=.="""""" Not me la....i am those weak weak type..easy to get bullied kakakkakaka...

btw, jdreamer, when are you going to let us see your gf's pic ah?

oh, is it if I show the pic of me and my bf..then you will show the pic of you and your gf?? Promise?

@@""" help help!!!! SOS!!! Must call the doctor to heal all the LDR couples here. Suddenly in such a short time a lot of problems arise *faint*

Joshua, well, after reading your "story" here, I also dont know what to say. This is because sometimes I also did that to my bf (feeling regret now). Anyway, I can understand very well your doubtful feeling whether want to call her at that moment or not cause you scared that you might disturb her when she is in the midst of busyness as I was also facing the same problem with my last relationship. I think the only way you can show your caring is through sms, ecards or emails. The others depend on your gf whether she can feel that actually you very care about her.

About the way she talks to you i.e. fen kai, no yuan fen, no correct timing, she doesnt need you etc., gals tend to say things due to impulse (yi shi chong dong) without really considering the feeling of those who listen to those words (jiang zhe wu xin, ting zhe you yi). I admit that I also do so to my bf too. Well, I think you should point out that you are very unhappy when hearing those words NOT on that day itself but on other days when both are talking heart to heart. Trust me, it will work better when you choose to point out her mistakes on other day as she will realise that she has done a mistake and tried to change that bad habit. You must let her understand that you very care about her everything including each word that she said to you.

About the part you cant help her even she tells you her problems, you must let her know that actually if can, you really wish that you can help her to settle every problem but due to distance constraint, you just cant do it now. Tell her that you also feel miserable and helpless when you cant help her on the spot. Make your promise that you will try to be with her as soon as possible! Let her know that you really treasure her and you rather suffer just to make her happy. If she is mature enough, I believe that after she has heard about your assurance, she will know what to do and say.

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Added on June 22, 2007, 8:56 amlelong1234,

Since you have done your best to show your caring and concern to her, then just let her does her part. Try to mingle with your other friends and not contact her. If she really treasures you and the relationship, sooner or later she will contact you back (after realising her mistakes). But if she doesnt do anything after reading your e-card, maybe she is not the one for you. Why dont take this time to mix with other people while enjoying your life? I know love doesnt come easy but if the one that you love doesnt treasure you, why dont spread your love to someone who is more worth it?

Keep in your mind that the one who really loves you wont make you cry. Letting go someone who you love is his/her loss as you have done your very best! Cheer up ya!

Again, yesterday and this morning she said something bad to me. Sigh sigh sigh...

I ask her why she recently like to say something to hurt me. She said she don't know. She said she just know always now to think continue to spoilt our relationship only. I really don't know what happen to she.

mine just ended 4days ago..but i still love her as much as before..
i'm lost and im hurt.

Wah, your gf is really weird    Does she have any problem in Singapore? I think both of you should really discuss about this matter seriously. Or is she just kidding? But joking has also a limit...Really weird   

u 2 have been go through many yrs d...
don easy to say break up...
hope u 2 can be fine soon...
best wishes from icecream^^

Just registered. First post. Must be someone close to Joshua!�

haiz.. seems like this is a bad week for alot of us. sigh.. until now no reply from 'my gf'

just came back from a movie.. enjoyed it. but every time i see another couple, i think of her and feel kinda down. oh well.. life goes on..

=.=""" Since the very 1st day we decided to involve in a LDR, we already have the expectation that our loved one wont always beside us and doing things together like other normal couples.

Joshua, I think your gf is being playful and doesnt really mean what she has said. Like I said before, find a time and try to let her know of your feelings when she said those kind of things. But remember, discuss in a peaceful manner ok?

toottut89, well time will heal. Provided that you are willing to let it go and let the time does its magic. Trust me as I have been through this before too. Try to mingle around with your friends or fill your free time with activities so that there wont be extra time for you to think about her. Try to get busy with anything. I know the first stage sure very hard to encounter but just try your best ok.

spunkberry, wah, got new lover already huh? That's a great news! Good luck in everything ya!

lelong1234, you did a great job for your first step. Well, it takes time to heal. Just relax and remember my previous advices. I can understand your feeling when looking at other loving couples but why dont you look from other perspective? Next time when you see another loving couple, try to look beside you and tell yourself that you are not alone cause you have best friends with you too. Friendship is forever while relationship tends to fragile easily! Remember that k.