QUOTE(intelredmi @ Jan 2 2018, 08:13 AM)
New Year's update. A few days back my FIL called said that he want to make agreement with that son-in-law of his. In the agreement, he said, he's willing to lend some money, but he have to pay within one month. If fails, the cafe ownership will be transferred to my FIL. Yesterday my FIL said something about my biras being "worse than the devil himself". We found out that the biras dont want any agreement, but my FIL give the money anyway because he's worried about family's safety. We also found out that my biras stole money from his own wife occasionally and made my SIL his guarantor while borrowing money from ahlong, and put my FIL's address, without her knowledge. I never saw my FIL that angry before. It is also found out that my biras is a hardcore defaulter. He default his personal loan from banks, his credit card debt, and never paid back his PTPTN.
My eldest SIL has to stay with them for the time being concerning her sister's and her children's safety because my biras is acting being aggressive towards his wife and children this few days. I also dont understand why the wife still want to live with him. She's beaten physically, her money taken without her knowledge, being cheated before with a younger woman, but still dont want divorce.
This is a dude who will never stand on his own feet. From the history of it, he's not going to stop what he's doing until ah long comes and take a limb or two. He believes your father in law will continue to help him, so he's relying on the poor man. Best to get yr BIL to declare bankrupt since he can't afford to pay his debts. With this, he can no longer start up any business under his own name nor borrow any money.
Make sure you guys spread the word even to ahlong that none of you will bear his debt so better not lend him any. So when there's no willing lender, he will have no source of money. I really pity the sister in law. I believe she sticks to him for several reasons - mainly for the children but I'm sure she really loves him and couldn't bear to see him become worse than he is now (which will happen if she leaves).