HEY ppl~ back here~..happy for ya kokuryo..so sweet to ya GF..all the best for ya proposal..

Anyway my girl's quite okie now...will keep on encouraging her no matter what happens...results will be out in the beginning of May *keeping fingers cross* hope everything goes the good way

thanks...

your encouragement to your gf is priceless and so meaningful... she will be fine..

reporting....photo will be up later. XD

EDIT: OR how about now? Hehehehe.

This was taken when he came to Japan to visit me for two weeks during my spring break holidays.

This post has been edited by spunkberry: Apr 19 2007, 03:43 PM

sweet sweet couple...... happy for both of u....!!

Actually, I dun plan to tell. I am too stress now for my assignment, so decide to have a break and tell you guys my story.

Recently, her house rental increase and she start to face financial problem. I tried to advice her, console her, help her, etc.... In the end... She said I am kaypo. That's the 1st thing. Then I keep quiet and continue my kindness and try to help her... Again, she said none of my business and it is her business. Come on man.. 1 time is enough, 2 times to hurt me? Fine fine fine.. I understand her situation and forget about it... Complained to her that I am unhappy.

Ok, the next day... She told me she wanted to go for cabin crew interview. Although I don't like her doing this work as I know it is very complicated in this line(my brother told me as he was air steward before), but I just support her all the way because I knew I must support her and not to stop her future or her ambition. So, I find all the interview procedure and so on. Told her everything, advice her, blah blah blah... She said it is because of the salary is interesting that's the reason she wanted to go for that interview. But she worried about her future, her studies and so on.. I advice her again... She then she said she will just find a rich man and just marry him. I really got upsad. Come on man... This is not the way to get merajuk, lepas geram also lar not this way. Over the limit already.

Seems like she treat me like outsider. Sigh... I don't know what to say lar... I just tell her she did not respect me at all blah blah blah.... She said it is all because of her 'Qi Hua'(angry word in chinese), but that's not the way.... SIGH

You can add me. Joshua_0718@yahoo.com

Will add into the 1st post.

Sweet couple

This post has been edited by Joshua_0718: Apr 19 2007, 04:36 PM

Joshua_0718, sad to hear that.... hum.... actually u are exacly like my style, u know somehow u dun like your gf do something but u will still support her all the way, help her all the way... me same too, coz we really cant stop what the other party wish to do, if u stopped it will turn out ugly...
but after we support even we not really agree on what they wannt do, all we need is they APPRECIATE our effort, understand why we support them so much...
*touchwood* my gf really appreciate things that ive done.... but as what i can see, mayb your gf oso appreciate wat u did, just that currently she hav some financial problem and that bother much of her thinking now, so she really doesnt mean to say something to hurt you gua....

I know she doens't mean it. But.... sometime it is just too much, and I got feeling too....

i duno izzit most of the girl are like tat.. sometimes when something bothering my gf, her mood will change, say things that kinna rude and yes sometimes hurts me too... but i will have to understand her situation and juz dun add oil into the fire.. normally i will just diam diam let her say watever she wanna say...
after her mood back to normal, she will apologize to me...

kokuryo,

your action might be correct. can avoid quarrel. however, sometimes, you need to let the girls aware of their mistake too. you get what i mean? sometimes i did that too. my bf will keep quiet. then when i'm calm down, he will say out his feeling and say my wrong doings that i hurt him. i apologize and i try to correct my mistake. he in turn try to guide and of course, gave me time to improve myself.

Well, also sometimes for us guys, have to look at our luck.. Not trying to be funny here but it's true that sometimes the PMS tend to make the girls emotionally unstable.. That's where our luck runs away.. - Like me two days ago, I just told my gf's mistake but it ended up her being getting hurt by the words I said.. I think I told her too frankly.. But at the same time.. if I were to keep quiet, I'm afraid that problems may occur in the future.. I really want to create as less problem as possible.. Anyway, about the yesterday thing, it was my fault too.. But now at least we got the problem solved.. Anyway, it's all about give and take. - There are limits when it comes to give and take too.. So both sides have to compromise.. The main key thing is communication.. But hey, in this world nothing is perfect though.. Haih....

i agreed with you to let them know their mistake.. but my gf, thatz her style, she behave like that since long time ago and i personality think that dun 'ASK' your lover to change something that is already build inside her... coz she can change now but i think her behavior will still come out 1 coz itz inside her... i will have to learn to accept her behavior to aviod quarrel lo....

What's her horoscope?

You asking who ????

if ur asking my gf, she's Pisces...

Dear Joshua,
I can understand your feeling. Well, from what you typed here, I really can say it's really her 'Qi Hua' cause gals tend to say things that they dont really mean at all for e.g. you are kaypoh, none of your business..it's my business or even find a rich man and get married..honestly I will also say those things to my bf too It's because gals' behaviours are greatly affected by their feeling at that very moment but after they have calmed down, they will realise automatically their mistakes without need to be told. Joshua, honestly to tell you that sometimes we dont realise that what we are saying will hurt the feeling for those who listen them cause 'shuo zhe wu yi, ting zhe you xin'

Well, like you said, what has been said, cant be taken back. All just depend on both of you on how to mend back the mistakes and you also have to try to forget what has past. Hope that this wont affect the relationship between both of you. Well, my advice to you is that at the time you feel very disappointed with the relationship, why dont sit back and think back on the sweet memories between both of you?For sure, after that, you will think that it's kind of silly to be upset over such small matters

Dont be unhappy anymore oh ok

yeah, the changing has to be done by her for HERSELF. not for you. you get what i mean? well, like me, i changed cos i wanna be a better me. cos sometimes, my bf could take my attitude and compromise it but not other people. so it's for my own good also.

yup... i know what you mean... i hope she thinking the same way too...

from my understanding, you mean to say girls like to let it all out instead of keeping something inside? words hurt and kill even more when it's being uttered from someone so important to you. *sigh*

Dear firewire,

I understand what do you mean but for what I have said just now does not really apply to ALL gals. Some gals will tend to speak out all from their hearts while there are some who tend to keep all those in their heart. But I tell you, it doesnt mean that when the gal prefers to keep all in her heart is better cause it might be more hurtful and killing in the end. Well, you can try to tell them their mistakes after they have calm down and if they really care about you, they are sure willing to change their bad habits

Well, it goes with mood and situation. i tend to let all things out if i couldnt handle it myself. but some of the time, i keep it to myself if i know that it would hurt the one whom i love.