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post Dec 9 2019, 10:42 AM

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8. When a child's moral education basis is not strong, the higher capability, the more dangerous. There are a lot of temptations out that that may allure them to fail if no moral cultivation.

9. Teach child cannot be picky on food to have a balanced diet.What we say & do must be in unison to earn a child's respect.

10. When what our parents scold us or what they demand is fair & reasonable, we must quickly remember & do the correct thing, do thing that pleases them. If not reasonable do not argue back immediately, or will cause conflict. We have to give in first then only think of a solution.

11. When our parents do wrong, we should urge them to change but find a right time.Do it with a kind facial expression & warm gentle voice. We must use our wisdom to differentiate right & wrong while being dutiful.

12. We must be respectful to teachers as well as our achievement & success depends on good teachers.

13. We must also respect our superior. When we go to a new work environment, don't complain first. Listen more, observe more, learn more. Do what our supervisor ask honestly.when our learning & understanding of the company is deeper, then only we express ideas & suggestions.

14. During winter, keep our parents warm. During summer, keep our parents cool. We should greet them in the morning to show them that we care. At night be sure that they rest well.

15. Our nature & innate character will not change with the passing of time, only the style may varies with each generation & era.

16. We must take care our parent's health & heart & fulfill their wishes. We must communicate healthy thoughts & knowledge to our parents so they can make healthy decision & judgement.Must patiently & slowly communicate as thoughts & habits cannot change overnight.

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post Dec 10 2019, 06:29 AM

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DiZiGui Part 9th
Note picked by Lim Kian Pooh dated 190819

1. DiZiGui advises children to greet their parent twice daily during morning before they left for studying and in the afternoon after they are back to home from studying.
2. As a young student even though financially not capable to support and look after their parent, the least they must do is to ensure they will not make their parent worry about them.
3. Whenever away from home, children can communicate via phone contact to update their whereabouts and what's they are doing .
4. This is teaching in DiZiGui as our speech and behaviour during outing will not make them worry. Such gesture will further upgrade and enhance parent children relationship.
5. Same case applies to husband wife. Must notify each other whenever want to go out in order to make them have peace in mind.
6. Husband and wife must mutually be sincere and try not to hide any secret behind or cover up . It is hard to get along together with this kind of attitude.
7. Managing a home is about Inclusiveness and sincerely.

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post Dec 11 2019, 09:17 PM

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8. In managing our life, self discipline is important to ensure our study ( as student), career ( workplace), marriage (home) successful.
9. Parent should regulate their children particularly in weekend outdoor unhealthy activity.
10. Parent must put extra caution in controlling their children exposure to internet and social networking as it's never bringing benefit at the end.
11. Hi tech gadget is bringing bad influence as children is not getting their moral value and learning spirit improved.
12. Forever parent will regret if their children life is getting spoilt and hard to make up again.
13. To let our parent not worry, We must have a steady and reliable career or job. Husband and wife are living in harmony .
14. A secure marriage is about Inclusiveness and forgiveness. Attitude towards our spouse is about what can I serve for you as it is not suppose to be what you must serve for me. And we should look only on our spouse strengths and not weaknesses.
15. Always maintain warmer ties, attitude of indifference to our spouse is source of problem why husband wife can't get along.
15. Key elements on How to get along with people
- giving
- recognition
- accommodate and facilitate
- mutual understanding

Note end.

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post Dec 12 2019, 08:23 PM

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Di Zi Gui Chapter 10
Ivy Tan’s Sharing Day 10

1. We must go about things steadily & surely do not move restlessly. Do not lose support of people when we do rushed decisions that may damage relationships. We must be able to part without hard feelings when leaving a job to start or starting another career elsewhere. Don’t let any resentment feelings in another party that arise from your leaving block your future career development.

2. The wealth and riches cannot be obtained through fighting You can never get something unless you are destined to have it. You reap what you sow. Donate more to charity and good cause & contribute more to society to get more fortune.

3. Though a matter may be small, don’t act arbitrarily. If one act’s arbitrarily, the character that a son ought to possess gets damaged. Though a thing may be small, don’t selfishly hoard it. If one selfishly hoards, the parents’ hearts will be hurt.

4. Parents have to urge repeatedly and warn their children in some aspects especially safety. So long the actions can cause danger to their life & involve the rules, regulations & law, we must remind many times to abide by the rules. Example remind them on rules & safety when crossing the road, play with fireworks or firecrackers can cause fire, swimming without inform. These reminders can increase their sensitivity and reduce the chances of accidents happening.

5. Also must let them know cannot do actions that cause others danger and harm. Example, a small prank we play cause a child to be paralyzed whole life. Must teach them one careless negligent may cause a whole life of suffer and grief to the person and family, friends who care. May be a whole life hurt to the parents even a small action, as such, must remind our child cannot do anything that endanger others.

6. Must abide by the rules, cannot simply throw rubbish everywhere. Even the matter looks small but when becomes a habit, it is embarrassing to family and country. It must start with ourselves, do not embarrass our country, do our part by keeping clean & throw rubbish in the dustbins.

7. Academic credentials does not represent proper upbringing or cultural education. What is most important in education is to teach a person to behave, to be an upright person, how to conduct oneself, how to handle affairs. If school cannot these these well, in family or household should at least grasp the foundation first. A teacher may try their best to teach but they need to face so many students, not easy. The only way is parents actively cooperate with teachers so that their child is easier to observe rules & obey orders in their life’s behavior and conduct.

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post Dec 13 2019, 01:53 PM

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8. When we hear people say we do not have proper upbringing in our conduct, we immediately will restrain from doing. We also afraid our parents will be ashamed and embarrassed because of our behavior.

9. In bringing up a child, parents must be more attentive. When they are still small and do not have ability to judge right or wrong may walk off with something, take something without knowing it is wrong, they think it is fun and amusing. When a child has done no good conduct or commit something wrong, it will express on their face with a guilty conscience.

10. Teacher Cai shared a story of a mother who saw the facial expression of her child is different & upon check his bag found some apples. When questioned, the child was stammering and told took the apples due to fun of it when they pass by a fruit stall, the atmosphere of merely taking makes him take as his friends took it. The mother immediately brought the child back to the store and bowed & apologized to the owner. Although the owner was busy and said it doesn’t matter, the mother paid for the apples and made the child apologize. When they do wrong for the first time we immediately curb them, they will remember this deeply for whole life and never repeat again. They feel ashamed when see parents bow and apologize to people.

11. The parents’ way of teaching others by one’s own example make children feel ashamed of own behavior & conduct, A child may do wrong but so long they do wrong we catch this opportunity to guide them correctly, this is a good chance to educate them.

12. We cannot let them accustomed to small matters that we may overlook such as accidentally taking an item that not belonging to us. Must teach child not to be always on the lookout for petty advantages. When small may steal a needle, but when grow up may steal gold. Cannot take other people’s belongings as the impact is profound and lasting. Once greedy, the things they like or desire will use all means to steal or snatch it.

13. Besides being dutiful & filial, a child must be taught to be incorrupt, honest & clean, then we will have a better society an brighter future. Every parents and teachers effort will never be wasted. Must also instill unselfishness and sharing attitude in children, teach them to share good things with others, don’t just think of themselves. This will build good personality and characteristic in child. Teach child good things must share with friends, learn to think on behalf of others, others will feel happy and treat you good.

14. Moral integrity can only be truly revealed when no one is watching but still practiced. These people with high integrity although not greedy on money and gold, they earn credit & karmic rewards, good deeds, become good example of moral character.

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post Dec 14 2019, 11:41 AM

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15. Parents must educate child to love public or government properties and assets, must not take for personal use. All these public assets come from taxpayer’s money, so belong to so many people, not us only. If you steal, you owe, so many people debt, will not be able to pay back. Must guide our child any object has owner, cannot just because we are fond of something, we take it.

16. People are misled to think that wealth, money and high ranking is most important, this will cause child to have wrong thinking. The more money we have the more worry. We will envy people have more money than us, this will never leave us in peace of mind. Real wealth is be contented with one’s lot, be satisfied with what we have. When we know content, then we will enjoy everlasting pleasure and enjoyment in life. If they don’t learn to be contented, no matter how much money you have, you will still feel deficient.

17. When you have money but no wisdom, money may become a disaster. With money, a lot of seduction and temptation out there may cause us to ruin our whole life. Entrepreneurs work very hard, labor hard with one’s strength, work more than 8 hours a day but in the mid of their life found out they have cancer or diagnose with serious illness. To tax one’s mind and body but in the end there is nothing we can bring along with death, in the end no time to enjoy.

18. Life is busy (heart is dead, cannot feel parents, wife or child’s needs and feelings). After that, eyes become blinded (cannot see own responsibility and duties, only know must earn money). In the end, feel at a loss and confused. Do not know why I am doing all this what do I get? We must know our intention why we are putting in efforts in our life what is our direction and purpose or goal. Our initial purpose of efforts and earning money is not playing the money game but to have a happy family life.

19. Another condition that entrepreneurs fall into is be put in chains and thrown into prison for taking a dangerous risk that failed. This is the result of greed that we must remind our children not to do.

20. The third type of entrepreneurs earn a lot of money but due to entertain clients, they suffer poor health. When you no longer have health, you cannot enjoy wealth, the rest of your life may only be surrounded by medicine.

21. The most successful entrepreneurs are the ones who know how to balance career and family life. This is the most ideal and perfect situation. When we realize family is important, we will find a way to balance & put family first, “where there is a will, there is a way”.

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Di Zi Gui Chapter 11
Ivy Tan's Sharing Day 11


1. Parents should seeks for own happiness and children’s happiness according to fixed rules and reasonably. We hope child happy but we must ensure we are also happy, if we are not happy how to guide our child to be happy.

2. What is real happiness? Contentment brings happiness. If you know content, in relationship with others, will know gratitude people will like being with our children. Happy is being free from all anxieties, carefree. Be satisfied with what one has .Have manners & moral standards, have an easy conscience. Child’s freedom is their wealth. Don’t be over worry or too anxious of what we shouldn’t, about petty matters regarding our child. But also do not care or observe our child at all.

3. When they are still not mature enough, must make sure their foundation is strong, when they have proper moral conduct and meet with life’s predestined relationship, principal & subsidiary causes in life, we do not need to control them. If we control, we become tired, they also become tired.

4. Take for example, teaching a child to drive a car. Before they are on the steering wheel, we teach them well, once they already on the steering wheel, we have to let go. Do not control which direction they need to go, don’t control their steering wheel. Teach while small, not after grown up, or both suffer when the child makes wrong decision in life.

5. Happiness is being healthy. Is not something we can demand or request for. Is our eating, drinking habits, emotion must look after well. Body must maintain in good health.

6. We must take pleasure in helping others. If only think of ourselves will live a life of always swayed by considerations of loss and gain, always worry about personal loss & gain.

7. Show goodwill & good intentions child will learn by example. From small teach children to help others, to invest energy and time in friendship or helping people and fell the pleasure from helping others. Get them exposed to more of such experiences.



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