Part of the reason yes. But I am still sane yet.
Don't you think it's so pathetic when the husband literally goes behind her back, flirts around with girls most of the time.
Anyways... none of my business though. Let it ends.

It's inappropriate on many levels for the husband and I'm sure if you were to sleep with him he'd welcome with arms wide open but all you guys did were flirt? It ain't wrong, just inappropriate. And don't feel pity to the wife

why don't feel pity to the wife?

I didn't really respond well to his flirts initially. But there are times I did give him some compliments to return his favors. At times we did have arguments too, regarding our assignments etc. etc. Our last conversation was actually having some dispute over certain matter. Right now we are assigned to different groups, so basically we won't be interacting.

This post has been edited by anilin: Dec 20 2020, 12:52 PM

Cause we're outsiders no matter what unless you been in her shoe, which I'm guessing you don't want to. Probably the guy's a seriel fukboi just flirt anything that moves hoping to get lucky. When things didn't go as plan or reciprocated like in your case, they usually change their persona instantaneously with noticeable drop in patience. At least in different group now

Personally speaking, I would be tempted too... I have had my fair share of being approached by "pretend-to-not-be-married" or "married-and-secretly-looking" guys on platforms like BeSmitten, TanTan and Paktor.

I try to make it explicitly clear upfront that I will not entertain approaches by married guys. But undoubtedly they will still come.

So my regular turn-off trick, is to keep bringing up questions e.g. "How is your wife doing?", "What did you do with your wife and kids today?". Sooner or later, they eventually get the hint.

I try not to wreck their home affairs directly, since I don't know what kind of situation is happening at home. But I try to send plenty of signals that married guys will not be entertained by me. Anyway, there are plenty of other girls on dating platforms who will go for married guys, so if he really needs to eat outside the home, he can look elsewhere without disturbing you.

Ya I did so actually! During valentines day I did asked him go get something nice for his loved one..then every now and then I'll ask him is he married? Why he wear ring? I guess he probably got my hint as well... Well, you may ask why I were still talking to him? Like you mentioned, tempted to do so, but once I'd double confirmed his married status, I seriously called it off, though I'll still miss him around. Almost half a year we had been talking every single day and night without miss. Somehow will develop sorta dependency right...

This post has been edited by anilin: Dec 20 2020, 09:41 PM

why not? I had a friend he chased a Lady who is also 4 years older than him. Both of them are colleagues, the guy has a Fiance,
He told me how exotic is the experience. Although the Lady know he is a married man, but she can't help to stop contacting him. She likes being with him. He gave her satisfaction and exotic experience, she enjoyed

Definitely, especially for those who just left a long term relationship or being single for long time, the more you want if the harder it gets, the attention, love and lust that you never felt before, there is no right or wrong for going after what you want but beware of the consequences, the risk and reward

This post has been edited by oOoproz: Dec 21 2020, 01:36 AM

I can totally relate

they came to me without my knowledge...
ya, I had stopped, but I cannot stop more coming...

Regret of?

It's not right to chat with a married man. There are more single, and available men out there.

the more important is how she felt,
she feels like married men have higher social status/proof hence she cant help herself but get attracted to him. Ive yet talk about moral issue following by this.

I'll refrain from talking to married man, from now onwards.
I consider myself as unlucky.. Only able to attract perverts, married one somemore. If they were here for a healthy friendship, I wont mind. But I believe they were somehow having issues with their spouses, thus, spending most of their time talking nonsense to other ladies..

This post has been edited by anilin: Jan 21 2021, 12:29 AM

Just usual chit chat is fine right?

just avoid one-to-one hang out is usually fine

What if the guy started to flirt around?

just tell him right on face this is inappropriate
usually guys get the hint unless if he was retarded
sue to HR for harassment if worsen.

If its "just" chit chat, sure, its fine. More often than not its something else.

Do you know how to tell the difference?

Most females are aware they can resist a man's offer to 'go forward', or maybe they are not happy with their life or current significance so they try to justify a way to mean, 'look, he's the one who tries to seduce to me, im innocent leh'

Guilty as charged.