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TSchinti
post Jan 18 2017, 10:16 AM

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QUOTE(Chrono-Trigger @ Jan 18 2017, 10:13 AM)
Learn it from the learned, don't learn 'online' as people can write anything they want.

What is your religion may I ask? if you are ok with buddhism, try to read up a bit on the history and the meditative practices.

If you have affinity for it, let me know I can direct you to proper place and people to learn it smile.gif

if that does not interest you, then you can take up yoga, qigong, taichi, some mumba class at gym - good place to meet friends and people too.

"the mind is the source of happiness and unhappiness"
if you wanna be happy, you must plant the seeds of happiness smile.gif

people nowadays just don't know how to be happy sometimes
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more of a free thinker but dun mind learning new stuff. yea, i never truly smiled for years d...sometimes my fren would ask y i look lik someone owes me money or smtg

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post Jan 18 2017, 10:18 AM

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QUOTE(zhiwee0645 @ Jan 18 2017, 10:12 AM)
go help old people and orphans during your leisure time and you'll see how good is your current life... be grateful dude... I was once to feel the same way as you do and Im totally having the same job as you do...
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hmm..i will try to do tht n c. i am grateful of my life, just tht i duno...im feeling empty or smtg...
harvin6
post Jan 18 2017, 10:22 AM

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you just have to find something that interest you. watch some motivational videos.
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post Jan 18 2017, 10:22 AM

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QUOTE(chinti @ Jan 18 2017, 10:16 AM)
more of a free thinker but dun mind learning new stuff. yea, i never truly smiled for years d...sometimes my fren would ask y i look lik someone owes me money or smtg
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lot of subconscious thing bro.

Takes time to de-condition and re-program how the mind works.

The mind is a powderful thing, it's like an ever-changing operating system. Whatever the decision that is made by the mind (javana process - impulsions) , it creates movement that further reprograms and direct the subsequent mind processes. (habits)

so yeah, a there is such thing as depressing cycle and anxiety cycle.

our job is to arrest this descending cycle, to keep feeding good thinking into the thought stream, and to slowly reprogram the malleable mind smile.gif. And gradually you will yourself getting more relaxed and happier.

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TSchinti
post Jan 18 2017, 10:25 AM

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QUOTE(harvin6 @ Jan 18 2017, 10:22 AM)
you just have to find something that interest you. watch some motivational videos.
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still finding sad.gif

QUOTE(Chrono-Trigger @ Jan 18 2017, 10:22 AM)
lot of subconscious thing bro.

Takes time to de-condition and re-program how the mind works.

The mind is a powderful thing, it's like an ever-changing operating system. Whatever the decision that is made by the mind (javana process - impulsions) , it creates movement that further reprograms and direct the subsequent mind processes. (habits)

so yeah, a there is such thing as depressing cycle and anxiety cycle.

A very simple example to this is like a music that has been played to us for the very first time. Usually , it starts of as a 'neutral' feeling , but it is after a few repeated listening to a piece of music, the feeling of "like" and "dislike" appear in the mind.

So you end up either 'hating' the music or 'loving' it.
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why do i feel lik i heard this phase b4 hmm.gif
isit from some buddhism talk video on youtube?
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post Jan 18 2017, 10:25 AM

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CNY is coming, do you have any friends that would invite you to their open house? or meet up since it is a joyful occasion?


if no one means the underlying issue could be use, you project very negative vibes and nobody would want to hang out with negative people. no offense ya because this are the things i manage to observe through out my life
TSchinti
post Jan 18 2017, 10:28 AM

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QUOTE(Dolan_69 @ Jan 18 2017, 10:25 AM)
CNY is coming, do you have any friends that would invite you to their open house? or meet up since it is a joyful occasion?
if no one means the underlying issue could be use, you project very negative vibes and nobody would want to hang out with negative people. no offense ya because this are the things i manage to observe through out my life
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yea i got a few tht already planned for drinking session.
i guess i project negative vibes as well as i dun smile sad.gif i cant even rmb when was the last time i really smile
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post Jan 18 2017, 10:32 AM

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QUOTE(chinti @ Jan 18 2017, 10:25 AM)
still finding  sad.gif
why do i feel lik i heard this phase b4  hmm.gif
isit from some buddhism talk video on youtube?
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well, it is from the Buddha's teaching smile.gif

Usually our mental illness comes after years of negative thinking/ incorrect thinking.



1. Mind precedes all mental states. Mind is their chief; they are all mind-wrought. If with an impure mind a person speaks or acts suffering follows him like the wheel that follows the foot of the ox.

2. Mind precedes all mental states. Mind is their chief; they are all mind-wrought. If with a pure mind a person speaks or acts happiness follows him like his never-departing shadow

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post Jan 18 2017, 10:32 AM

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QUOTE(chinti @ Jan 17 2017, 08:28 PM)
yea i got a few tht already planned for drinking session.
i guess i project negative vibes as well as i dun smile  sad.gif i cant even rmb when was the last time i really smile
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there must be a reason that you are in that situation..

i suppose your family members are not supportive in anything you do and you are never good enough in their eyes no matter what you do right?
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post Jan 18 2017, 10:34 AM

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QUOTE(Dolan_69 @ Jan 18 2017, 10:32 AM)
there must be a reason that you are in that situation..

i suppose your family members are not supportive in anything you do and you are never good enough in their eyes no matter what you do right?
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i dunno since when i started to stop smiling n for wat reasion, been too long. as for my parents, they dun really care as long as i dun go do drugs or anything bad.
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post Jan 18 2017, 10:41 AM

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ask yourself do you want to change and how BAD do you want it?

frankly speaking nobody can help you unless you help yourself.. including god...
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post Jan 18 2017, 10:41 AM

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QUOTE(chinti @ Jan 18 2017, 10:18 AM)
hmm..i will try to do tht n c. i am grateful of my life, just tht i duno...im feeling empty or smtg...
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find partner? gf?
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post Jan 18 2017, 10:44 AM

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26yo already can start a business in japan...

not many ppl can do that you know
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post Jan 18 2017, 10:44 AM

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QUOTE(Dolan_69 @ Jan 18 2017, 10:41 AM)
ask yourself do you want to change and how BAD do you want it?

frankly speaking nobody can help you unless you help yourself.. including god...
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yes i do wan to chg but im not sure how

QUOTE(flazeroth4th @ Jan 18 2017, 10:41 AM)
find partner? gf?
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falled for someone tht i could nv get in a relationship wit
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post Jan 18 2017, 10:45 AM

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QUOTE(lyc1982 @ Jan 18 2017, 10:44 AM)
26yo already can start a business in japan...

not many ppl can do that you know
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huh? did i wrote tht here?
havent start, its at the planning stage now

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post Jan 18 2017, 10:47 AM

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QUOTE(chinti @ Jan 18 2017, 10:45 AM)
huh? did i wrote tht here?
havent start, its at the planning stage now
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haha...i know from other threads lah

when i was at 26yo...had to survive on rm10 only for 3 meals
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post Jan 18 2017, 10:47 AM

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you can start by looking at things positively, look into the mirror, smile to yourself and tell yourself that everything will get better... smile.gif
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post Jan 18 2017, 10:50 AM

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QUOTE(lyc1982 @ Jan 18 2017, 10:47 AM)
haha...i know from other threads lah

when i was at 26yo...had to survive on rm10 only for 3 meals
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ooh, i guess im kinda lucky. parents doesnt really support my plan on starting up this business tho, they wan me cont to work as kuli engineer for the rest of my life

QUOTE(Dolan_69 @ Jan 18 2017, 10:47 AM)
you can start by looking at things positively, look into the mirror, smile to yourself and tell yourself that everything will get better... smile.gif
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i will try to giv tht a go n c how
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post Jan 18 2017, 10:54 AM

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You can start by going out....find back old friend go out enjoy for 1 day.
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post Jan 18 2017, 10:58 AM

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QUOTE(harvin6 @ Jan 18 2017, 10:54 AM)
You can start by going out....find back old friend go out enjoy for 1 day.
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most married n no time d, the rest...yea they find me when they need help n i do find them to ask them out yamcha every once in awhile, bt nv once they asked me yamcha...

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