. Him being good looking, smart, flirty and you yourself needs help with your study and is loving the attention he giving is not helping you to stop contact with him now.

Just imagine the victims in this situation. His wife and kids. You are playing with fire and u are very clear on this. You really enjoy the thrills and excitement of this game. You can continue doing what u doing now, but pls be clear of the consequence of your action to the innocent victims in this situation.

I very very pity those people who don't know their husband/wife is having affairs (emotionally or physically). They really trust their other half so much. You and him enjoying and got people suffering. Find other single guys. There are plenty of them for u to flirt with.

I know u will continue chatting with him as the bond is already strong. But i hope u know that both of u are causing misery to another woman+ kids.
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post Nov 29 2020, 04:55 PM

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QUOTE(IpohGuyz @ Nov 26 2020, 10:00 AM)
Hehe. Ts finally admit she is hoping for fling. See good looking talk hamsap no issue. Faceproblem talk hamsap, ppl will feel disgusting.

At the end of day it depend on your own code of conduct or standard. My code of conduct, never touch married ppl. Many trees out there.
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Aberden. LOL

Did you actually think women are innocent and demure ?


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post Nov 29 2020, 08:22 PM

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QUOTE(carini @ Nov 29 2020, 10:02 AM)
TS,

U already chat daily with him for 4 months. So, it is very hard for you to stop now. Him being good looking, smart, flirty and you yourself needs help with your study and is loving the attention he giving is not helping you to stop contact with him now.

Just imagine the victims in this situation. His wife and kids. You are playing with fire and u are very clear on this. You really enjoy the thrills and excitement of this game. You can continue doing what u doing now, but pls be clear of the consequence of your action to the innocent victims in this situation.

I very very pity those people who don't know their husband/wife is having affairs (emotionally or physically). They really trust their other half so much. You and him enjoying and got people suffering. Find other single guys. There are plenty of them for u to flirt with.

I know u will continue chatting with him as the bond is already strong. But i hope u know that both of u are causing misery to another woman+ kids.
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I'm unsure he's still attached to the wife or not.. I asked several times and he still confessed he's single... If he got a wife, how he able to chit chat with girls all the time? Well, he did admit he likes looking for flings and flirts...
We have made it clear too, we will not go further, just academic assistance, assignment partner, same time some flirts to chill out...

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post Nov 29 2020, 08:49 PM

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It takes 2 to tango. He likes to flirt and u too love the attention. Really hope he is single and u yet to ask about the kids photo that he posted.

How he able find time to chat with girls all the time? Well, if one wants to cheat, they can and will find the way.

Hope you know when to stop if one day u find out that he is a married man.
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post Dec 1 2020, 10:54 PM

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QUOTE(IpohGuyz @ Nov 26 2020, 10:00 AM)
See good looking talk hamsap no issue. Faceproblem talk hamsap, ppl will feel disgusting.
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Naturally la. Only the most niche guys will drive 30 miles for this one


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My guess is TS likes the company, and the flirting, and she has nothing else that is a good catch at the moment or around her that meets her standards.


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post Dec 3 2020, 08:22 PM

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QUOTE(ChaosXP @ Dec 1 2020, 10:54 PM)
Naturally la. Only the most niche guys will drive 30 miles for this one
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My guess is TS likes the company, and the flirting, and she has nothing else that is a good catch at the moment or around her that meets her standards.
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Probably. Enjoyed the thrill when talking out of topics, once a while, probably once a week only....
But I feel kinda weird that after all the mushy talks, the next moment he could just suddenly be so serious to get back to our academic topis..... I believe he is just horny or just enjoy to tease and get girls attentions.
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He never asked about my background in fact, where I worked etc.. Wouldn't a guy feel curious who this girl is and wouldnt he go Facebook to stalk me in the first place? However, I assume he had looked me up in Facebook though...

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post Dec 4 2020, 02:40 AM

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QUOTE(blackpink @ Nov 29 2020, 05:06 AM)
kesian 30s still not married yet.
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post Dec 4 2020, 12:31 PM

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QUOTE(anilin @ Dec 3 2020, 08:22 PM)
Probably. Enjoyed the thrill when talking out of topics, once a while, probably once a week only.... 
But I feel kinda weird that after all the mushy talks, the next moment he could just suddenly be so serious to get back to our academic topis.....  I believe he is just horny or just enjoy to tease and get girls attentions.
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He never asked about my background in fact, where I worked etc.. Wouldn't a guy feel curious who this girl is and wouldnt he go Facebook to stalk me in the first place? However, I assume he had looked me up in Facebook though...
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There's a lot of assumption can be made.

1. That guy got split personality.
2. Whenever he ask about academic, actually he just deleted the mushy talk. Because his wife check his phone mah.
3. He's a kaki tengok drama one. Trying to act like in drama.
4. Yaa just horny. Hahaha

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