QUOTE(kimwoobin @ Oct 13 2016, 07:31 PM)
I thought about that alot too cuz afraid she become dependant to meds. Or meds will make her even worse. But what if she has suicidal thoughts before? Now she never mentioned about it but should I take it seriously? Is taking her to psychologist or chi gong helps?
Actually she always dwell on the past. Even when she has small argument with her family, she would call me and cried. She always thought her family talks behind her back so she feel betrayed. I secretly call her mum but her mum said she misunderstood. I dunno if she paranoid or what.
Within these two years, she had mentioned me about 'wanting to die' 3 times. She said that when she argued with her family. Last time was November last year. Not sure she was just stressed at that time or she really have suicidal thought all along. I really dunno how to react when she said that. I asked her to call Befrienders cuz im afraid I'm not good enough. But she refused.
You know recently got many suicide cases right? When I came across those news I'm worried if she still have that thought. I'm really unsure if she still have it now so I just let it slide. But when she said she didn't have enough sleep for 2 weeks it seems like she is getting worse than I think thats why I decide to take action rather than just watch.
I dare tell you this and hope you will know it though you wont believe it
as you have not/are not going through it:
depression and those that have suicidal thoughts are OVERWHELMED by thoughts that go repeating and repeating OF THE PAST - never of the PRESENT
This is what human mental depression means - cycling thoughts of the past - should have, could have, would have, IF only, What If etc etc
So now that you know the above, I tell you this - FOR SURE - the pills/meds will NOT help
You and her or she and a close close relative or friend - one that she trust and cry to / go to for sympathy and attention MUST
help not by what you put into her stomach and then into her blood to travel to her brain to stop the brain signals from firing - this is like eg if you house has some wires or plug that is short circuiting - the solution is to go to the TNB box and SWITCH the mains off?
Is this the way you solve it???
Guide her with meditation, get her a spiritual advisor - you may even get her
a psychologist (one that encourages interaction - NOT a psychiatrist - that pushes DRUGS
anyway Ive shared experienced of the above with you
as with first hand experience and as a certified therapist - the rest is up to you both
good luck goodbye