A common problem which I believed at least 5 out of 10 people, male or female would have encountered before. I've been thinking for quite long whether to create this topic but as I see for myself I have no other ways to ask for opinion, hence I'm writing this now.
I'll just try to put this as simple as possible. Girl A has a boyfriend and is in a relationship with her bf, her bf is in singapore working. So here goes.
Girl A and I met and got to know each other for about 3 months now, ever since we got to know each other, we hit it off very well, and I mean really well, due to the many common interest and our thinking and mindset are both totally alike. Sooo as a result, we went out every single day, and as a result of going out everyday, we got really close. Our normal routine is she finish work at 9 pm, and i'll pick her up, then we'll hang out, go for movies, eat a simple meal, etc. Sooo as time goes by, like the saying goes, if you are single, and you interact with the opposite sex ( assuming both of you get along and hit off well ), inevitably you're definitely going to have feelings for the opposite sex, no matter how hard you control and tell yourself not to, at the end of the day, you will still develop feelings. Now before any of you say something like " That girl got bf already u still go in between, etc etc " do take note I did not go in between them, her bf is well aware of my existence and when we go out, she'll tell her bf about it, who she going out with, etc. So right now fast forward to past few days, I told her I like her, and on the first day we met, she told me before if anyone likes her, she will distance herself from that person, because it won't be fair towards her bf, since she is in a relationship, so even if she has feelings for someone, she will treat that feeling as a friend feeling.
So I know she will distance myself after I tell her I like her, and so basically she distanced herself from me right after that, 1 day later, she came texting me saying can we be back friends ? You are a very important part in my life. The better of me said yeah sure. After we became friends ( again ), things aren't the same, we are both cold towards each other, more of she's the one being cold. So well you know ,drama here and there, and I asked her, why are you being so cold ? She ask me the same, before i could answer, she said I really think we could be back friends, and I want to, but I can't bear myself to do it, hence the coldness. She said, it's exactly because I have feelings for you that I have to distance myself, that I have to be cold to you. At this point, it doesn't matter what I say. Fast forward again to just yesterday, she blocked me on wechat, but not on messenger, so I texted her on messenger and said my final words, I said if you want to leave and stuff, or whatever decision you have made, I respect your decision since you have blocked me on wechat. She said something like, you're the one that made it very clear that you want to leave. And bla bla bla, she said Don't worry, from now onwards your business i won't care, and i won't disturb you to harass you anymore. So at this point I'm thinking, what does she mean ? What is she thinking about ?
So hence my purpose of creating this thread is I want to know what can happen after all this ? I mean, if she like / love her bf, she shouldn't / wouldn't have feelings for me, as the saying goes if you are in a relationship and you fall in love with another guy, choose the 2nd one because if you love the first one, you wouldn't fall for the 2nd one to begin with. I know with saying that, I'm being very selfish but I just want to put an end to all these, what should I do ? What does she mean in all those stuff she said to me ? Hopefully I can get some advice here, and please, no trolls.
This post has been edited by Sotsotzaii: Oct 1 2018, 06:02 PM
A problem that I have, Like those in drama series