Ok la I read until kesian you so give 2 sen.

After 10 years of marriage with 2 kids (coincidentally where I am now), sex drive 100% will go lower. I don't know bout your wife but I'm in my mid 30s. Granted not all girls are the same, but this is my own thoughts:

1) On a regular weekday after coming home from work (or before when I was still unemployed and handling kids all day), I value my alone time A LOT, and sometimes get pissy when someone comes and demand things of me at this time when I've already used 80% of my waking hours for everyone else. This occasionally includes the husband (sorry lol). I understand also he feels like you la, but he knows to let me have my time once in a while too. Your approach here (despite it partially being to fulfill your needs) is not to appear to want to demand attention. e.g. if my husband walks into the room and then tries to hint that he wants some, I get slightly annoyed. But if instead we just do our usual thing like watching drama/gaming, talking about our day, then slowly progress to physical interaction I am more receptive.

2) Hormones are a problem. Women have cycles, hopefully you've memorized your wife's. Certain times we are naturally more wanting (it's the first 2-7 days after period ends). It's very easy to trigger the mood if the time is right.

3) Your wife's buttons. What works and what don't. Unfortunately for you, this can change over time. Does she prefer more physical touches? Or word play? What's her type?

4) The chores thing helps, but I'm not sure if you've seen The Mental Load.this: sometimes guys say they do chores, but they don't do the whole thing. E.g. here; guy washes dishes, but didn't put them back. You may not see it, but homemakers get tired when expected to pick up on the small things (I know I do, like I would complain when hubs leave unwashed stuff in the sink to wash later and my thoughts were why not JUST WASH IT NOW?".

5) Health issues. I get UTI almost always if I don't take extra care, so it becomes a bit of an extra effort I need to maintain for the next day (drink a lot of water, eat preventive supplements) just for an hour of fun., so the cons outweigh the pros. I didn't have this problem when I was younger/pre-marriage. Must be due to age. So too bad lor, less sex.

6) Some women, have no idea how much men need physical intimacy. Like you can keep on saying you need, but to women it will just come out as you're being horny too often. Women are biologically different and will not feel the same effects of sex. If you explain it will just come out as demanding, or "why you only think about sex?!" My advice is to mask your wants. Ask for it once in a while, but not once every 2 days. Be subtle. Flirt a little, tease a little. Not sure bout your wife but I enjoy sexual tension.

Sekian 2 sen.