Hi I want to know any opinion on how much to share or what to share with my parent-in-laws especially mother in law? about my personal life/family
i have dated my boyfriend for 9 years and we are going to marry next year....i am moving into his family house as we can't afford to buy a house/save more if stay with his parents...
so far we are in good terms and everything went well with his family side....a happy normal family...normally we have meals together but i dont share much about my personal/ family life....they just know the basic stuff...like where i stay....family members how many...work occupation....
but now that we are marrying soon...i worried about the first meet-up of our both family....for wedding planning...future gathering....etc....
i have a dysfunctional family...my parents divorced...each have own new partner....mostly me and my siblings used to take care of ourself...study...grow up...work...have gf/bf...basically we just move on with our own life....not much 'family day' stuff....my relationship with my family members are good times + bad times...is mostly quite a 'unhappy family' i will say...everyone is selfish tc ourself (no providers...parents poor and dun reli provide us much financially).....argued alot about family issues...money issues...taking care of parents issue...(both parents fall sick nobody got time to 24/7 tc them)...
my only safe and happy sanctuary is with my boyfriend... he loves me and take good care of me
so now...is like a time bomb ticking...if my ugly family background eventually spilled off....a ugly truth....i duno how my family side will react/respond or behave themself...or they will show 'patern patern' when meet up my bf family..ow ..
im quite worried if things turns sour ....huh
any idea how to talk with my in-laws....how much extend to share about my life, background,history...etc? in a more positive tone......
and what better avoid/not to share......as i know people are judgmental but i really hope my in-laws will love me and will not be effected by the meet up or the not so nice truth...
i scared their perception about me changed and treat me differently after that.......
Do & Don't to share with in-laws, About my personal life/family