my GF currently is 19.
she was in a toxic abusive and manipulative relationship for about 3 years, since mid 2014 and broke up mid of 2017
her ex was same age as her, currently 19.
goes same school, until she form 4 change school, became long distance relationship
she told me during the relationship he was very toxic (this list not in chronological order)
- he told her that she very ugly and no one would like her but only him (she actually pretty good looking)
- he messaging her non stop even she busy studying or school activity, would bombard her with text if she late reply. (she get into trouble multiple time because trying to reply him)
- saying she was an idiot how he smarter than her, because he got more A's (she took science course, and he took religious study course)
- he took money and stuff from her
- he bought cheap fake stuff and told her it was very expensive, (she google the price)
- he repeatedly said she's fat, while she just weight 56kg.
- she developed eating disorder, skipping meals, force vomit and taking laxative, until her weight just mere 36kg for 156cm height
- she once in a while skip meal, not eating anything for 1 or 2 days, she said her records was not eating for 3 days.
- when she was 15, he gift her a tudung labuh mostly worn by ustazah, saying female should protect her modesty, then ask her to wear it and naked, while he took picture of her.
2017 is her recovery stages, and realized he was very toxic, and broke up with him.
2019 she with me, and told me everything, met her on new year eve.
but thats not the end of it.
her ex create fake account and follow her social media, and would message harassing her from time to time.
my blood boiled when i read his private message to her, he told her that she should be appreciate to him because not spreading her nudes.
its like saying, u should be thankful because i not kill u, u should be thankful because i not beat u, u should be thankful because i not doing all those bad stuff but just being a jerk.
he played victim to his friend, saying he did a lot for her, and his friend trusted him. one of his best friend made status about how kind he was and how could she left him.
any sane kind human being would not said "be thankful because im not doing [insert bad stuff] to you"
she abandon all her social media, and create new. but, since they both goes to same school, he could find her through social media from other friend.
i want to tell her to avoid social media, but thats like her need to give up on something because of him. she need to lose something because of him.
beside asking her to avoid social media, how can i help her? right now i just encourage her telling her just to ignore that asshole, he not worth you attention or time, yadda yadda bla bla bla.
i wonder if we could bring this to the law like police report of something?
if he actually spread her 15 years old nudes, while he already 19 now. could he charged with any law? like spreading underage photo even she already 19 now?
1) what i could do to help her?
2) how can i bring this to justice?
This post has been edited by mustard: Apr 10 2019, 09:56 PM
my GF's ex harassing her, how can i help?