How to consider when deciding to have a second child? Care to share?

Mostly is financial.
But some people dont want to have 2nd child is due to high risk of giving birth or miscarriage. I think u can seek advice from your doctor to see if there is any risk since both of u are reaching 40 soon.

This post has been edited by lil_flank: Sep 27 2018, 07:28 AM

mine is financial and timing.

gap between children.

Age gap is our indication. We allow few years to focus on first kid then try on the second.

My second child timing was abit off. I calculated to have 2 years age gap. But mission fail coz couldn't resist, lol.. Elder child was Apr 2014 and second child was Nov 2015. If only can tahan 1 month plus, haha..

Now financial will be tight when they go college in future.

This post has been edited by lil_flank: Sep 27 2018, 06:41 PM

how many years between the children is ok to you?

mine would be 2 to 3 years.

maybe start around 2.

We initiate TTC when out first child is 3. 2 is ok too i think. Not 1 though, that will be too close of age gap.

i agree.

kesian the kid, kesian the parents as well.

Thank you for all replies 😊

I think 1-2 years will be good enough, as they will have bro/sister to play together. and all the hardwork can be done I one sort, haha.

Agree but they say it takes at least 1 1/2year to recover, right?

huh really? but last time me n my bro was just difference 1 year. that means my mom got pregnant few months after delivered me.

hhmm... tough ya...

Is your mummy late 30s having you?

Sure can get pregnant again even just after 2 months of giving birth. That's not the point. Point is it is better to let the mother 'heal' up the body properly before considering of going through another cycle of pregnancy. Your wife is not baby making machine so please be considerate to your wife.

Haha, I'm the wife😅
Just considering if affordable to get a 2nd bb with physically n mentally fit. Would not wish to have big gap as they can play n learn together

28 years old, 29 had my bro
6 years later had another 2 😅

how old are ur parents when u got another sibling?

my opinion, 2 ~ 3 year in between will be the best.

Timing is very important (for sibling relationship + time adjustment + personal time ...etc)

One of my brother older than me 12 years, when I went to primary school, he aldy prepare to uni. So our relationship is not so close, but my another brother younger than me 2 years, we are very close and take care of each other (of coz sometime will fight when we were young, but sweet memories now )

Then, my elder brother has their 2nd child right after my 1st niece (means 1 year older than 2nd niece) ... I can still remember the hard time taking care of 2 babies especially midnight, the whole family woke up to take care of them and everyone lack of sleep

Agree. Giving birth go through a hard time, especially for the 1st 6 months. Lack of rest n baby's requirement of attention is real to cause emotions. Since you already have 1 precious kid, going for happy family in 3 will be just nice

oh ya, 2 babies really cause lots of attention one sorts