Well, you got to do what got to do... i won’t blame you, your wife or the dog *kidding

2 years after we got married, my husband’s business suddenly crumbled. We had our first financial challenge as a couple(no baby yet). New business expansion dragged down by the bad market, and business partners’s failed to pay their bills...

More than once I offered him financial assistance, Unlike you he always rejected any help. We sealed the info tight from everyone including our parents.
He never complained, ranting, or brought his burden into our bed tho. The only thing that he ever asked me was to be patience and tightened my spending to the very basic possible, temporarily cut off my (high freq) shopping, and allocate our saving to pay our domestic staffs(in total 22k/monthly) And instalment first (we had around RM80k/monthly mortgage for two properties other than our house) these two were the biggest.
Income nearly goes to zero and sometimes minus every month(for almost 2 years) as the business revenue goes to the new project, cover the expenditures, employees, cover the loss due to unpaid bills, bank, on going court-cases...

Well, at one point.. I quietly transferred some money into our skinny bank account from my personal saving (you know, woman. And we only got 60K left 😞😞!) which later he found out. And he’s very upset..
He still refused to take everything for granted instead as debt. (When he got back up again, he repaid back every cents).
I’ve asked him once, out of my frustration, “if you go zero, bankrupt, bank seized everything and nothing left, you’ll still refuse to take my money don’t you? Have you ever think to put your pride aside? Yes i know you’ve made your own fortune without any help from your family. But you were single and young that time, it’s ok to fail or go broke. Now, you are 40!!! Married!! I don’t mind to live in a rental house, or Eat the grass. But what people are going to say? What my parents are going to say? Dear, please don’t be stupid!!!.” *in Rosmah’s tone

And he was so chill “ F*ck people and whatever they’re going to say. I owe them nothing. As long as you don’t mind to walk the pave on that difficult road with me and be grateful for anything that I can provide you on the plate, with all respect keep your money or your daddy’s money, continue the journey with me. I would never let our family down. I couldn’t carry a child, or brings them out into this world you have 1 point there as a woman, so I should win another point by doing my best to be the main provider for our family to make it even or I’ll consider myself as a big loser. You have your struggle, I have my own. Please let me try. We will pass through this together, I promise.”

That’s was my first and last argument ever..
No matter what..
we know that we’ll always got each other’s back..

#TumpangCoolStory

Work or no work for extra pay is own choice. One day I will not be able to work anymore. Meantime, I do what I can.

My dream is to reach /k standard 20k per month.