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sweet_pez
post Nov 16 2018, 02:30 PM

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QUOTE(drstranger @ Oct 16 2018, 08:42 PM)
Hey guys, been lurking at the forums and I finally registered because I found that there's a lot of good people and good discussions here. The following will be a long story, so please bear with me.

I live with my very elderly father and older brother. My father is retired with very little money and my older brother quit his job about 6-7 years ago when I was still in college. Since then I've graduated and earlier this year have only gotten a job. My brother however, has no education, stays at home and has zero discipline and basically harasses my father with his anger and insults on a daily basis. He wakes up at any hour and is either on the internet of playing his PS4. He has zero real life friends. He is grandiose and believes he is better than anyone around him.

He was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder a few years ago but has never followed up with any treatment, counselling or medication. He threatens me and my father verbally and sometimes physically as well. He makes unreasonable demands such repeatedly asking money that we don't have or wanting to buy things we can't afford. Our relatives have stayed away and refuse to communicate with us anymore because of the stigma and my father is too old, frail and tired to do anything about it.

My questions is, how can I get him to be treated? He is totally out of touch with reality and believes the world is corrupt and people are beneath him, and lives safely in his bubble to form his own warped reality. I heard that I can call the police to pick him up to be forcibly treated, but I am the younger brother, not the legal guardian plus a police car coming to pick him up would definitely be the talk of the town since we live in a small neighborhood. What options do I have?
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Sorry to hear about the situation you're in... it's certainly challenging in handling your brother. I suggest not to give your brother any money as you're already financially tight. With your father in his senior age and family only relying on your salary, have you checked whether he is eligible for any welfare or government allowance?

You'll need to make sure your brother follows up with medication. Bipolar Disorder is not to be taken lightly. I'm not sure whether this is a good idea but try negotiating with your brother to make sure he takes his meds - for example promise a daily fixed allowance (that you can afford to give him even if it's few ringgit) and he'll only receive the money when he takes his meds. When his condition improved, get him to find a job even if it's a simple task. If he refused to go out to work, see if there's any work/ job that he can do from home even if that means manual labour eg. packing things - stuffs that housewives would do at home for extra income.

No doubt, the best is if you can get him out of the house to follow up with his treatment regularly but very often that's an ideal situation.

 

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