QUOTE(tomato people @ Nov 17 2019, 09:46 PM)
If a guy put you first in eveything or anything you are doing...i guess that is a good signal he is into you...
P.s. i treat my wife that way
This.P.s. i treat my wife that way
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Serious How do I know if a guy is interested in me ..., Or just being friendly?
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Nov 18 2019, 03:38 PM
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Nov 18 2019, 05:23 PM
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Nov 19 2019, 12:42 AM
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QUOTE(kokwei1125 @ Nov 18 2019, 01:56 PM) Just being friendly That was why I was afraid of too But what made you have the feeling he is just being friendly and looking for companion? He could have asked any one and his friend was already going to join us to shop at Ikea...so why? |
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Nov 19 2019, 12:52 AM
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QUOTE(ahmoi.sepet @ Nov 17 2019, 10:02 PM) If he always take out his phone, is to take selfie or photos. So like when we went to buy the sunglasses, then he did take out his phone to take a lot of selfies of him wearing the sunglasses.. He is a "conceited"He rarely does take out his phone when with me, and in those rare occasions, he sometimes let me see the messages. I didnt ask to see, he on his own wanted to show This kind of people excessively proud of oneself |
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Nov 19 2019, 08:53 AM
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It's 2019. No need to wait for him to chase you. You chase and impress him!
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Nov 19 2019, 09:50 AM
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I don't feel that he is interested. It give me a feeling like buddies.
As if he really likes TS, during shopping at Ikea, no matter what he will not let his friend come to join and spoilt the "u and me" time. Some ppl love to share picture and his "being" especially to friends who recently chat alot with. I could be wrong, but TS your gesture somehow show him that "I am available". If the guy thinking is "since I am free, why not?" .. then habis la you. Correct me if I am wrong. He bought the shelve and you offer to stayback to arrange his stuff? Only gf/best buddy or desperate girl will do that. It is very natural a gentleman or helpful guy (regardless he courting the girl or not) to offer help to build up the rack/shelves, but not girl. Actually men are very cute creature. I have quite a lot of guy friends and those who actually treat you as their real buddy (regardless gender) will run extra miles for you, not only for gf. The sending food, attending to you when you need it. Not only bf will do that, some who value friendship alot will do that too. These are men, they are different from women who at some point not that generous compare men. |
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Nov 19 2019, 11:02 AM
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QUOTE(cc980024 @ Nov 19 2019, 09:50 AM) Actually men are very cute creature. I have quite a lot of guy friends and those who actually treat you as their real buddy (regardless gender) will run extra miles for you, not only for gf. The sending food, attending to you when you need it. Not only bf will do that, some who value friendship alot will do that too. These are men, they are different from women who at some point not that generous compare men. Then there was another time, my then-bf wouldn't even fetch me from my place to go to the airport. This friend of mine actually did. He said it's a night flight and it's not safe to take a taxi/Grab to the airport all alone. So he offered to send and then fetch me back from the airport. All this time he had a gf already.... So don't overthink it. Give it time and see where it goes? |
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Nov 19 2019, 12:00 PM
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QUOTE(bonkers28 @ Nov 19 2019, 11:02 AM) The part where some guys would run the extra mile is quite true. I used to have a guy friend who would go the extra mile. I forgot a key that i was supposed to pass to someone else, and this friend of mine came all the way from PJ to meet me in BJ just to get the key from me and then pass it to that someone else. It was my mistake but he took the trouble to help me even though i admitted it was my mistake. Yes, that's why sometimes guy make a better friend compare ladies. Even myself a lady say so. Then there was another time, my then-bf wouldn't even fetch me from my place to go to the airport. This friend of mine actually did. He said it's a night flight and it's not safe to take a taxi/Grab to the airport all alone. So he offered to send and then fetch me back from the airport. All this time he had a gf already.... So don't overthink it. Give it time and see where it goes? I am married, few years back started a new job. Day 1 go to work by LRT, without knowing I need to bring home laptop. Then I just called up my buddy Me: Hey, fetch me after work. Bringing laptop heavy, lazy take LRT. Buddy: where your hubby oh Me: Don't want get him la Buddy: Ok la. Funny part is, you know that you don't need justification to call up buddy for help. And you know your buddy don't need a reason to help you. Another incident even more wonderful, I was studying in JB and this buddy (another guy) working in SG. He called up asking to meet up in JB. I told him I don't know how to take public transport to JB town centre (actually lazy). He can all the way from SG took bus to JB, to my neighbourhood and look for me at my doorstep. Then pull me out to take bus together to JB town. If like this also asking "if he interested with me?". Then I have sleepless night thinking too much. |
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Nov 19 2019, 01:26 PM
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QUOTE(ahmoi.sepet @ Nov 19 2019, 12:42 AM) Just being friendly That was why I was afraid of too can't explain why i said so.. but i used to be in your shoe before.. But what made you have the feeling he is just being friendly and looking for companion? He could have asked any one and his friend was already going to join us to shop at Ikea...so why? maybe u can try not to going out with him that often and see how does he react |
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Nov 19 2019, 03:00 PM
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QUOTE(ahmoi.sepet @ Nov 17 2019, 07:41 PM) Who knows? He may have 'some' interest but it may not be something concrete? Probably he's also seeing how far this will go. My suggestion is that if you're genuinely interested in him, don't wait for him to make the move each time. Being passive will only get you so far. You can be the one to initiate a meet up. For example, ask him out for dinner, or ask if he's interested to go to a certain concert/ event with you. There's no need to feel shy about asking him out. If he says not free, just relax. Imagine you're popping the question t like how you'll ask your other friends. Be casual and natural about it Meet him more often and test water from there. When you meet a guy - you'll know when he is interested in you. As you two sit opposite each other - his eyes, his body language etc - you can tell when someone is enthusiastic about meeting you (or not). Be more observant when you meet him next time and lookout for the signs. QUOTE(cc980024 @ Nov 19 2019, 12:00 PM) Yes, that's why sometimes guy make a better friend compare ladies. Even myself a lady say so. That's right. There are some guys who are very helpful and considerate; they feel obliged to offer a hand when their female friend(s) needed support. They'll take the extra mile to help out, and such kind gestures should not be misunderstood. I am married, few years back started a new job. Day 1 go to work by LRT, without knowing I need to bring home laptop. Then I just called up my buddy Me: Hey, fetch me after work. Bringing laptop heavy, lazy take LRT. Buddy: where your hubby oh Me: Don't want get him la Buddy: Ok la. Funny part is, you know that you don't need justification to call up buddy for help. And you know your buddy don't need a reason to help you. Another incident even more wonderful, I was studying in JB and this buddy (another guy) working in SG. He called up asking to meet up in JB. I told him I don't know how to take public transport to JB town centre (actually lazy). He can all the way from SG took bus to JB, to my neighbourhood and look for me at my doorstep. Then pull me out to take bus together to JB town. If like this also asking "if he interested with me?". Then I have sleepless night thinking too much. |
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Nov 19 2019, 09:10 PM
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QUOTE(sweet_pez @ Nov 19 2019, 03:00 PM) Who knows? He may have 'some' interest but it may not be something concrete? Probably he's also seeing how far this will go. I'm not sure if this counts as something but when we were buying the sunglasses, the optician was showing same "latest tech" on one of the lenses. So it involved a laser pen and the glass. So when playing with the laser pen, my guy friend did draw a heart on the lense. I wasn't really looking at what he was doing. Only when he said "Oooppssss!!" Then only i looked and then i saw the heart shape he drew.My suggestion is that if you're genuinely interested in him, don't wait for him to make the move each time. Being passive will only get you so far. You can be the one to initiate a meet up. For example, ask him out for dinner, or ask if he's interested to go to a certain concert/ event with you. There's no need to feel shy about asking him out. If he says not free, just relax. Imagine you're popping the question t like how you'll ask your other friends. Be casual and natural about it Meet him more often and test water from there. When you meet a guy - you'll know when he is interested in you. As you two sit opposite each other - his eyes, his body language etc - you can tell when someone is enthusiastic about meeting you (or not). Be more observant when you meet him next time and lookout for the signs. That's right. There are some guys who are very helpful and considerate; they feel obliged to offer a hand when their female friend(s) needed support. They'll take the extra mile to help out, and such kind gestures should not be misunderstood. I know it sounds like i am being naive la, but is that a sign? Or it just so happen he drew that? |
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Nov 20 2019, 09:26 AM
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QUOTE(ahmoi.sepet @ Nov 19 2019, 09:10 PM) I'm not sure if this counts as something but when we were buying the sunglasses, the optician was showing same "latest tech" on one of the lenses. So it involved a laser pen and the glass. So when playing with the laser pen, my guy friend did draw a heart on the lense. I wasn't really looking at what he was doing. Only when he said "Oooppssss!!" Then only i looked and then i saw the heart shape he drew. No idea... It could be a hint, yet it may not but seems like a strong positive though. With this in mind, why not take a bolder step and ask him out instead? For a movie and dinner then you can drop hints/ ask if there's someone he's into at the moment.I know it sounds like i am being naive la, but is that a sign? Or it just so happen he drew that? |
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Nov 20 2019, 10:19 AM
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TS, don't guess around. If a guy keep playing hints or making stuff that obviously show he is interested but yet no real action, I will just leave it. If he is really wants you to be his gf, doing so many actions for what? he should just say it out.
Unless you can't wait or really likes him, then go ahead and tell him. No point keep guessing and let him play with your feeling like that. |
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Nov 21 2019, 12:04 AM
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i guess that i'm just afraid to know the truth be it good or bad.
What if I get shot down? What if he just so happens to be looking for a companion? So many questions but I don't know if my actions will scare him off. |
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Nov 21 2019, 05:58 AM
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