Hello girls. Appreciate your advice. I just got married to my husband 2 months ago. The thing is, since now, he can’t penetrate me. We have tried so many times since day 1 and he can’t get through. I’m a virgin and he’s not. When he tries to penetrate, my VIVI will feel like burning even during the entrance of his DIDI. We have tried lube after that and i even tried to take ibuprofen. It doesn’t feels burning anymore since ibuprofen numbs out my VIVI however my VIVI muscles automatically tighten up and he can’t get through. Pleasee help meee.

Worst case may seek medical attention. My wife has a friend with this hardship. The pussy too tight end up resort to medical procedure. After that it was fine....but must constantly do to prevent shrinkage of the pussy

Worst case may seek medical attention. My wife has a friend with this hardship. The pussy too tight end up resort to medical procedure. After that it was fine....but must constantly do to prevent shrinkage of the pussy

Not sure if there are rules that only female can post here but... just wanna share with you some advice that I've shared with my other girl friends.

1. Feels Burning
I believe this could be due to the friction (rough-rubbing) between your vivi and his didi.
Have you tried lubing his didi?
A lot of friends I know only lubed their vivi (inside and outside)... but not the guy's didi..
Lubing both didi and vivi will help a lot.
Saliva is actually the best lube; its free, it feels good, and natural.

2. Vivi muscle automatically tighten up
Have you tried relaxing when he is going to penetrate you?
Since this is your first time, I believe you will feel nervous, and its is completely normal.
The key is to stay and feel relax when he penetrates you.
Before sex, you and your partner could try foreplay (teasing, kissing, etc), doing whatever makes you feel good and once you are aroused (he ham-sap you 'till you wet ady), you will feel relaxed and your vaginal muscle will loosen up.
It will be easier for your husband to penetrate you.

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3. If those 2 doesn't work, have you tried consulting with a gynecologist about this? Could it be that you have sensitive vivi?

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Hope this help! I believe sex should be fun, relaxed and intimate between 2 couples.

Congrats on your marriage btw!

Hmm do you know what medical procedure involved? Surgery or something?

This post has been edited by Stormi anak Kylie J: Jul 23 2019, 11:56 AM

I think I have tried to relax but everytime i imagine my hymen is going to be teared up i feel scared and my vivi will involuntarily tighten up hmm

Hmm..That's the problem.
And the solution is quite simple.

Prolong your foreplay. Kiss, touch, be familiar with each other body.
Ease up to him, maybe can tickle a bit..

And he need to ease up to you too. Dont barge in, play abit.
Later if both are comfortable, it will be easy.

Hymen tearing is common during first time intercourse.

Hymen tearing is also common during rigorous activities, bike riding, or even insert objects/finger inside.

Once the hymen is torn, it will heal and will remain much more elastic than before, thus, future sex will feel more natural, comfortable, and enjoyable for the women.

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Like what we've suggested earlier, doing foreplay, teasing and arousing each other will make you feel good, thus feeling more relax, thus relaxing the muscles.

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Having sex for the first time can be quite a new experience for you; I knew some of my girl friends who find it scary and painful (cuz of their hymen tear) but eventually loved and enjoyed sex afterwards.

On the other hand, some of my girl friends who didn't feel much but a slight sting/pop (like popping a bubble wrap), but they too enjoyed afterwards.

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you have to move your imagination away... try to have more foreplay kissing, cludding, touching...touching does help.. try to have it in a relax environment, dimm lights... think of nothing but your love and affection with your husband then it should be smooth...

Updates:
Finally succeeded. Thanks for all advices. I believe the main reason why it can’t last time was because of my overthinking and mindset.

good to hear it... so did you enjoy it??? so this time got last longer??? hehehe

It's quite likely you have vaginismus. It means you involuntarily tighten up during intercourse or when anything is inserted in your vagina. You need to see a gynaecologist. It's a psychological issue, not physical.

Many virgin girls always like that.

Always cannot penetrate for the first time.

ask him to do more foreplay

out of curiousity, does doing masturbation help with easing the vaginal penetration and does it get harder to penetrate if you are still a virgin after 30 years old?

its great that you seeked help here and that people were willing to offer advice to an often private issue and glad to know that it worked eventually!