QUOTE(AdviceSeeker @ Sep 29 2019, 07:20 PM)
I have been with my girlfriend for more than 1 year and she is getting more demanding now. I feel that I cannot take it anymore. Can anyone give me some advise what to do.
We used to work near to each other. Therefore we are always together for dinner for past year. Recently we shifted job and we got separated. She is in kl and I am in seremban. That we still call each other every night.
But now she started to be a bit demanding to me.telling me
1) did not help her with her car during weekend (wash,pump petrol,service). She feels that as a bf, I should do this for her every weekend.
2) she always blame me for not helping her at work (new job so there is stress). I don't know how to help man, she knows the situation better than me. She feels that when I give opinion, I am against her. But I am just giving honest opinion about the situation
3) we also got want to buy house together for future. We get advise from parents of both sides. But when my parents say that the house is not that good and encourage us to see more. She is angry and say I only want my family. I do not even care about her. And says want to break up because I love my family.
I am really getting disappointed with this scenario. I feel that I am being mentally torture now. Although we been through up and down, but she is taking it as a reason to take advantage on me.
Anyone can give me some suggestions?
Please
I wouldn't like to comment much on the girl's attitude as i am not in that situation. Since you both are staying slightly distant away, i am thinking is it she just want to voice out her difficulties and seek some comfort words from you, whereas she can actually finish all the tasks by herself..
I am not sure how demanding is your gf.. but for 1st & 2nd.. different way to express can bring different meaning.. maybe you will need to figure it out more.. For the 3rd item, again same.. did you tell her more why ur parents say the property isnt good or you just informing her that you wont go for the house?
for me, i am also having LDR with my bf..and i did say similar 1 & 2 to my bf, is because that's my breakdown period for not having him by my side.. and let him know how much i need him to by my side and so on.. but the next day, i am still doing everything by myself..
so, maybe you should talk to you gf and tell her you are suffering too.. if you still felt the pressure of 'demanding', then maybe its time
i'm trying to be neutral..cause somehow i feel, getting in a relationship needs alot of 'prework' and understanding of each other..