Mar 15 2018, 03:52 AM
QUOTE(mobc1990 @ Feb 24 2018, 03:23 PM)
Yesterday was my gathering with my family.The dinner was still okay,after the dinner we went out to play Pool and darts,it was very unbearable for me as I was very uncomfortable for 2 hours while playing.My brother and their girlfriend was having lots of fun,laughing getting excited and having chats,while I was bored,aloof and uninterested.When its my turn to throw the darts,I was getting anxious because I felt left out by the group,and felt negative as in I don’t join in well with them.I will describe this as I am unable to get laugh and be happy,and I cannot focus on social and playing...it’s a unbearable 2 hour,anyone had felt like this in any situation before?
I am getting in these kind of situation like 65% of my group gathering
I must say, I find this post to be rather … intriguing, in a good way. I am getting in these kind of situation like 65% of my group gathering
If I may, considering that nothing else about yourself, besides the fact that you were feeling uncomfortable among others, was mentioned in your post, it does suggest that you are an introvert individual, who prefers to spend quiet time with yourself or quality time, engaging with people whom you are comfortable with, on a deeper level; and not just on the surface. If given a choice, you would, without any hesitation, choose to spend time on a one to one, and not with a group of people.
Now, I could very wrong here but if there is a tinge of interest in you to want to nod your head to the statement above, then you, buddy, are an introvert, and in case your train of thoughts ever lead you to believe that because you don’t blend with the crowd, so therefore, you are wrong, then let me just say this, right here and right now, that there is absolutely nothing wrong with being an introvert!
QUOTE(mobc1990 @ Feb 24 2018, 03:41 PM)
Hey,I try to thought it out this way,maybe I am Very introverted...some people are quiet/introvert but they don’t feel uncomfortable around people...At the end of the gathering,my gf(whom I know for two months) says my behavior is weird.I don’t join in with laughter,that’s one of the problem,others laughing but I seem not happy,it’s troubling
Oh, trust me, buddy, you be very surprised how introvert actually feels when they are at a gathering. 
Some of them are just so good at hiding their true feeling, convincing others that they are having a ball, fooling all others but themselves, for only they themselves know just how much they wish they could bolt out of there, and get back into their comfort zone of quiet and quality time.
Mind if I ask, what is your ideal social situation that makes you feel like you are the top of the world?
QUOTE(littlegamer @ Feb 25 2018, 07:52 PM)
You are not the only one who felt this. Ever since my last relationship ended badly, I have been that way for almost a year. I got always feeling like want to hide somewhere. I can't mix with anyone, even my closest friend and I start to stay away from family. Probably I think staying away from them so I don't need to let them worry. Same here, trying to recover and learn back to at least be slightly sociable
Sorry, buddy, to hear of your relationship that came to an end last year but YOU and I, that’s right, WE both know that that is NOT the end of everything else in your life. 
It is a challenging time when someone, whom you are in a relationship with, whom you consider to be very close to you, for such a length of time, to now walked out on you, leaving you behind and all alone BUT no matter what had happened, never ever stay away from your family members, for they can be the safety net that cushions the fall, of any kind.
Trust me, when I say that getting back on your own two feet, by yourself, is not only challenging but can be dangerously misleading too.
No one was meant to be alone. We all need each other for support and in the words of Dominic Torreto, played by Vin Diesel in the Fast and Furious series, family are the most important people in one’s life!
That line was not just another Hollywood line but there is a lot of truth behind it.
This post has been edited by domcobb: Mar 15 2018, 03:53 AM
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