I have been married twenty over years. my husband is not close to me. i have an older married lover, together happily for 4 years already, . and now I have a same age as me admirer who has declared his love for me. And this guy is also fantastic.

I want all of them. I am confused

You already answered it

Just be happy as you wish!

take all of them

Yes... I shall enjoy all three

What is there to confuse?

Am not trolling. i am facing this situation now. i have to let out my feelings to feel better.

Masuk Islam, you still have room for 1 more

To juggle 3 men....

u know there are kids surfing this forum. PM me if you are looking for 4th man.

4th man.... Deadly

Not sure if you are trolling. In 2015 you said you been together for 1 year. In 2017 you say 4 years. Doesn't add up.

If you aren't, I find you very appalling. To be able to act like nothing is wrong at home while doing these things behind your family's back. Do it properly. If you have lost feelings for your husband, ask for a divorce.

If I ever found out my mom did what you did I will cut her out of my life. Maybe doesn't matter to you but one day if you ever lose your kids, I hope u look back and think long and hard if its all worth it.

Ok... So about 3-4 years lah.... Got my numbers wrong but fact is there.
My kids sympatize my life they said...

when their mummy is lost and am drown in it, of course, they sympathize you.
no one say is wrong, you dictate your own life. but then you need 3 men for great sex yet, you couldn't find fulfillment in life.. now even i sympathize you.

I'm impressed. How did you find enough time to handle 3 guys?
Anyway, I always though for any adulterer, status quo is the best... who knows.

These guys knew each other?

hahahahahaha, after reading her post, i find it very funny yet I respect her for her choice to be willing to chase after her happiness. seriously, adults are no different than children, just the body size. In fact, as people age older, they tend to get even more childish(well, some not all).

at the end of the day, i realized malaysians, just like any other country citizens, are thirsty for love(which includes sex in a consensus way) but somehow they punish themselves by creating a lot of unnecessary "stereotypes" and "idealistic religious identity" which weighs them down and makes them become more fake and less authentic. This mentality will bring rise to a lot of sexual misconduct(through forceful rape and faking up identity to discriminate people that are not in the "mainstream normal way") due to depression of natural human behaviour as a result of the whatever idea that people created themselves.

At the end of the day, everyone is different in their own way. To judge people who are different from you and discriminate(act as if you are God), that's a highway to developing mental illness community.

Take my advice :

Enjoy it to the fullest, so you had no regret when you die in future.....

Arent ya a horny one

R u n ur husband still living together?
Why not divorce or at least live ur separate life?
Ask ur bfs to buy u a new house as a form of longer term investment, they get to enjoy more private time partying with u without engaging lodging service at the same time compensate ur depreciation of sex drive with appreciation of prop value, triple winning solution

Sorry i can't help it but think how 3 men can share her at same time.

Husband doesn't care about her anymore, i presume
So left the old lover and the newly on board mid age uncle admirer

How does TS look like?

If you don't love your husband anymore, just divorce him. Then choose one man to be with. Doesn't need to be married but be loyal to one.

You can change partner along the way if you found another man. But juggling 3 men at the same time is just a bad. You don't get respect from me.

This post has been edited by abubin: Oct 31 2017, 11:36 AM

divorce your husband already... it definitely set u both free. he probably out there having same issue with u.

Grass is always greener on the other side and people cherish you more because you are not theirs yet but once you are theirs, you will be neglected again.

It's either you put in effort to work in your marriage or you risk having it failed miserably. You cannot hope for a flower to bloom but only moss and weed, if you don't take care of it properly.

Go for a therapy and try everything to fix what you have now (ie the marriage), don't give up just like that. You'd be surprised what you can find out in a couples' therapy.

Sometimes, it's not that both of you don't love each other anymore. Just that both of you stopped professing it and somewhere along the way, both of you forgot that you are in love.

Both of you are so deep into the marriage that both of you think that your relationship is secured and need no work anymore. Maintaining a relationship before and after marriage IS the same and it requires the same effort, if not, more.

The reason why marriage fails so much is because one party took the other for granted thinking that "he/she will be at home waiting for me, where can he/she go when he/she is already married to me". Over confidence will kill the marriage without people even knowing.

When one is not reminded that they are loved, it is very easy to stray and be influenced. Surely the feel of having an "extra-marital" affair is all good, exciting and well but once it is committed, the vicious cycle continues.

Everyone crave for care and if one party stop showing and a new person comes up and portrays to you that quality, needless to say, almost instantly you will feel that you are in a bad marriage.

This post has been edited by shaniandras2787: Oct 31 2017, 11:44 AM

You are in a loveless marriage and in another fubu relationship with a married men that so happens want to spend just 1 days out of 7 in a week to be with you and kept you hidden and non committal for as long as possible. Definitely you need another companion.

Why not get another 5 more ? Clearly this is going no where.

Just divorce your husband and get a proper partner that provides you with the emotional and attention you required and dont take you as just another of their fling and excitement feel young again pill.

Try witholdings sex from those two married men for 3 months and let us know is the emotional and psychical compatibility is still there or not.

Consider an open relationship?

u need ur husband for the kids;

u need the old lover for lust;

u need young lover for?

Anybody can say anything here, at the end of the day, ppl here (or out there) don't care wadashit u did or who u r. So, live ur life. U wanna juggle 3 or 30 at the same time, go ahead.

Remind me of an Aletta ocean scene

u looks like u really like open relationship...pm me

3 men:
Husband: Not close to you. Will he care bout your relationship?
How old is your kids? Will your relationship affect them much? If so, you want to be a women 1st or mother 1st?
Older men: Does his wife & kids knows about you? Will them feel hurts?
Same age men: Does he knows you are married?

If all the parties are informed and decided to keep the relationship (whether openly or secretly), you can have all 3.
But of course, the morally right is choose only 1.

This is so sick. People nowadays tend to rationalize their wrongdoing. The distant relationship of you and your spouse doesn't give allowance for you to be deceitful and promiscuous.

Have 3 men in your lifetime = lesson learnt = experience

Having 3 men appear at the same time = poor self management = letting the men pulling you around.

Continuing in such situation = no self respect = giving bad examples to the kids

I am pretty confident that you should have a very interesting look/body shape....that's why so many option around you.
if you want all, and you can manage it. Do it. seem that is your wish.

Make sure you able to control it, else if everything burst, you might be the alone yourself.

Interesting advices from many.

as for me, still ongoing, monotonous relationship with husband, sexful relationship with the old man, eventful relationship with the same- age guy but without sex.
Both of them love me very much. so, am enjoying one day at a time.

Some of you asked me about my kids about how they perceive my going out with these people. Well, both are young adults, , and they told me that they want me to be happy, as i have sacrificed all my life , 20 years of my time solely focused for the family, so, they think i deserve happiness. i am thankful that they think this way for me, because it means that my kids love me. And all my sacrifices for them and my husband touched my kids....

Yes, I am considered beautiful for my age and i am blessed with that but with it , attracts other sets of problems as of now.

i go out with the other two men but i have to reassure the older guy that I am only best friends with the other same-age guy. jealousy prevailed

You are a greedy woman. You are not close with your husband but yet you still live with him without divorcing. You have an affair with older married lover and yet you think it's morally right. You have a mid age admirer and you yet you continue like you are still single but hey who am I to judge you?

Just that I had an elderly friend who recently contracted with AIDS. Get a quality rubber condom always yah......

Just to keep some perverts here hopes, dreams and fantasies alive, I present you guys a fantasy of TS appearance...........

Thanks for the imagination

At the end of the day, the answer is so simple:

TS MUST DECIDE WHAT SHE REALLY WANTS IN LIFE.

Itu saja.

Status quo & keep bonking all three? Or keep husband, pick one of the other two to screw? Or leave husband, bonk the other two? Or leave husband & stick to one of the other two?

No right answer, coz it all depends on what TS wants in her life.

But if u guys ask me, I bet TS depends on hubby for money to keep looking good...without which the other two guys would faster siam her.

So I would recommend that she f**k all 3 guys and enjoy it while it lasts, coz sooner or later a 3-way f**k will surely kantoi.

Why find trouble, and dig own grave, put self in dilemma.....

i can be no 4

woah! This is very interesting! Your 65 year old lover can still perform well in bed? He takes viagra?

why not 3p...
hahah

interesting cool story. parked for more.

This thread almost 1month already still hot?
Its either TS happy trolling or happy to be bodoh.

Side dish kata wifu and him friend only. Who exactly knows if it's true unless message came from the wifu directly towards side dish?

Wifu pulak must be assuming/suspecting side dish yang made the move towards her hubby. But is it really true?

Dah lah dua-dua Sama bodoh, the married man makan kuaci enjoy the possible cats fight.

Just do what you think that makes you happy.. ... other people opinion doesn't really matter
Since your children is okay with it..
Managing 3 or 2 people emotionally is a bit tough..

cheers

You cannot buy "thrill" ok!

You mean the unlucky one that will get AIDS......

I think she done major service on every 10,000KM........

Something is definitely smelly here.......

WTF how old are you?

I'm even more surprise your kids can accept your doing.......

Hi all,
Am mid forties. old partner almost towards 70 but very virile without any viagra or medication. he was sexually active since teens till now. He had more than 100 partners since his teens and no, he has no STD or whatsoever. I am only active with him.
so, don't get me wrong. i want to find love

i believe all of us been given fair chance to crave what life we want..... no matter which direction the ship sailing to, we're the captain of the ship. Good or bad ending, no one knows but us....

im always ready for the 4th one.

Of coz they want you to be happy. But define happy. Do they know what you are doing? If they do, and they think it's ok .. by all means. Just know that if your kids thinks this way and find it acceptable, someday their partner may cheat on them and you should be ok with it too. It has to go both ways, right? Soon, your family and generations will be cheaters and be cheated upon because its your family's believe that it's an acceptable circle of life.

do u know the direction to hell?

u dont? well anyway, go and find the direction and then u can go to hell.

sekian.

Interesting title so I thought I'd stop by to see what the hell and this is my reaction:-



You are not confused, you are just greedy or should I say, you possess the spirit of a cheater.

It's always like this. Same goes with men. They married their wife and then years later, find a fling at work which is exciting and not monotonous, from nothing serious to lunches and then dinners and then on to the bed.

The men will go all the way until that he finds himself confused, do not know who to choose because at one hand, the wife gives him the security and warmness of a family but on the other, this fling gives him the excitement that he has lost with his wife.

Being selfish, the men just keep both of them and ultimately, hurting 2 of the women that this men "claimed" he loves.

This man (Cheater) will constantly thinks that he is the victim because he is in dilemma but frankly speaking, he is the worst kind of person to exist. A Cheater shouldn't be given the choice to choose but rather the choice be put to him. It's either this or not.

You are not a victim, you are just the predator preying on people's emotions, playing cards to your own advantages.

You are not looking for "love", in fact, you didn't even try to look for it. You were waiting for it to be served to you.

Everyone wants something from you, stop giving sex to that old man and stop going out with that man in that "sexless" relationship and see who sticks with you at the end of the day.

You'd be surprised that when you are in trouble, no matter how monotonous your life is with your husband, he will be the first to be there for you.

I hope you come clean with everyone on your promiscuity, this should not be happening.

I do not care what the hell you are going to do with the other 2 extra limbs in your current messed up relationship but be fair to your husband, for he has stuck himself with you for 20 years.

Your so-called "beautiful" feature will wither away and I know you will want to go back to your husband then, don't be like that.

If you still have a heart, which i hope you still do, file for a divorce and set your husband free. As much as you think you are privileged and entitled to do what you are doing, your husband should at the very least know what you are doing so that it could break his heart entirely and then move on.

You will then see how your child will hate you and then kindly sit down and revise again, how is it again that your children wants you to be happy. I bet they will pray to every god they know that you will rot in the deepest and darkest pit available in Hell, the part where even the Devil himself will choose to look away.

There's a special place in hell, waiting for you.

This post has been edited by shaniandras2787: Nov 27 2017, 06:55 PM

Ok... i became promiscuous is only after my 17th year of marriage.
Big part of reason is that I wanted to find my sexuality and find love again. My husband had affairs since 3rd year of marriage, and then for the recent past few years, he asked me to sleep separately, much to my sadness and disappointment. Though I showed my love to him since our marriage began, he did not return his love to me in the mid-later years.
I became VERY unhappy, cried daily, and suffered bouts of depression for some months. Then somehow, met the first guy through friends and fell in love....so thats how the story began.....

So your hubby went so low to cheat on you and you decided to stoop just as low as he was?

You are a married woman who got hurt by husband affair, which was why you want another married woman to suffers the same by having affair with her husband?

How can you prove his wife is ok with it? Even if she directly tell you to boing her husband, what makes you think it is ok to hurt her children?

So tell us ,how did you have the affair and sex talk with your children, since they understand and approve you go hunting for the lovey dovey and sexual pleasure. I'm sure you don't mind telling us all since you can tell your children and they were convince to it. Please don't tell us you didn't mentioned to them about the married man with wife and children ya?

Better still invite his children over and introduce to your children make a family already. I have to mentioned all this because you don't seem to see this as abnormal.

then go for it...what is it that you're confused about?

when you became promiscuous is not even a valid defense for what you have done, in fact, it's not even an argument to justify what you did.

sure, your husband did it first and thereafter sidelined you for years but why do you choose to stay in the marriage? what was the element that kept you in this already forsaken marriage?

do not even dare to say you "stayed in the marriage for the children" because honestly, you know this is not the truth.

just to be clear, i am not defending your husband and truthfully, i condemned him as much as i condemned your actions, if your husband no longer wants the marriage, file a divorce, clear the status and do what you guys want but please, don't taint the sanctity of marriage because of both your selfish desires.

you know what is funny, rather than going for a therapy to fix things, you decided to "get back at your husband" by doing what he did to you and it seems like you have the motivation to better them by not having only one extra-martial affair but 2 simultaneous ones.

I would not be surprised. Find that men usually resort to physical violence while women try to find comfort by approaching other men.

It is really hard to draw the line between right and wrong when it comes to sex, love and morality.

It’s pretty cold now. TS, your novel is getting out of hand. Try harder, it’s getting to freezy cold....

An unexpected twist in your story? Your husband having affair before you? 7 letters - D.I.V.O.R.C.E

End of.

wow...you want all of them

Not a twist lah... It was already like that

Frankly, most people still stay in the marriage is because of not wanting to hurt the young kids' emotionally. apart from that, is less daunting than a divorce.

By the way, my old lover's kids. are in early forties. Met them already. Turned out normal

This post has been edited by gloryyan: Nov 29 2017, 11:54 AM

Appreciated all comments.... I shall give a thought on all.

This post has been edited by gloryyan: Nov 29 2017, 11:54 AM

You didn't mentioned about your husband was having an affair in your posting and out of the blue, suddenly he commits an infidelity before you?

Why can't you divorce with him and enjoy your life with the elderly lover behind his wife's back?

Her alasan berlambak-lambak dah.
Tak sampai hati sakit hati anak sendiri tapi sakit hati orang lain tak kisah. Selfish namanya.

Lagi lah alasan dia, the married man children dah adult so it's ok, boleh considered normal.
My hubby punya sis pun mistress orang lain, depan dia je all relatives treat her baik normal....bila dorang pusing belakang lain cerita dah.

Ts naivety level 100%

Tak kisah ler dia nak laku curang tapi ikut lah prosedur betul betul. Ceraikan suami dia and suruh sugar daddy tua dia ceraikan sekali bini dia!

Ini macam bak pepatah orang Melayu cakap "Lagi Tua Lagi Menggatal!"

Ikut procedure nanti dia tak boleh berdikari, Sama je with that married man, start life all over again are the things they do not want to go through again because THEY KNOW...lama-lama nanti situation dorang kembali sama macam marriage dorang sekarang wahahahaha irony

This post has been edited by D10yrspain: Nov 29 2017, 01:42 PM

Jelas sekali TS macam bergantung dengan suami pasal kewangan sebab tu sampai sekarang tak nak bercerai walaupon anak anak dah bagi verbal approval.

Dunia ni penuh dengan drama dan manusia adalah pelakon-pelakonnya............

Anak dia bagi approval ke tidak, kan dia boleh decide sendiri? Alasan je dia bagi.
Ever seen people using a lie to cover up another lie and so on...?
Sama je, using alasan to cover another alasan and so on.....
You are correct about the drama and it never ends.....balik balik come back here with another thread about her affair again and again.
Suka hati dia je la nak jadi time bomb.

I lol @ all the comments. I guess TS just wants to share with someone. Could also be trolling for all we know.

As long as TS not hurting anyone. At her age, at least she can still enjoy her life and try to find happiness. There is no right and wrong anyway. However, might be a bit unfair to the married guy's family but I guess he is way way older and it doesn't really matter at that age.

Her nick name also Glory Yan...... so go for all the glory and be glorious......

... what is the purpose of this thread again? O.o

Don't bother knocking reasons when one is already naive as that

To agree with her and say, yes, do it. Take all of em. Heck, to make it even, take every husbands you can swallow.

Childish behavior alert!

This post has been edited by alexanderltc: Dec 14 2017, 11:55 AM

lust and love....differentiate it babe

Oooi.... Wake up la. Your husband not dead yet.