Mar 17 2017, 12:15 AM
QUOTE(wls77 @ Mar 15 2017, 11:00 PM)
Hello everyone ! I am posting here out of desperation. I have a problem with my wedding day itinerary which I am unable to solve, mainly due to my inexperience with weddings, ignorance about traditions, and just being generally a male.
First of all, here is the background :
1) I am working overseas, and my fiancé is not from KL, but we are having the wedding in KL as the vast majority of my relatives are from there.
2) We are having the wedding on a Friday, which in retrospect , is a pretty stupid move as the due to Friday Prayers and work, the traffic will be total madness. But its way too late to change as some of our family and guess have booked tickets
3) Solemnisation and wedding dinner will happen at the same place. It begins at 5pm, at Ciao Ristorante, with the solemnisation process before proceeding to dinner
4) I will be staying with my relatives somewhere near Jalan Jelatek whilst my fiancé will be staying (with her family) in a service apartment near KLCC
Here is my initial plan.
- In the morning, around 8 am I head from my place to her place to 'collect the bride'. This is followed by the tea ceremony for her parents and family.
- Hopefully this will be done by 10 am (not sure if its realistic) and I would bring her to my place for the tea ceremony for my family members. I hope to get to my place by 11 am, to be the Friday Prayers traffic. We hope to finish by 1.00 to 1.30pm
-After this she would head back to her place (with the bridesmaid) to do her make up and get ready for the wedding ceremony. With the traffic I am estimating 1 hour travel time ( I am unsure if this is optimistic or pessimistic )
- I'll will get dressed in my own place, and then head to the wedding venue, waiting for bride the to arrive at the aisle.
Essentially my problem is that I think am trying to squeeze in too many things into one day AND make it for my wedding which begins at 5 pm. I am just not exactly sure how feasible this is, especially with the long travel times needed due to traffic. My fiancé thinks it is too hectic and tiring for her and she was hoping for a more relaxed and enjoyable wedding day ( I, on the other hand, has been expecting chaos from day 1
)
One solution I came up was to move the tea ceremony for my family to the Saturday. That way we could make Friday less of a hassle. The 'collection of the bride' and tea ceremony for her side of the family can start a bit later and after that she can stay at her place to get ready for the wedding.
Problem is, would it be a bit odd if I head to her place on Friday morning to 'collect the bride'/tea ceremony, but she doesn't come back with me? Doesn't sound right to me but would like the your opinions.
Having the tea ceremony the next day would also mean that we would have to hire the photographer for an extra few hours the next day ( and I'm not sure how he charges )
Another idea was to have the tea ceremony for her family on Thursday night. But this is also a bit tricky as some of her relatives are only arriving on Thursday night and would therefore miss it. Also, I still have to 'collect the bride' the next day and she still have to come back to my place.
Anybody here have any ideas how to make the wedding flow a bit better, and make it less of a rush ? Its too late to change the date, and cancelling the wedding is not an option lol. Any help would be greatly[I] appreciated
Hi. Firstly, congratulations on your marriage.First of all, here is the background :
1) I am working overseas, and my fiancé is not from KL, but we are having the wedding in KL as the vast majority of my relatives are from there.
2) We are having the wedding on a Friday, which in retrospect , is a pretty stupid move as the due to Friday Prayers and work, the traffic will be total madness. But its way too late to change as some of our family and guess have booked tickets
3) Solemnisation and wedding dinner will happen at the same place. It begins at 5pm, at Ciao Ristorante, with the solemnisation process before proceeding to dinner
4) I will be staying with my relatives somewhere near Jalan Jelatek whilst my fiancé will be staying (with her family) in a service apartment near KLCC
Here is my initial plan.
- In the morning, around 8 am I head from my place to her place to 'collect the bride'. This is followed by the tea ceremony for her parents and family.
- Hopefully this will be done by 10 am (not sure if its realistic) and I would bring her to my place for the tea ceremony for my family members. I hope to get to my place by 11 am, to be the Friday Prayers traffic. We hope to finish by 1.00 to 1.30pm
-After this she would head back to her place (with the bridesmaid) to do her make up and get ready for the wedding ceremony. With the traffic I am estimating 1 hour travel time ( I am unsure if this is optimistic or pessimistic )
- I'll will get dressed in my own place, and then head to the wedding venue, waiting for bride the to arrive at the aisle.
Essentially my problem is that I think am trying to squeeze in too many things into one day AND make it for my wedding which begins at 5 pm. I am just not exactly sure how feasible this is, especially with the long travel times needed due to traffic. My fiancé thinks it is too hectic and tiring for her and she was hoping for a more relaxed and enjoyable wedding day ( I, on the other hand, has been expecting chaos from day 1
)One solution I came up was to move the tea ceremony for my family to the Saturday. That way we could make Friday less of a hassle. The 'collection of the bride' and tea ceremony for her side of the family can start a bit later and after that she can stay at her place to get ready for the wedding.
Problem is, would it be a bit odd if I head to her place on Friday morning to 'collect the bride'/tea ceremony, but she doesn't come back with me? Doesn't sound right to me but would like the your opinions.
Having the tea ceremony the next day would also mean that we would have to hire the photographer for an extra few hours the next day ( and I'm not sure how he charges )
Another idea was to have the tea ceremony for her family on Thursday night. But this is also a bit tricky as some of her relatives are only arriving on Thursday night and would therefore miss it. Also, I still have to 'collect the bride' the next day and she still have to come back to my place.
Anybody here have any ideas how to make the wedding flow a bit better, and make it less of a rush ? Its too late to change the date, and cancelling the wedding is not an option lol. Any help would be greatly[I] appreciated
Sure you can. With a proper time management and scheduling, should be able to organise a simple and yet elegant wedding ceremony. If time is a main concern, you can forget about hiring a " dai kum Jie" and usually we as the photographer will do our best to guide and assist you on the usual standard rituals. On top of that it is also very important to consult the elderly and know what are their requiremenfs. Like for example getting a whole roast pig, a pair of old coconuts, and other rituals. Another thing is also to minimise the number of activities. One of the most time consuming and not that important ones are those gate crashing games. You might want to minimise on that or skip that all together and do the first look instead. Time needed for tea ceremony depends on how many persons are there. The keys is to get everyone ready for tea ceremony instead of calling and shouting, "now is uncle X turn. Where, where is uncle X? A jie, please find and ask uncle X come here. His turn for tea". We have noticed this a few times. That would actually slow down and delayed the process. For tea ceremony I would say about average not more than 5 minutes per couple / person. Usually parent will take longer than that. The other thing that will take time are the family and friends group photos. And also, an average 5 minutes per group. Finishing at around 10 or 10.30 ish shouldn't be a problem I guess. Presumably your bride is ready by 8.00am.
Same goes to the groom's house. Traveling time should be not too bad because the distance is not that extremely far.
Instead of going back to the bride's house to do the make up which is not so "good luck" according to some traditions. Maybe you can instead go to the dinner venue 2 to 3 hours earlier depending on how long the make up artist needs to do the make up. Then I guess it's homerun after that.
The most important is to relax and enjoy the whole wedding process.
Just my 2 cents worth. Cheers.
This post has been edited by flamephotography: Mar 17 2017, 12:33 AM
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