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Mar 23 2018, 03:28 PM
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QUOTE(wailam @ Mar 23 2018, 03:22 PM) How does it work? Police reports only can work if the abuse is obvious isn't it? Like if she's beaten to a point where she has wounds and whatnot? Ive suggested this before but will only resort to it as a final decision. |
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Mar 23 2018, 03:32 PM
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QUOTE(RisingTide @ Mar 23 2018, 03:26 PM) Be there for her when she needs you; I can see she's calmer when she's around me (and a couple other of her friends). For her, she's told me how she finds it very hard to get out of her mental state of mind and her current situation. I wish I have an extra room for her to stay away from her family until she earns enough money to be able to support herself. But given how I travel around a lot it's difficult for me to layan her.How is she like when you're with her? Does she seem happier? If it is that, I think its a good sign that you should spend more time with her; as you will be helping her overcoming her depression by helping her to refocus on the positive side of things; Seems like she has low self-confidence and esteem, which stem from her family upbringing; hence I suggest helping her refocus elsewhere until she could solve her problem herself; Do bear in mind that she is looking for a friend; nothing more; and only she could solve her own problems; what you could do as a friend is to spend time with her, take her out and make sure she has a good time, this will help boost her confidence and change her perception to look at life more positively; This happened to a close friend of mine, it helped out for me as I do see improvements in that friend of mine. QUOTE(Orzie @ Mar 23 2018, 03:28 PM) Gosh, it's really sad to hear that... Do you know where the psychological centres are? Maybe that can be a good starting point for us to have a look. In my opinion 1st thing she has to do is: Seek help from professional. Psychology Centres usually have experience dealing with this kind of issue. Throughout the consultations, they will advise the best way possible to your friend. From there, I imagine there will be 3 ways to deal with this issue: 1) Reinforce her mental strength so she can endure the abuse without breaking down her mind (yes some people have mental breakdown when in great distress / feel too hopeless) 2) Leave the family. I believe your friend is already an adult, she definitely has the capability to survive by her own. Get a job, or seek help from shelters temporarily. 3) Get some footage of the abuses. Report to police, let the authority handle her parents. They deserve some jail time. Hope my suggestions above can give you some idea on how to help your friend, poor thing... By the way please be extra cautious if you sense a hint of suicidal thought from your friend. Also, where are the temporary shelters? How do they work for a depressed adult whose salary is mediocre? My friend does have suicidal thoughts many times before. I used to refer her to our uni counsellor for help. After graduation, I refer her to Befrienders. Any other support groups though? |
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Mar 23 2018, 04:19 PM
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QUOTE(Xaser_3 @ Mar 23 2018, 04:00 PM) Be a good listener and available for her if your routine permits. Besides that I don't think there is much you are able to do since this is a domestic and family affair. Your support is already golden. I have some understanding towards her situation. My family is like hers, but less dramatic. I gotta empathise with ppl like her for having to put up with such abusive families.To be honest, I won't be surprised abusive parents call out on their kids for being monsters when they made monsters out of their kids in the first place. Even less surprised when abused kids decided to abandon their parents in old age. Well, karma's a b!tch after all ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ QUOTE(Orzie @ Mar 23 2018, 04:09 PM) Just wondering where do your friend stays? She can look for any established psychology centre. I'll have a look into this tooI do know one psychology centre situated at Puchong where my gf intern there before, you can PM me if you need detailed info about that centre. I suggest you to check with http://www.wao.org.my/ , an NGO named asa Pertubuhan Pertolongan Wanita. They might be able to guide you on seeking shelter for your friend. It is lucky your friend managed to find you to cling on. You have saved your friend's live. Then there is a greater need for her to seek help from psychology centre - at the very least they can help to minimize the suicidal thoughts. |
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Mar 26 2018, 12:01 AM
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QUOTE(marche_ck @ Mar 25 2018, 09:34 PM) This one really, really complicated.... The only thing I can see here from my perspective is that she earns enough money to be able to move out to a new apartment away from her family...into a new life and try pick herself up. I personally don't see how any treatment can work in this case, not when she still has to go back to the monsters den at the end of the day. Unless of course she's sedated until like zombie. Can use law only I guess, legally separate her from her toxic parents. Anyone got legal experience here? Call police? A previous user said they won't interfere unless there is murder. Lawyer? Do we have cases for petty, family matters? Aside from divorce and custody, that is. I've thought of both before, but have never suggested because we will only go as last resort. Also, I've found this from ASKLEGAL: https://asklegal.my/p/5-changes-to-malaysia...ly-hit-home.amp |
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