Hey sunbearau,
My boys are 9 and 6 who have spent most of their lives in NZ, so basically would say they are kiwi.
Thanks for sharing the experiences about how other kids treated when moved back. That's my concerns as well.
The education system here compare to Msia are totally different, each has its own advantages. To move my family back to KL, my kids will be having culture shock with all the homework that they need to complete everyday. Racism in school probably won't happen for us, as both myself and wife are Malaysians, and the kids are chinese looking anyway.

Totally agree about what you mentioned earlier about asians treated worse in ANZ. If kids are raised here, they won't be treated worse as there are lots of human rights, mutual respect, and they stand up for themselves. It's hard time for us asian parents, as we can't enforce the way we are raised (at least how I was raised) whereby parents have a lot of authority. Kids here stand up for themselves, defend and talk for themselves, pretty much very outspoken about their feelings and what they want. You can't force them to do what they don't want to do, BUT you can encourage them to do things that are right.

Great to know that you have enjoyed staying in Aus and grew up there after primary school. Also glad to know your parents enjoying their life in Malaysia now. This is also one of the options that I'm looking at, which possibly only happen 15 years later, after my kids graduated and started working.

Thanks for your reply. Yes we are sending the kids to international schools, those which are closest to NZ education would be AISM or IGCSE syllabus private schools with more westernised teaching.
They can't adapt to public schools for sure.
For university wise, if my boys are good and keen in further studies, they can choose to do that in Aus or NZ as they can pay domestic tuition fees and can apply for study loan themselves.

NZ is pretty good in work-life balance, you actually get to spend a lot of time with your family and have hybrid work culture (2 days office 3 days home) depending on company. Customers and colleagues are respectful to each other, very kind to each other. The reason of considering coming back mainly is for family and also let my boys have exposure to their extended family.

Also I guess you have missed out my updates reply about the REP approved and received job offer with pretty good package.

Not easy to get a job in NZ while in overseas. Company prefers to hire local candidates with residency visa.