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loutze
post Aug 7 2018, 11:45 AM

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Interesting Thread, interesting champion mindset by TS of not letting this relationship end and mending TRUST between both him and the girl.

Let's summarize and simplified current situation here.

GIRL
1) Felt lost and don't seems to have bring future after being in first relationship (with TS) for so long
2) When in relationship with TS, found a new interest in this new guy.
3) SIN (main FAULT) was went out with this guy while in relationship with TS, this is where TRUST was broken.
4) Because SIN and FIRST EVER LOVE RELATIONSHIP, girl was honest to let TS knows all details.

BOY (TS)
1) LOVE relationship with girl like treating direct family member. No matter what fault done to family member, end of the day will always be family member and LOVE still exist.
2) Guy felt he is loyal, even when ignoring the girl never came across interest in any other girl.
3) SIN (main FAULT) was never place girl priority (like replying messages) and let the girl know her importance in his life. TS is not interested to built TRUST within this relationship.
4) Because SIN (his and hers) and FIRST EVER LOVE RELATIONSHIP, TS use girl SIN as fault and trying to meant relationship by making girl not to contact with that other guy and forget him.

My 2 cents:
You need to understand LOVE relationship is more of 2 person have a non-disclosure agreement to be together and testing each other's if they are compatible and how much each attracts one another.

LOVE have many stages in LIFE, it is a NO NO to even compare family LOVE with your current LOVE affair with this girl (she can walk away anytime).

TRUST is like a bridge that links both girl and guy in a relationship, once trust is broken it will be indeed very HARD to meant back. TRUST could consider one of the main component that 2 people hold on together until they separate.

You blame she broke your TRUST, even she never contact the other guy OR forget him... how much will it meant the TRUST both of you once had?

Moving forward, whenever there is argument OR disagreement between both of you. Will you NEVER mention or put blame over this incident where she found a better man than you?

From Gamer analogy, your champion mindset kicks in trying get PLAN A (save first LOVE relationship) to work.

BTW, is there any PLAN B? You need to understand, girl felt sorry as she was the one which initially went out with the other guy (follow her heart). If she wakes up one day and felt she was correct to follow her heart instead of just mending this current relationship, what will you do?

That's why people ask you to "LET IT GO" already. You still have chance for 2nd, 3rd, 4th or so on GF to be UNLOCKED.

Broken trust can never be forgotten, it leaves a big scar between both people.

Both trying to hold on will tends to make each other suffer more, remember you are 28 only and are you even considering marriage? REMEMBER in every BF/GF relationship there is a LEVEL where you need to evolve your partner to UNLOCK a WIFE.

Unless both accept this broken TRUST scar. Can you accept and make friends with your enemy... the other guy?

How confident are you to charm and attract this girl to continue this love relationship together? OR even make attraction between each other?

Good Luck in handling your current challenges! Update us which path will leads both of you.

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loutze
post Aug 10 2018, 12:02 PM

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QUOTE(jrrsim @ Aug 10 2018, 11:04 AM)
why did u check her phone???? that was the biggest mistake.. now i feel break up is inevitable eventually.. you'll never be able to forget what u saw and it will haunt you forever..
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when want to gain back TRUST in relationship, TS made it much more worst. GG

 

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