Lowyat forum prefer norm that is more commonly used, not some type of complex terms that sounds too powerful for commoners to comprehend
Did abit of searching for these terms. From what I understand:
Alpha: Active, aggressive, egoist
Beta: Passive, dependent, less assured of oneself
So... apparently TS is asking:
1) Should the male be more active or passive?
2) Should the female be more active or passive?
3) Which pair is better: Active male with passive female, or active female with passive male?
For me, it's like asking which gender should be more fierce: male or female? Can't be equal? Or precisely, is there a need to specify which gender should be fixed with certain attributes?
In the end, it's all up to each individual on how their character, personality, behavior is, as well as the person that they choose to be with.
Sounds like not answering the question? I am, because I don't really know what TS wanted to ask