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zero5177
post Nov 7 2019, 12:27 AM

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Good night son,

Slim chance for her to give u second chance without doing anything.

How about try to do something the gain her back which might slightly neutralized the guilt you have done?
Trust me, she will not voluntarily approach you and tell u she is fine already and ready to continue the relationship.

Give 1 last try and move on, don't give yourself false hope without doing anything and depend/blaming your beliefs to bring her back.
zero5177
post Nov 7 2019, 09:17 PM

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QUOTE(prelude23 @ Nov 7 2019, 12:31 AM)
Yeap. I plan to reconnect after few weeks. I need to give her time to heal first at least.

What do you advise to do something?
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Judging from how sensitive she is to these little action, better to treat it like starting from scratch with some distance, slowly closing in.

Observe the progress... you'll know if she have the intention to give it a try, who knows she might learnt something from that and make some change adapting to your behavior?

after all, she sounds like she is willing to forgive u and make friend with you, let her prove it to you.
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post Nov 7 2019, 09:58 PM

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QUOTE(prelude23 @ Nov 7 2019, 09:25 PM)
This is what I thought so too. I also need to give myself time to not appear desperate into begging her to come back.

But the no contact period is like so damn hard.
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Good to see you finding yourself back.

U may not be the only one that find the no contact period is hard.

How about set a date with her for next week movie or something u know she'd prefer as a friend?

if you get rejected for few times, u'll know you have to move on.
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post Nov 7 2019, 10:56 PM

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QUOTE(prelude23 @ Nov 7 2019, 10:08 PM)
Set a date for next week movie might be a little too early. I know she won't go. My plan is just to call her talk on the phone about what she has been doing as simple as this. Just doing little by little to reconnect.
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Well, its totally your call, you're the one who know her most here, we can only advise how u should think and act, the details you can keep it for yourself smile.gif

But also 1 thing do keep in mind is the intimacy that she don't feel comfortable giving you, are you ok with that for the future to come?
I've seen many people like her seeking help as they can't stop feeling guilt when she having the intimacy even after marriage, not gonna judge anything
but I'm pretty sure if she can't get through the very surface intimacy part, it will be harder for her to go through the following stage,
and marriage is not the key to open her up to intimacy, then the lust might get u again, we're human after all.

Not discouraging you, but it's something worth thinking... we often thinks marriage is where we can bind us together, but its actually where the real test begun.
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post Nov 7 2019, 11:45 PM

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QUOTE(prelude23 @ Nov 7 2019, 11:02 PM)
Actually we spoken about this and she said she don't feel good it's only because we haven't get married. She wants it too and she admit she's very weak in this. She get aroused very easily but at the same time she's very very disciplined.
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Ok, to me I think this is a positive progress atleast.. give her time to heal... but don't drag it too long as u know overthinking and negative advises from friends plays important role
in her decision making.

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