QUOTE(BLKH3 @ Dec 13 2019, 03:48 AM)
Why you guys decide to have babies although all the reasons (financial, time, effort etc) says a huge NO? Is the urge to procreate that strong?
We decide not to have kid as we don't want to be bother about parenting, we are not sure we can afford, and we are not that fancy about babies. But aduh... accident happen, and we don't do things against god's will. Looking around knowing many couple having hard time to conceive, saw heartbroken people due to failure to carry the unborn to full term. I did wonder why god don't just give the baby to them, why us?
FYI, when I suspect I accidentally conceived, next thing I was eating half a watermelon, drink green bean soup.. those food that people say may cause miscarriage. But he just tough sticking around
And I did have high BP due to job stress all along, but during pregnancy.. my BP was perfect, sugar, heartbeat, etc.. all are at the most perfect reading ever! After thinking awhile, I sees this as a mission given. There must be a reason that god want us to have him (instead of those couple who wanted and needed a child so much).
We were selected to be his parents, feeling just like your boss chosen you for a project because your boss have faith in you. Is no longer a question whether you want or don't want. Is already your job to do and having the thought that "you are selected for good", motivates us. If he turns out well, our mission accomplish. If he turns out bad, we are accountable and answerable to it. Anyway we always pray "god, please no more another accident.. this is not a joke". But obviously, we thank god for this because if without him.. I think me and hubby will bored to death.. having to look at each other with no focus, no objective and don't have a kid to keep us busy.
That's why I always say, those who happily plan for few kids without even have the first one. Don't plan too much, get yourself conceive first. Because baby is not something that everyone can plan. Besides having friends who waiting years still yet to conceive. I actually got a friend planned for 3. But to-date she got 5 daughters. Because what she planned earlier was 3 kids (expecting got boy inside). After 3rd baby girl, she still think 4th can be boy but end up now 5 girls. The youngest few months old, so now I still don't know whether next year she will share another preggy photo in FB or not. Pity.