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TSbeeMay
post Oct 17 2020, 10:57 PM, updated 4w ago

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Do you completely pause your dating effort during COVID-19?
Are you scared that you will contract the virus when meeting your date?

Sometimes I do feel like Im getting older, and this year went by without me trying to find any partner and i can foresee until mid 2021 I for sure will still be single. Sometimes this thought haunts me lol

How bout u all?
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post Oct 17 2020, 10:58 PM

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online dating?
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post Oct 17 2020, 11:39 PM

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Online movie date? Saw few of my friends did that
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post Oct 18 2020, 12:15 AM

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How old are you first? Unless if you are pass 35 or even 40, there is always enough time to find your partner.
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post Oct 18 2020, 12:25 AM

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My friend said this is actually the best time to be on dating sites, because everyone is online now. Maybe you can try and see. Only thing is that you will have a large backlog of dates queued up I suppose.
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post Oct 18 2020, 03:13 AM

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QUOTE(beeMay @ Oct 17 2020, 10:57 PM)
Do you completely pause your dating effort during COVID-19?
Are you scared that you will contract the virus when meeting your date?

Sometimes I do feel like Im getting older, and this year went by without me trying to find any partner and i can foresee until mid 2021 I for sure will still be single. Sometimes this thought haunts me lol

How bout u all?
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post Oct 18 2020, 05:33 AM

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Online dating is infested with married people pretending to be single. Dating life is non existent this year
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post Oct 18 2020, 09:58 AM

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Maybe give lowyat love classified a try? Well almost a decade ago, I found my bf, now he's my husband of 2 years here. Never try, never know right?
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post Oct 18 2020, 10:06 AM

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QUOTE(Baconateer @ Oct 17 2020, 10:58 PM)
online dating?
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QUOTE(Captain89 @ Oct 17 2020, 11:39 PM)
Online movie date? Saw few of my friends did that
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QUOTE(flying_manatee @ Oct 18 2020, 12:25 AM)
My friend said this is actually the best time to be on dating sites, because everyone is online now. Maybe you can try and see. Only thing is that you will have a large backlog of dates queued up I suppose.
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the result not too good for me, just got few guys match with me
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post Oct 18 2020, 12:22 PM

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Try this, looks fun..

A Zoom Date!

I kind of want to try this out myself since i saw this video.


This post has been edited by windvind: Oct 19 2020, 08:40 AM
flying_manatee
post Oct 18 2020, 12:42 PM

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QUOTE(CheerL @ Oct 18 2020, 10:06 AM)
the result not too good for me, just got few guys match with me
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Which app did you use?
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post Oct 18 2020, 02:18 PM

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just went for a date last night, everything resumed as normal, with or without covid, the only difference is some of the places are closed and the time max until 10pm, its not a total lockdown so its still possible, lots of people still out there doing their activity, mingle with friends in cafe, restaurant, etc
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post Oct 18 2020, 02:33 PM

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QUOTE(flying_manatee @ Oct 18 2020, 12:42 PM)
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post Oct 18 2020, 03:16 PM

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QUOTE(CheerL @ Oct 18 2020, 02:33 PM)
Tinder and CMB
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Tinder super lot of weird guys (assuming u are a girl). CMB better, but u need to put effort into writing the profile as ppl actually read it.

My friend got a bf from there and very happy now!
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post Oct 18 2020, 09:59 PM

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QUOTE(Sasuke95 @ Oct 18 2020, 02:18 PM)
just went for a date last night, everything resumed as normal, with or without covid, the only difference is some of the places are closed and the time max until 10pm, its not a total lockdown so its still possible, lots of people still out there doing their activity, mingle with friends in cafe, restaurant, etc
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Is it the manager from your client office? Is she your date?
QUOTE(flying_manatee @ Oct 18 2020, 03:16 PM)
Tinder super lot of weird guys (assuming u are a girl). CMB better, but u need to put effort into writing the profile as ppl actually read it.

My friend got a bf from there and very happy now!
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Do u mean CMB?
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post Oct 18 2020, 10:18 PM

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QUOTE(Zoo Howl @ Oct 18 2020, 09:59 PM)
Is it the manager from your client office? Is she your date?

Do u mean CMB?
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Yea I mean CMB. Overall it has a higher success rate from what I see.
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post Oct 18 2020, 10:48 PM

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QUOTE(flying_manatee @ Oct 18 2020, 10:18 PM)
Yea I mean CMB. Overall it has a higher success rate from what I see.
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I got match from there but the girl kept quiet never reply... ended up the chat room is expire and can no longer chat
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post Oct 19 2020, 12:57 AM

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QUOTE(Zoo Howl @ Oct 18 2020, 09:59 PM)
Is it the manager from your client office? Is she your date?
nope, new one, with the current condition it'd be wiser she remain close with her hubby and avoid contact outside
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QUOTE(Sasuke95 @ Oct 19 2020, 12:57 AM)
nope, new one, with the current condition it'd be wiser she remain close with her hubby and avoid contact outside
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How is it? After the date, did u guys ended up in hotel room?

I bet u still miss that manager client of yours. Especially after giving birth, plenty of milk
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post Oct 19 2020, 01:57 AM

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QUOTE(Zoo Howl @ Oct 19 2020, 12:59 AM)
How is it? After the date, did u guys ended up in hotel room?

I bet u still miss that manager client of yours. Especially after giving birth, plenty of milk
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wtf man its just first date with the new one, hotel is out of the question, takes some time to let it happen naturally

yup miss the manager
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post Oct 19 2020, 10:14 AM

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QUOTE(Sasuke95 @ Oct 19 2020, 01:57 AM)
wtf man its just first date with the new one, hotel is out of the question, takes some time to let it happen naturally

yup miss the manager
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Haha because in my eyes, u are a pro, first date already can bed her. Hopefully it will happened on your second date
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post Oct 20 2020, 10:32 AM

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QUOTE(flying_manatee @ Oct 18 2020, 03:16 PM)
Tinder super lot of weird guys (assuming u are a girl). CMB better, but u need to put effort into writing the profile as ppl actually read it.

My friend got a bf from there and very happy now!
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post Oct 20 2020, 02:15 PM

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QUOTE(Sasuke95 @ Oct 18 2020, 02:18 PM)
just went for a date last night, everything resumed as normal, with or without covid, the only difference is some of the places are closed and the time max until 10pm, its not a total lockdown so its still possible, lots of people still out there doing their activity, mingle with friends in cafe, restaurant, etc
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do you stay at least 1m apart from your date?
do you guys wear mask all the time? im curious actually since our date should be strangers that we don't know how his/her condition
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post Oct 20 2020, 02:17 PM

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QUOTE(flying_manatee @ Oct 18 2020, 03:16 PM)
Tinder super lot of weird guys (assuming u are a girl). CMB better, but u need to put effort into writing the profile as ppl actually read it.

My friend got a bf from there and very happy now!
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oh wow i didnt know that lol maybe i will try CMB again cause last time i didnt write anything in my CMB profile
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post Oct 20 2020, 08:29 PM

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QUOTE(beeMay @ Oct 20 2020, 02:17 PM)
oh wow i didnt know that lol maybe i will try CMB again cause last time i didnt write anything in my CMB profile
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Yea you have to, else no matter how pretty you are, people will think you are a bot!
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post Oct 22 2020, 02:29 AM

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QUOTE(beeMay @ Oct 20 2020, 02:15 PM)
do you stay at least 1m apart from your date?
do you guys wear mask all the time? im curious actually since our date should be strangers that we don't know how his/her condition
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Youre being too paranoid, just follow sop adequately you should be fine, only remove mask during eating, and fully remove, don't let it hand under your chin or whatever, seen too many times and still burns my eyes

And while wearing, cover full but not exposed the nose, covering only mouth, it defeats the purpose, seen too many times too.

Basically firstly just handle the mask properly, and hands don't touch anywhere near face, it'll be fine, else i kena long ago dy, don't be afraid, just go out do your usual things, just 1 extra step to take care of, which is sop.
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post Oct 24 2020, 12:17 AM

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During MCO and then now CMCO, I broke up.
It gave me alot of time to communicate with myself.
I guess I better off being single.

Ok aside from that, just follow SOP and go out once a week will do.
You gotta live the new normal.
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post Oct 24 2020, 04:11 PM

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Get a dating apps like SB, it is good for u, i also using it as well
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post Oct 30 2020, 12:50 PM

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QUOTE(CheerL @ Oct 18 2020, 02:33 PM)
Tinder and CMB
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CMB free?
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post Oct 30 2020, 04:56 PM

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i have improved my text game ten fold during the pandemic
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post Oct 30 2020, 08:34 PM

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QUOTE(Lyu @ Oct 30 2020, 12:50 PM)
CMB free?
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shd be free also
you were asked to pay with CMB?
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QUOTE(beeMay @ Oct 30 2020, 08:34 PM)
shd be free also
you were  asked to pay with CMB?
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I haven't tried
Dont want later like paktor, pay to unlock chat
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post Oct 30 2020, 08:54 PM

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QUOTE(Lyu @ Oct 30 2020, 08:45 PM)
I haven't tried
Dont want later like paktor, pay to unlock chat
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it shd be free
but just that CMB is very slow burn, not like tinder u can swipe n swipe cause they are designed so that you take time to read profile n think
so per day i can swipe like only 5 ppl, if want more, have to pay.
if we like each other then can chat
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post Oct 31 2020, 12:48 AM

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erm.. we still can go to mall actually.
Just that cinema is closed temporary.
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post Oct 31 2020, 06:07 PM

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You can organize lowyat speed dating. Set a date and time at a cafe or cozy place. Then open a thread and invite singles.

All sit on separate tables, only 2 pax per table. Give like 10 minute per session, then change partner. Of course there will be other customers, so don’t be shy that people know your group is speed dating. Treat it as a fun game.


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post Oct 31 2020, 06:10 PM

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QUOTE(J1g54w @ Oct 31 2020, 06:07 PM)
You can organize lowyat speed dating. Set a date and time at a cafe or cozy place. Then open a thread and invite singles.

All sit on separate tables, only 2 pax per table. Give like 10 minute per session, then change partner. Of course there will be other customers, so don’t be shy that people know your group is speed dating. Treat it as a fun game.
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i think you are the one who wants this haha
why not u organise

i wont join tho
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post Oct 31 2020, 06:14 PM

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QUOTE(beeMay @ Oct 31 2020, 06:10 PM)
i think you are the one who wants this haha
why not u organise

i wont join tho
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i’m not single, so no
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QUOTE(J1g54w @ Oct 31 2020, 06:14 PM)
i’m not single, so no
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u can organise and not participate
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QUOTE(beeMay @ Oct 31 2020, 06:14 PM)
u can organise and not participate
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nah, i have better things to do, and i’m not the one looking for date
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post Oct 31 2020, 08:05 PM

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QUOTE(J1g54w @ Oct 31 2020, 06:07 PM)
You can organize lowyat speed dating. Set a date and time at a cafe or cozy place. Then open a thread and invite singles.

All sit on separate tables, only 2 pax per table. Give like 10 minute per session, then change partner. Of course there will be other customers, so don’t be shy that people know your group is speed dating. Treat it as a fun game.
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No a good idea haha, who wants to be revealed when you can choose to be anonymous like now. Not like speed dating will guarantee a date
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QUOTE(Captain89 @ Oct 31 2020, 08:05 PM)
No a good idea haha, who wants to be revealed when you can choose to be anonymous like now. Not like speed dating will guarantee a date
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anonymous and? date online? never meet??
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mco makes me poor, what else can I do, I need to support my family? i only can find sugardady to support me.
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QUOTE(donnysen @ Nov 3 2020, 08:42 PM)
mco makes me poor, what else can I do, I need to support my family? i only can find sugardady to support me.
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sugardaddy?? u r a lady ka?
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QUOTE(beeMay @ Oct 30 2020, 08:54 PM)
it shd be free
but just that CMB is very slow burn, not like tinder u can swipe n swipe cause they are designed so that you take time to read profile n think
so per day i can swipe like only 5 ppl, if want more, have to pay.
if we like each other then can chat
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ya,it's free and better than tinder if you really looking for something serious, just my opinion
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QUOTE(CheerL @ Nov 8 2020, 11:11 AM)
ya,it's free and better than tinder if you really looking for something serious, just my opinion
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Yup i guess so
I tried cmb few months back and because i was curious i start free trial for premium to see who likes me
All im not attracted to at all, so i deleted my cmb account 😂
I have face problem, dont think i will succeed in any dating app
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QUOTE(beeMay @ Nov 8 2020, 12:40 PM)
Yup i guess so
I tried cmb few months back and because i was curious i start free trial for premium to see who likes me
All im not attracted to at all, so i deleted my cmb account 😂
I have face problem, dont think i will succeed in any dating app
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Same here,i'm abit below average and can't get match too
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post Nov 8 2020, 02:27 PM

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I've been trying CMB since June, quite some pauses for several months and now continuing again. I've seen quite some people that I like to talk to in the "Spiritual but not religious" category but not in the actual religion category itself.

2020 is hard to get someone to talk to. sad.gif
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QUOTE(beeMay @ Nov 8 2020, 12:40 PM)
Yup i guess so
I tried cmb few months back and because i was curious i start free trial for premium to see who likes me
All im not attracted to at all, so i deleted my cmb account 😂
I have face problem, dont think i will succeed in any dating app
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Face problem not really an issue. If not overweight, a girl rarely have face problem
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QUOTE(CheerL @ Nov 8 2020, 11:11 AM)
ya,it's free and better than tinder if you really looking for something serious, just my opinion
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QUOTE(beeMay @ Nov 8 2020, 12:40 PM)
Yup i guess so
I tried cmb few months back and because i was curious i start free trial for premium to see who likes me
All im not attracted to at all, so i deleted my cmb account 😂
I have face problem, dont think i will succeed in any dating app
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I think unless you really look really bad, otherwise, i dun think looks really is a strong deterrent, esp for guys that are kinda looking for long term.
Your profile and your pictures plays a role in portraying your personality.
Little texts? Ppl may presume you to be non-chatty and they may feel pressured to sustain a conversation. (it's real tiring when trying to strike a convo, and the opposing party is not dancing along, only offering one liners)
Cheerful pictures, happy pictures of you, generates a positive feeling. You may not be cheerful all the time, but it's equally exhausting if you constantly negative. my barber is a constantly negative person and even tho it's a short session, just like 20 mins of haircut, but he can complain for full 20 mins. I kid you not. It's really exhausting to my mental. Also went out with a girl before. When trying to understand each other more, all that I can feel from her was, sad life, dissatisfaction, yet very little effort in trying to escape that loop. complain about job, complain about life, but expecting miracle for things to turn out better. instant turn off.
Pictures of you doing your favorite things helps. You like coffee? display a pic of you enjoying yourself in a cafe. Like outdoor activity? take a pic of you taking hiking.
But if you put a lot of atas pics (like all also overseas pic, of snowy mountains and etc, or fancy high end restaurants), be prepared that you have established a lifestyle filter. More down to earth or slightly lower income guys will just pass you by.
So a lot can be done to create your online persona, and who do you intend to attract.
Me myself i like average looking girls.. like from the scale of 0-10 (10 being prettiest, but 10 dun exists in my dict, so does 0), i prefer 4-7. Like 8 kinda gets the disqualify d. and celebrities maybe at 9, with insta pretty at 8. So i definitely dun like those pretty pretty ones. I think it's the girl next door type that gives the most.. individualistic feel. After all, every little imperfections truly defines you for you.
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QUOTE(chunhoecch @ Nov 8 2020, 02:27 PM)
I've been trying CMB since June, quite some pauses for several months and now continuing again. I've seen quite some people that I like to talk to in the "Spiritual but not religious" category but not in the actual religion category itself.

2020 is hard to get someone to talk to. sad.gif
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i mean..isnt ever since we redefine socialising with digital interaction, it has been hard to get someone around our age to talk to
unless of course if you wanna talk to aunty and uncle at the market, then that should be easy
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QUOTE(tctham @ Nov 9 2020, 11:28 AM)
I think unless you really look really bad, otherwise, i dun think looks really is a strong deterrent, esp for guys that are kinda looking for long term.
Your profile and your pictures plays a role in portraying your personality.
Little texts? Ppl may presume you to be non-chatty and they may feel pressured to sustain a conversation. (it's real tiring when trying to strike a convo, and the opposing party is not dancing along, only offering one liners)
Cheerful pictures, happy pictures of you, generates a positive feeling. You may not be cheerful all the time, but it's equally exhausting if you constantly negative. my barber is a constantly negative person and even tho it's a short session, just like 20 mins of haircut, but he can complain for full 20 mins. I kid you not. It's really exhausting to my mental. Also went out with a girl before. When trying to understand each other more, all that I can feel from her was, sad life, dissatisfaction, yet very little effort in trying to escape that loop. complain about job, complain about life, but expecting miracle for things to turn out better. instant turn off.
Pictures of you doing your favorite things helps. You like coffee? display a pic of you enjoying yourself in a cafe. Like outdoor activity? take a pic of you taking hiking.
But if you put a lot of atas pics (like all also overseas pic, of snowy mountains and etc, or fancy high end restaurants), be prepared that you have established a lifestyle filter. More down to earth or slightly lower income guys will just pass you by.
So a lot can be done to create your online persona, and who do you intend to attract.
Me myself i like average looking girls.. like from the scale of 0-10 (10 being prettiest, but 10 dun exists in my dict, so does 0), i prefer 4-7. Like 8 kinda gets the disqualify d. and celebrities maybe at 9, with insta pretty at 8. So i definitely dun like those pretty pretty ones. I think it's the girl next door type that gives the most.. individualistic feel. After all, every little imperfections truly defines you for you.
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hm ok my definition of my prev post is that :
i got likes
but the people who likes me are unattractive
so i deleted my account because i think ppl who i deserve are unattractive lol

*by unattractive, that includes physically and personality-wise (as in their description) like overweight (complete turn off for me because im not overweight), from their profile can read they hate their life and (just like you mentioned) loves complaining, very negative people etc.

maybe this is a sign im not supposed to get anyone at the moment? maybe in future? maybe never? anyhow i been quite accepting with this fact lol but thanks for the suggestions!
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QUOTE(beeMay @ Nov 9 2020, 12:45 PM)
i mean..isnt ever since we redefine socialising with digital interaction, it has been hard to get someone around our age to talk to
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People have matches because they have better personalities and fate. It's not really hard, the issue here is those people looking for friends aren't actually talking when getting matched.
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feel like back to those days

MIRC , ICQ , MSN days
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QUOTE(shinchan^^ @ Nov 10 2020, 02:57 PM)
feel like back to those days

MIRC , ICQ , MSN days
lmao

asl pls
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yeah i feel like back then is so much better
without fb, without IG
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QUOTE(beeMay @ Oct 17 2020, 10:57 PM)
Do you completely pause your dating effort during COVID-19?
Are you scared that you will contract the virus when meeting your date?

Sometimes I do feel like Im getting older, and this year went by without me trying to find any partner and i can foresee until mid 2021 I for sure will still be single. Sometimes this thought haunts me lol

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QUOTE(tctham @ Nov 9 2020, 11:28 AM)
I think unless you really look really bad, otherwise, i dun think looks really is a strong deterrent, esp for guys that are kinda looking for long term.
Your profile and your pictures plays a role in portraying your personality.
Little texts? Ppl may presume you to be non-chatty and they may feel pressured to sustain a conversation. (it's real tiring when trying to strike a convo, and the opposing party is not dancing along, only offering one liners)
Cheerful pictures, happy pictures of you, generates a positive feeling. You may not be cheerful all the time, but it's equally exhausting if you constantly negative. my barber is a constantly negative person and even tho it's a short session, just like 20 mins of haircut, but he can complain for full 20 mins. I kid you not. It's really exhausting to my mental. Also went out with a girl before. When trying to understand each other more, all that I can feel from her was, sad life, dissatisfaction, yet very little effort in trying to escape that loop. complain about job, complain about life, but expecting miracle for things to turn out better. instant turn off.
Pictures of you doing your favorite things helps. You like coffee? display a pic of you enjoying yourself in a cafe. Like outdoor activity? take a pic of you taking hiking.
But if you put a lot of atas pics (like all also overseas pic, of snowy mountains and etc, or fancy high end restaurants), be prepared that you have established a lifestyle filter. More down to earth or slightly lower income guys will just pass you by.
So a lot can be done to create your online persona, and who do you intend to attract.
Me myself i like average looking girls.. like from the scale of 0-10 (10 being prettiest, but 10 dun exists in my dict, so does 0), i prefer 4-7. Like 8 kinda gets the disqualify d. and celebrities maybe at 9, with insta pretty at 8. So i definitely dun like those pretty pretty ones. I think it's the girl next door type that gives the most.. individualistic feel. After all, every little imperfections truly defines you for you.
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Well said, haha. Basically dating apps in a nutshell! Can I be your friend? smile.gif


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post Nov 11 2020, 09:08 AM

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QUOTE(zt19 @ Nov 11 2020, 03:43 AM)
Well said, haha. Basically dating apps in a nutshell! Can I be your friend? smile.gif
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Haha sure thing, but just wanna upfront highlight, i'm married d. haha
zt19
post Nov 12 2020, 10:15 AM

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QUOTE(tctham @ Nov 11 2020, 09:08 AM)
Haha sure thing, but just wanna upfront highlight, i'm married d. haha
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Hahah Wah, so honest, plus extra brownie points! Congrats congrats! 🍾
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post Nov 13 2020, 12:26 AM

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QUOTE(beeMay @ Oct 17 2020, 10:57 PM)
Do you completely pause your dating effort during COVID-19?
Are you scared that you will contract the virus when meeting your date?

Sometimes I do feel like Im getting older, and this year went by without me trying to find any partner and i can foresee until mid 2021 I for sure will still be single. Sometimes this thought haunts me lol

How bout u all?
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LOL i date with sugerbuk, my effort never paused tongue.gif
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post Nov 13 2020, 05:41 PM

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QUOTE(Danq @ Nov 13 2020, 12:26 AM)
LOL i date with sugerbuk, my effort never paused  tongue.gif
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Isnt that app illegal?

 

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