Sorry, but what made you both get married, and what changed?

I tag this one because the other one too long (I read all of it).

Sounds like your guy is typical /k selfish ignorant weeb to be honest. Lazy, disrespectful, put no effort in relationships but have the rigid self-righteousness (not breaking any law) and calculative af for a man.

In short, he took you for granted.

You also seem to take care of yourself by staying fit and I think you put effort in looking good as well since you are a people-person.

In chinese they say “don’t encourage people to break up” and “bed arguments settle on bed”, but I feel you really deserve better. Not sure why he’s not interested in getting it on with you either (maybe porn addiction or hardcore gamer?) but that’s seriously f**ked up to ignore partner like that, while disrespecting partner in front if others, that’s a big no-no. Even with someone who’s not a partner, that’s not a decent behavior to begin with. No class at all.

Sorry if I offended you by talking him down like that but I have a feeling that he’s kinda hopeless and doesn’t recognize what he has until he lost it. Some people are like that.

Personally I’m in your shoes on the coitus thing because I have higher libido than my wife, while she’s the passive one, though when she’s in the mood she will cooperate and not just play dead fish. I will never find her unattractive, even when she’s angry lol, probably because I always like to look at her. And then she’s the one who doesn’t like me to hug too much and claim that it’s too warm for her lol.

I guess it’s hard to find a perfect match

From the sound of it, you probably should move forward without him and live a happier life. At least you can try to find someone who appreciates you and matches you in appetite for action.

But still, you have to go through the hassle of “adulting” all the necessary stuffs like divorce, mortgage settlement, family “PR”, etc. Time to make use of your people skill and stay on high EQ to sort it out. Wish you all the best.

Yea, I think if TS give us BMI index it's a better gauge.

Also, TS hygiene ok? Any body odour or too strong smell? No offense, just probing questions.

Eh, not really leh. Not all gays are created equal. I personally know gays who don’t jaga badan and are not stylish/have a weird style.

There’s a way to test this. You need to bring a gay who is good in “sniffing” out another gay. Someone your husband doesn’t know and is not expecting. Also you need to create opportunities for them to be alone without you so your gay friend can “do his job” and your husband not at guard when you’re not around

The first thing that crosses my mind when I see your pic...



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This post has been edited by J1g54w: May 31 2020, 07:27 AM

The key is not about being Megan Fox, but knowing how to 'kite'.

My relationship is more than 10 years already. When I look at her I don't just admire her physical, but what she had done for me, and how I want her to be loved. I like to imagine if I'm in her shoes, how will she feel at what I'm doing to her. I smile even as I'm typing this.

I think you can find a better man la. You can give him a chance to change if you really love him, but I have a feeling that the timing is over already and your flame for him's probably long dissipated.

I don't really have friends so I can't recommend a good man to you, I would if I could.

In any case, I always encourage people to go to classes like foreign language, wine-tasting, cooking, dancing and probably specialized workouts. There's a lot of opportunities to meet new and interesting people who also like to add positivity into their lives with similar activities. These activities are also related to finer things in life so the people are kinda 'sexy'. Don't get me started on women who can dance!