tis kind of gal, no point to try talk nicely to her n look for a solution..if she's able to listen n learn, she wouldn't be wat she is now after so many years of life..my advice is, n i mean it, leave her n look for comfort elsewhere, or else one day she'll leave u for some reason (or excuse) then u'll end up like me..fyi, my ex was tis kind of gal but i take the blame coz i knew it b4 we even started..haha