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marche_ck
post Mar 25 2018, 09:00 PM

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QUOTE(Xaser_3 @ Mar 23 2018, 04:32 PM)
Anyone here can share or recommend a good established psychology centre in Penang? A friend of mine there needs to seek therapy. Thank you in advance.
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Can try government hospital. A bit messy & overcrowded but cheap, RM5 only.
Private one usually > RM300
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post Mar 25 2018, 09:34 PM

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QUOTE(Redshelf411 @ Mar 23 2018, 03:15 PM)
I'm not sure if this post belongs here but if it doesn't, do move it to relevant section pls..

Bear with me,  long wall of text coming.

So,  I have this friend who has been depressed for a long time, way back before I first met her in university. Back in university, I didn't understand why she was so depressed - 80% of the time she's flaking from meet ups, going to see a movie, go limteh, etc. with our group of friends. At first she gave excuses like she's busy with assignments, no money, or just plain tired. That was when I didn't know her well.

I decided to know her more, since she's always very quiet. The more I know her, the more I feel she has "high frequency" depression. I'm not sure if i should use that term....but it feels that way. Let me explain.

She texted me more often the more she gets comfy with our friendship. From the convos we had together, I learnt how her family was abusive towards her - beats her up, controls her social circle, the course she did was picked out by her parents. Even her grades, if she gets below 85% her parents would make a huge issue out of it. At several points in time back in uni, I remembered how her parents came to uni just to talk to her lecturers on how to make her get 85% for her modules/subjects. And if the parents hear what they don't like, they'd make a huge scene in the staff room. This made my friend feel embarrassed.

Now she's graduated, her parents even chose her jobs for her, even if it's a job she didn't like. She can't say no, at least that's what she told me. If she "openly defies" her parents wishes,  her parents will publicly criticise her in front of her friends and relatives by calling her useless and worthless. Even behind closed doors, she told me how her parents still beat her up. This has affected her self-esteem greatly.

We had long conversations about how her life was before she came uni... Basically Her family have been abusive (physically and mentally) towards her way before she attended uni.

She did say she wants to get away from her abusive, controlling family because the more she stays, the worst her depression gets... I can tell because she can text me very long text messages at 3am regarding how her parents just did shit to her and she wasn't able to sleep. This is beginning to affect me as well because she didn't just text me at 3am at one time but several times already in the last 1 year or so.

I also picked up from our conversations that she has financial issues, so if she were totally get out it will be financially difficult for her. Yes, I've suggested seeking financial aid from her relatives first but even that didn't work out.

So I'm coming here to ask if there are any ways I can help, or refer her somewhere where it can really help. I've suggested Befrienders, but from what encounters I've observed after she consulted she's basically still in her "high frequency" depression.

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This one really, really complicated....
I personally don't see how any treatment can work in this case, not when she still has to go back to the monsters den at the end of the day. Unless of course she's sedated until like zombie.

Can use law only I guess, legally separate her from her toxic parents. Anyone got legal experience here?
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post Mar 26 2018, 09:33 PM

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QUOTE(Redshelf411 @ Mar 26 2018, 12:01 AM)
The only thing I can see here from my perspective is that she earns enough money to be able to move out to a new apartment away from her family...into a new life and try pick herself up.

Call police? A previous user said they won't interfere unless there is murder.
Lawyer? Do we have cases for petty, family matters? Aside from divorce and custody, that is.

I've thought of both before, but have never suggested because we will only go as last resort.

Also, I've found this from ASKLEGAL: https://asklegal.my/p/5-changes-to-malaysia...ly-hit-home.amp
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Moving out is certainly one option, but to be really effective must move away far enough. If not 'visits' from the parents can be very stressful too...

That's why I think legal action is better, can file for restraint order. If only can build up the case, maybe along the lines of 'voluntarily causing hurt' as in the Cikgu Azizan case...

But yeah, not so simple. Maybe call WAO better, they know the ways

 

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