I see so many cases happen around me, but all of them is female part is the Christian.
they first will try to convert their bf/husband to Christian. if fail, they just brainwash and ensure their child is Christian.
cause mother has more time with kids.
Slowly all the husband give up to prevent the argument.

<This is what Christianity call preaching, passing on in simplified way her belief and its part of the faith where you are suppose to pass on what you believe in. So its not a fault. You don't expect a mother to teach Buddhism or Islamic teaching to her child when her own faith is Christianity right? As for freedom of choice, then let the child grow up first before you dictate that. Same as your own household, you are expose to the faith of your parent first either the mother or father and its only at later stage of life you are able to choose or accept. As in Christianity there is further process for acceptance.. you are not bonded to it just because you started with it when you are a child. And God Bless if you accept it from a Christian point of view.>

I wonder how you give a true picture of everything? especially religion?

<This is a million dollar question, still being debated by religious scholar around the world>

if you are Christian, how much you know about buddhism, taoism, muslim and so on.

<This is up to individual, how much they are willing to learn of each other faith>

So you will bring them to all religion talk? bring them to monk, priest, imam or so on for them to have an experience?

<This put in a interesting perspective, as in all religion its more about faith compared to experience. And do you do the same, as normal you be only exposing yourself to your own faith which is not wrong. Maybe good for yourself to go to a few talk to get more experience?>

Actually, alot of parent very upset after their child converted to other religion and forbidden them to offer any incense when going ching ming.
You will hear a lot of those noises of complaining at morning wet market when those aunties talk about it.
They sure will not complain in front of you.

<Cannot blame them, as every parent or elder wanna have their child and such follow their way, same case also with Christianity. You also will hear complain from Christian parent that their Buddist child are not celebrating Christmas with them and not attending the funeral of the uncle that recently pass away as seem they need to pray instead of burning money for the uncle to use. This don't happened to Buddhist side only, just my 2 cents>

for Chinese Taoism mix Chinese culture, spouse normally will not be involved in the funeral but is the son who settles all the ritual.
without all the proper ritual, they believe the dead will not have a good life in the underworld. The elder son needs to carry the flower and buy water.
if the son doesn't practice it, wonder how the spouse will feel, if she also into Taoism. See her husband fail to have a proper funeral, and she can't do anything, while the only son die die doesn't want to involve in the funeral ritual. question is, you will involve in the complete ritual or die die still follow own religion guideline?
I would like to ask also since you say incense is just a symbolic to ease of mind, why Christianity do not allow it?
You say "burning all those an RM5million paper houses to be burnt just to show the world that you are filial", do this equal also to those go temple/church and so on also for filial? This totally 1 part of the culture believe while you condemn it as referring it to ease the guilty conscience.
Taoism believe the dead can receive it, while Christian beliefs, join Christian will go heaven. Same logic right?

<Question of faith, if the child are not in the same faith of the father - Taoism, and not doing the ritual as he don't believe in it, that is his choice. As this cannot be deem not filial as he can practice the ritual of his own faith as that would be cater as filial in the eye of his own faith. Incense is not a Christian practice, therefore most Christian wont do it. As for it being symbolic that also interpretation of faith. Dont think going to temple/church dictate filial as its a place of worship. Burning paper houses are a way to send things to the afterworld and it doesn't dictate filial as anyone can do that, not just the children. Christian believe in heaven and everything is prepared, no need to burn RM5mil house to be received in heaven>


This post has been edited by scsoo: Jun 21 2017, 04:02 PM

Religion Core are good purposes, but the teaching from one another could be different as night and day, so there where belief come in. And those teaching came from different religion cannot be equated as same. Simple example, Christianity and Islamic don't believe in rebirth but Buddhism where atonement of sin are vastly different. Afterlife also vastly different, heaven and hell still there, but different.

Therefore if the path of the religion and what the preacher and bible stated is to have your other half embraces Christianity (yoke), then there is nothing wrong with "if you wanna date me you have to join my church" And in addition, the religion also say put God in front of everything, therefore cant blame her for putting this prerequisite for dating.

Religion cannot be classified as simple, there are more to it... all have different teaching that can differ from each other tremendously. Therefore cannot just say you do your way, I do my way. Of course things can be work out with tolerance, but if you are not ready to step into it, please don't.. there is always a girl with the same faith with you. Try to find her..