Sep 24 2020, 09:25 AM
QUOTE(HappyA_Q @ Sep 24 2020, 05:46 AM)
Hey sunbearau,
My boys are 9 and 6 who have spent most of their lives in NZ, so basically would say they are kiwi.
Thanks for sharing the experiences about how other kids treated when moved back. That's my concerns as well.
The education system here compare to Msia are totally different, each has its own advantages. To move my family back to KL, my kids will be having culture shock with all the homework that they need to complete everyday. Racism in school probably won't happen for us, as both myself and wife are Malaysians, and the kids are chinese looking anyway.
Totally agree about what you mentioned earlier about asians treated worse in ANZ. If kids are raised here, they won't be treated worse as there are lots of human rights, mutual respect, and they stand up for themselves. It's hard time for us asian parents, as we can't enforce the way we are raised (at least how I was raised) whereby parents have a lot of authority. Kids here stand up for themselves, defend and talk for themselves, pretty much very outspoken about their feelings and what they want. You can't force them to do what they don't want to do, BUT you can encourage them to do things that are right.
Great to know that you have enjoyed staying in Aus and grew up there after primary school. Also glad to know your parents enjoying their life in Malaysia now. This is also one of the options that I'm looking at, which possibly only happen 15 years later, after my kids graduated and started working.
I live in AU and I think most discrimination tend to occur at the street / lower management levels especially in a non-international, domestic companies. It seems to me that discrimination is a very naive idea for people (Aussies) who are well-traveled, well-educated and have worked overseas (UK/US or even Singapore).My boys are 9 and 6 who have spent most of their lives in NZ, so basically would say they are kiwi.
Thanks for sharing the experiences about how other kids treated when moved back. That's my concerns as well.
The education system here compare to Msia are totally different, each has its own advantages. To move my family back to KL, my kids will be having culture shock with all the homework that they need to complete everyday. Racism in school probably won't happen for us, as both myself and wife are Malaysians, and the kids are chinese looking anyway.
Totally agree about what you mentioned earlier about asians treated worse in ANZ. If kids are raised here, they won't be treated worse as there are lots of human rights, mutual respect, and they stand up for themselves. It's hard time for us asian parents, as we can't enforce the way we are raised (at least how I was raised) whereby parents have a lot of authority. Kids here stand up for themselves, defend and talk for themselves, pretty much very outspoken about their feelings and what they want. You can't force them to do what they don't want to do, BUT you can encourage them to do things that are right.
Great to know that you have enjoyed staying in Aus and grew up there after primary school. Also glad to know your parents enjoying their life in Malaysia now. This is also one of the options that I'm looking at, which possibly only happen 15 years later, after my kids graduated and started working.
I myself am also struggling to find stronger reasons to return to Msia instead of purely for families because of pay-cut and lack of interesting job opportunities. COVID sorta changed the dynamics of my work as clients are more willing to have meetings virtually and I can deliver my services digitally as well (I am in advisory/consulting) so maybe I can still go back and yet retain my client base. Worst case scenario is I will relocate to SG instead as it is still near Msia where my families are and I have enough good contacts/opportunities to get some work there, but I still prefer Msia for sentimental reasons. I have a feeling I might regret it down the road but still I would like to give it a try at some point. Never try never know.
Having kids definitely complicate the matter due to educational considerations but I reckon if your kid is good he or she will be good anywhere in the world. The educational landscape across the globe is really having an evolution now and if a degree or cert means nothing more than a piece of marketing paper, then I reckon it doesn't matter and in fact having diversity of experience might help in the long run. Of course it is easier to comment than to practice because it is always better to be safe than to be sorry but somehow I think we need to acknowledge that the world is constantly changing.
This post has been edited by Justin Wong: Sep 24 2020, 09:26 AM
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