She isn't a bad woman. No doubt she does have a temper and some anger management issues but she isn't a bad person per say. A lot of it has to do with her suffering multiple miscarriages over the last 9 years.

She has some bitterness against the father, some of it stemmed from money where he made her take a loan for him and the promise to pay back never happened or it became a pay 1 month then 2 months never pay type of deal. She does believe this had something to do with why she found it difficult to find another job in the financial services industry after she lost her job earlier this year.

Finally one of the main reasons why she is angry at the father was earlier this year we were having a war and we basically saw no hope in any reconciliation. Her father pressured her to pass custody of our children to me which she did then immediately regretted it. That 6 weeks being kept away from our children and needing to fight back to see our children again basically made her the way she is now towards the father.

I did try to advise her to let it be and let bygones be bygones but I guess it isn't easy for her.