I bet they will be cursing you behind saying you are ungrateful and all.
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Jun 16 2020, 10:16 AM
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I bet they will be cursing you behind saying you are ungrateful and all.
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Jun 16 2020, 10:24 AM
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QUOTE(Oltromen Ripot @ May 21 2020, 06:13 AM) Resign under reason that you can no longer separate professional and familial conflict. But don't appear to them like you have immediate failover in another company. Explain to your FIL that you are putting importance on saving your family and marriage first above family's business. TS, you shud listen to this. To be honest, you will find success in future.Divorce should be avoided firstly, and only as last recourse if and when MIL, et.al. still insists on intruding in affairs after you resigned. Also consider the possibilities that your wife is unknowingly and innocently just being a pawn of her damily. Maybe just back out and find tourself a good career that can lead you to ur own success... Gud luck bro, but please think wisely... |
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Jun 16 2020, 10:33 AM
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QUOTE(ykj @ Jun 16 2020, 10:16 AM) Stick and stones bro, no harm at all. Judging by how the family run their business, seriously doubt they have any clout in whatever industry they are in so their word is hardly going to affect TS's career. And they will have many many things to worry about in the coming months. Bigger (and more responsibly run) family own companies are already bracing for the worst and TS's in laws are playing politics and splurging on BMWs? It will be a train wreck and thankfully TS is nowhere near itQUOTE(Digifriend07 @ Jun 16 2020, 10:24 AM) TS, you shud listen to this. To be honest, you will find success in future. Yup ideally divorce is the last recourse and I prefer separation. But still seeing some of my friends going thru it its a long and messy process with plenty of times to U-Turn. Sometimes some ppl snap out of it only when they are served divorce papers. In TS's case its more the MIL and I think only when their family business crash and burn will her hold on TS's wife lessen and the chances of reconciliation is higherMaybe just back out and find tourself a good career that can lead you to ur own success... Gud luck bro, but please think wisely... |
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Jun 16 2020, 10:47 AM
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It's always complicated when work and family are intertwined in this fashion.
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Jun 16 2020, 10:48 AM
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Here are the steps you need to do in order:
1. Accept new job 2. Resign 3. Move out 4. Divorce |
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Jun 16 2020, 11:42 AM
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Jun 16 2020, 11:44 AM
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Jun 16 2020, 11:45 AM
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Jun 16 2020, 11:51 AM
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Are we getting our chains jerked?
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Jun 16 2020, 11:58 AM
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QUOTE(hksgmy @ Jun 16 2020, 11:51 AM) Maybe, maybe not but if BillC is his alter ego to make himself happy by passing time shooting the breeze and this thread is his real plea for geunine advice, doesnt that make this thread serious /k material? So no point in debating if he's BillC or not in that caseI brought up the writing style to explain why some might think TS is a dupe of BillC but I dont particularly think he is. |
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Jun 16 2020, 12:00 PM
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QUOTE(9m2w @ Jun 16 2020, 11:58 AM) Maybe, maybe not but if BillC is his alter ego to make himself happy by passing time shooting the breeze and this thread is his real plea for geunine advice, doesnt that make this thread serious /k material? So no point in debating if he's BillC or not in that case Indeed. Thank you!I brought up the writing style to explain why some might think TS is a dupe of BillC but I dont particularly think he is. |
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Jun 17 2020, 01:46 AM
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QUOTE(hksgmy @ Jun 16 2020, 08:08 AM) Good for you, TS. That’s the first step in regaining control of your life. I wish you all the luck in the world! Thank you for your kind words. QUOTE(Chrix @ Jun 16 2020, 09:17 AM) cool guys dont look a explosions. Thank you and I must say I did have a good chuckle at that video. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sqz5dbs5zmo good luck in your en-devours. QUOTE(9m2w @ Jun 16 2020, 09:38 AM) If you had any second thoughts, this incident should have been the straw that broke the camel's back. Your MIL is cutting her nose to spite the face...and ironically not knowing it. Your wife is alternating between saving your marriage and punishing you, probably egged on by your MIL when deciding on the latter. Whatever hope you have for reconciliation will not work with that witch of a MIL around. Good luck in your new job and hope you have a smooth divorce. I have been planning this move the last 4 months and I have decided under no circumstances I would ever reconcile with her as nothing will change and I am at that stage in life where I should not waste my time by taking on such unnecessary risk. i have no regrets with my decisions as I did give it everything and tried my best to make it work but I will concede that my best was insufficient. My only piece of advice is maybe consider a separation first dont serve the divorce papers yet. Separate not for a few months but maybe a year or 2 and totally ghost your wife and her family. This isnt just for her to think things over. Its for your inlaws businesses to crash and burn which I suspect it surely will. Trust me this will bring them down a peg or two and hopefully lessen your MIL's influence on your wife. See how she behaves without the MIL in the picture. And despite the old saying of dont look back, in this case do look back once in a while. Enjoy the sight of your inlaws struggling, trust me schadenfreude is very therapeutic especially when it happens to ppl that have been dicks to you QUOTE(V429 @ Jun 16 2020, 10:05 AM) I suppose your wife and her family should be glad you are not as combative as Bill was previously. I should add that this is my third account on this forum therefore many are right that this is indeed a dupe account. My first account was my trading account, I use that account to meet potential buyers and sellers. My second account was the one I used to take part in other sections of this board and I had it since my days at Autoworld and Hardwarezone, no I will not use that name on here for these matters as I do not want to solicit any pity from those who has known me previously. I do hope things get better for you soon, you sound like a capable person and you will succeed no matter where you go. All the best. Am I BillCollector? I have spent enough time on Hardwarezone to realise it is a futile attempt to convince anyone whether I am or I am not him. I had no intention of being combative over these matters, I much rather they disappear from my life and let me move on with as little resistance as possible. |
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