QUOTE(bidu88 @ Dec 15 2020, 05:20 PM)
Hi TS, I really like your posts, they are so informative. Can you tell me when a person should seek counselling?
I got asked to leave my job in June citing my poor work performance and that due to the pandemic, my boss could not afford to give me another chance. That was my first job and only been 1.5 years. Since then I have been feeling really down and have low confidence; esp since I always got good grades at school, went to a good uni and the company I worked at is a top company in the industry. There was a period of time I slept a lot and didn't take care of myself and would just eat junks all day. I realised that I may be depressed and so I started going to fitness classes with my friends and see my friends more. It has gotten better since but sometimes at night, the negative feelings just eat me up from the inside and I just feel like such a failure. Sometimes I wish a lorry would just crash into my car when I am driving so that I can put an end to all these negative feelings. It's so embarrassing to be asked to resign and I only told a handful of people because, I feel so stupid and a failure.
But there are also days I just feel fine and happy and optimistic. I feel like talking to a counsellor but they are very expensive, about 250 per session, which I cannot afford atm as I am currently unemployed. I am just wondering if counselling is necessary in my case.
Thanks in advance.
Hi Bidu88,
I'm happy that you liked my posts. Thanks for the encouragement!
From your post, I've identified 2 questions. (1) is about counseling fees and the necessity to go for them, and (2) is about if you have depression.
(1) Is it necessary to go for counseling? Fees are expensive.I do agree with you that therapy sessions may cost quite a bit, and the fees you quoted are about right. Your concerns are common among people considering therapy. As such, a lot of developments has been happening in research on therapies in making them more efficient and time-limited.
Short-term therapy (within the range of 6-12 sessions) has shown significant effects on a person's depression. I attempted to link you to research articles, but you'd most likely encounter a paywall to read them, so I suppose you'd just have to trust the words of a psychologist, lol.
An important part of therapy will be goal-setting. If you have cost limitations and would like targeted goals to achieve (e.g. I want to lower my depression and then stop therapy in 8 sessions), that is something that you can bring up with your therapist. A good therapist should be able to collaborate with you on goal-setting, which includes cost as part of the consideration.
At 8 sessions, the total bill will come up to RM2000.
Let's consider the value of RM2000.
If you did not receive treatment and instead persist in an episode of depression for at least, say, 6 months. It would mean that you are trading RM2000 for 6 months of feeling lousy.
So in this case, we'd have to weigh if it is worthwhile to go through 6 months of depression as opposed to paying RM2000 for therapy sessions to address it (with a good therapist).
We'd also want to take into consideration that while depressed, we tend to lose professional productivity (lose money) or perform avoidance coping (such as impulse purchases, binge eating, substance use - lose money... and health).
I understand that the cost to treatment is still expensive for most people. I do not have a good answer to that, as this is a systemic issue that is a mix of policy, economics, etc.
But, if you're feeling depressed or anxious that it is affecting your life, looking at it objectively, the emotional, physical, and psychological loss will cost much more than the monetary investment of RM2000.
Not to toot my own horn (well, I guess I sort of am), the psychologists at my practice can all work competently within the amount of sessions I've stated above (6-12 sessions). This is currently the gold standard to therapy.
Hope this answers your question!
(2) Do I have depression?Social stressors, such as interpersonal conflict, job loss, etc., can be a trigger for a depressive episode.
I am unable to determine if you fulfill the criteria for a depressive episode or not via text. But, while it sounds like you have certain emotional and behavioral responses that is similar to a depressive episode, what depression really is, is a more severe or longer-term impairment to functioning.
What's most important is that if its identified as depression, the main goal is to restore your functioning and improve on your quality of life. So, when reflecting on your needs and mental health, the most important question to ask is: am I functioning (e.g. relationships, emotional well-being, productivity, etc.) at a level to which I'm satisfied with?
We all go through difficulty. At times, we can get over it easily than other times. Sleeping in more, bingeing, having negative thoughts...these too happen to people every now and then. But, if these persist for too long, or impacts the person's personal/ professional life too much, then it is best to get them addressed.
What psychologists typically work with will be those times when the client finds it difficult to function without support. Once that support is received, the client will then start to be able to practice independence again.
You may think of this as like a seasonal flu. Sometimes, you smelt something that tickles your nose, and you sneeze to get over it. Sometimes, you get unwell for a couple days and you're fine thereafter. Occasionally, you get sick for longer than usual. That is when you see a doctor for meds.
It's the same with your mental health and your relationship with a psychologist.
Hope this makes sense.
So, you may want to consider that you're having a "flu" that is worth professional attention if:
a) You are unable to function well in areas of life that you were able to previously (e.g. job, relationships).
b) You are unable to function well in taking care of yourself (e.g. personal hygiene, physical health, performing daily tasks)
c) You are unable to manage your emotions well (e.g. feeling depressed all the time, feeling overwhelmingly anxious often)
In developed countries where mental health is not so much a stigma, a visit to the psychologist when you feel emotionally unwell is seen similarly like a visit to a doc when you have a flu. I think its an apt analogy to provide here.
Please let me know if this isn't the answer you're looking for! I've just been typing non-stop after a cup of coffee, lol.
Hope this information helps you assess on your needs and your mental health!