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hellokitten
post Oct 10 2016, 12:05 AM, updated 3y ago

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So my Malay friend (i supper with him at least once a month) since the past .. say 10 years... finally getting married at 37 y.o . He memang lone ranger and otaku type... finally managed to find a nice girl that suits him and finally settle down.. his first GF... before that all the while only jackoff to porn online only la.

So if i solo go to his wedding and give RM388 angpow for his wedding ok ka ... since quite close la..

Or is it too little? Don't wanna be so cheapo cos i know he's gonna be quite tight as he's moving out of his house after purchasing a RM800K property.

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post Oct 10 2016, 12:10 AM

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888. more ong
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post Oct 10 2016, 12:12 AM

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Depends his wedding high keras or not, ur relation with him and your financial status. If you are rich as fark, ppls will say u kedekut sial even u give RM888 angpow
patt_sue
post Oct 10 2016, 12:18 AM

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5 ringgit is enough. Put in the sampul/angpow... at the kenduri, you salam/shakehand with the host(usually the father).. put the angpow in your hand while 'shakinghand'.. the host will take that angpow(salam kaut)
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post Oct 10 2016, 12:18 AM

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gift > angpow?
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post Oct 10 2016, 12:19 AM

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QUOTE(patt_sue @ Oct 10 2016, 12:18 AM)
5 ringgit is enough. Put in the sampul/angpow... at the kenduri, you salam/shakehand with the host(usually the father).. put the angpow in your hand while 'shakinghand'.. the host will take that angpow(salam kaut)
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post Oct 10 2016, 12:19 AM

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he do banquet at home? 388 alot imho
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post Oct 10 2016, 12:22 AM

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adoiii....rm388..???
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just put rm5/10 only
is enough
or rm50
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post Oct 10 2016, 12:23 AM

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RM7.90

Tell your fwen nasi briyani with masak merah and sirap bandung. Must include fork n spoon n chair
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post Oct 10 2016, 12:23 AM

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post Oct 10 2016, 12:28 AM

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post Oct 10 2016, 12:29 AM

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are you sure malay like the number 388??

I think malay like other numbers...
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post Oct 10 2016, 12:34 AM

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Itu bukan budaya cina meh?
Or they start ikut liao?
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post Oct 10 2016, 12:38 AM

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kalau xyah xpe ke?
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post Oct 10 2016, 12:42 AM

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Close Friend - RM 50/RM 100.
Orang kaya (close friend), RM 200, RM 300 and above or you sponsor door gifts or cake or one meal ka.
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post Oct 10 2016, 12:44 AM

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QUOTE(Sha91 @ Oct 10 2016, 12:42 AM)
Close Friend - RM 50/RM 100.
Orang kaya (close friend), RM 200, RM 300 and above or you sponsor door gifts or cake or one meal ka.
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post Oct 10 2016, 12:46 AM

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QUOTE(pinkfoxlulu @ Oct 10 2016, 12:44 AM)
i will invite u soon nyah brows.gif
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But I don't normally give moneh. A gift worth RM 100 laugh.gif
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post Oct 10 2016, 12:46 AM

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Kalau kaya mcm Bijan, no problem bagi RM1M.
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post Oct 10 2016, 12:47 AM

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QUOTE(Sha91 @ Oct 10 2016, 12:46 AM)
But I don't normally give moneh. A gift worth RM 100 laugh.gif
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post Oct 10 2016, 12:47 AM

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QUOTE(pinkfoxlulu @ Oct 10 2016, 12:47 AM)
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post Oct 10 2016, 12:58 AM

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post Oct 10 2016, 01:02 AM

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Believe it or not, my Friend gave a bar of soap in an envelope.
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post Oct 10 2016, 01:08 AM

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QUOTE(hellokitten @ Oct 10 2016, 12:05 AM)
So my Malay friend (i supper with him at least once a month) since the past .. say 10 years... finally getting married at 37 y.o .  He memang lone ranger and otaku type... finally managed to find a nice girl that suits him and finally settle down.. his first GF... before that all the while only jackoff to porn online only la.

So if i solo go to his wedding and give RM388 angpow for his wedding ok ka ... since quite close la..

Or is it too little? Don't wanna be so cheapo cos i know he's gonna be quite tight as he's moving out of his house after purchasing a RM800K property.
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Malay don't take their sampul and note, whose who sampul it is.. Basically, they're fine with any amount less than than rm50.

If you're really his close, SERIOUSLY NAMED your sampul, inside or outside. I'd say better higher than rm300. Yea, you know how deserted we are after wedding sad.gif
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post Oct 10 2016, 01:14 AM

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RM50 sudah + what kind of kenduri they do ? some didn't accept money or prize btw , just go and eat only .
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post Oct 10 2016, 01:20 AM

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post Oct 10 2016, 01:37 AM

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Normal $10 - $20 if alone.
Close friend / subordinate / relatives $50
Immediate family member >$100 - $1k

Malay wedding no money also they don't care and they don't keep track who gives.

They just want you to eat & celebrate the occasion

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post Oct 10 2016, 02:02 AM

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QUOTE(Anwark @ Oct 10 2016, 01:58 AM)
This is so true. Malays dont care much about money because they already happy celebrate the wedding and give their guest eating food and drink.

But we as a guest also want to give money to them because we also very happy they happy wedding.
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post Oct 10 2016, 02:41 AM

huh..????
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As long as u come..he'll be happy to have you..more than angpow
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post Oct 10 2016, 03:26 AM

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malay angpow RM0 pon bole, but usually RM20-50
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post Oct 10 2016, 03:47 AM

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Better give household items la. More appreciated like that. Something simple like kitchen items, rice cooker, electric fan, chair, etc. Make sure not too big the present if not you make other people that give present feel kecik hati.
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post Oct 10 2016, 04:10 AM

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Make sure u give to ur friend not his parents
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post Oct 10 2016, 04:38 AM

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Malay not really care la, as long you datang his kenduri, he already cukurr la
RM20 already enough since u his kawan


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post Oct 10 2016, 05:51 AM

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post Oct 10 2016, 12:48 PM

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i normally sponsor one table at a good friends wedding. no matter the cost.


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post Oct 10 2016, 12:54 PM

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datang je bagi support

make sure u datang dengan waifu, lagi syiok
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post Oct 10 2016, 12:54 PM

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QUOTE(Sha91 @ Oct 10 2016, 12:42 AM)
Close Friend - RM 50/RM 100.
Orang kaya (close friend), RM 200, RM 300 and above or you sponsor door gifts or cake or one meal ka.
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This.. 50/100 already enough..mind you,if the ceremony is done at home,per head catering is about rm10-15 only.. IF the venue is high keras one,give lah 100..
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post Oct 10 2016, 12:54 PM

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QUOTE(magnesium @ Oct 10 2016, 04:10 AM)
Make sure u give to ur friend not his parents
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This. Normally if u handover the money to his parents it will be theirs. Unless u give it directly to him, he wont get it.

But this is among my friends and family la. Other ppl families may be different.
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post Oct 10 2016, 12:57 PM

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Closed friends you give ka pinggan mangkuk atau toaster or etc...
Normal friend below rm50 enuf
Random ppl rm0-rm10 enuf
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post Oct 10 2016, 12:59 PM

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QUOTE(aius026 @ Oct 10 2016, 12:54 PM)
This. Normally if u handover the money to his parents it will be theirs. Unless u give it directly to him, he wont get it.

But this is among my friends and family la. Other ppl families may be different.
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Pity wei your friends and family... Most malay just give to the parents la... If not poket pengantin penuh duit and jatuh sini sana... They need to concentrate on layan ppl and ambil gambar sumore... Moat of the time parents just handover the money to pengantin when finish.
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post Oct 10 2016, 01:00 PM

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actually for malay, no need angpau wan... need your blessing only,, as long you turn up, that's good enough..

i didn't give anpau, i became my malay colleague pengapit instead =D
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post Oct 10 2016, 01:01 PM

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Give how much you want to give, he probably doesn't give a shit.
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post Oct 10 2016, 01:01 PM

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Malay don't take ang pao for wedding, 2 bottle of 100 plus will do.
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post Oct 10 2016, 01:03 PM

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Ayam meleis, during my wedding, i never expected any angpow, all i wanted was to share my big day with family and friends, their attendance would be enough.

But one of my really good friend did gave me a really nice chunk though, he's a great guy.
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post Oct 10 2016, 01:03 PM

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No need to give anything la... Your presence is good enough for him as a friend. If your friend is a muslim, he married for the sake of Allah...
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post Oct 10 2016, 01:03 PM

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melei kata - 'berilah seikhlasnya'

mean, just give how much you can afford. rm388 why not.
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post Oct 10 2016, 01:07 PM

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They dont care how much u give la..even if u dont give also they wont be mad. u come to the wedding is more important.
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post Oct 10 2016, 01:09 PM

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RM50 - kawan biasa
RM100 - kawan semasa, jiran
RM200 - kawan baik, teman kerja
RM500 - kawan lama dan kawan baik sekali
Rm1000 - kalo km gila
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post Oct 10 2016, 01:11 PM

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rm10 to rm1000000000000000000000
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post Oct 10 2016, 01:13 PM

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ikut suka u la, at least rm10.. tak wajib pun but to celebrate the pengantin kan..

later u kahwin people will give to u also, the moment after everything finish, sometimes all the money can cover back the wedding event cost.
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post Oct 10 2016, 01:24 PM

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QUOTE(exkaizen @ Oct 10 2016, 12:59 PM)
Pity wei your friends and family... Most malay just give to the parents la... If not poket pengantin penuh duit and jatuh sini sana... They need to concentrate on layan ppl and ambil gambar sumore... Moat of the time parents just handover the money to pengantin when finish.
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Of cos not the pengantin hold laa..pass to the pengapit pls.

Also becos the money for wedding is 70% parent money. Thats why we do like that
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post Oct 10 2016, 01:36 PM

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I usually give the rice cooker I got from my wedding.

Only three more rice cookers to go.
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post Oct 10 2016, 01:52 PM

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Gib angpow and write letter of love
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post Oct 10 2016, 02:03 PM

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Bagi barang bagus bang... buat kenangan...

pastu bagi kat parent dia masa keluar seplo ringgit....
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post Oct 10 2016, 02:10 PM

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QUOTE(Mopiko Lai Liao @ Oct 10 2016, 12:47 AM)
1 salam adalah lebeh bernilai dr segala wang duniawi
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post Oct 3 2017, 01:53 PM

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if wedding in a 2-3 star hotel, how much ang pao we have to give?
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post Oct 3 2017, 02:01 PM

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dah kate close fren at least bagi la 500.
kalo aku kawan ko dah putus kawan dah.... hahhahah
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bagi seikhlas hati
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post Oct 3 2017, 02:02 PM

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QUOTE(Contestant @ Oct 3 2017, 01:59 PM)
Seriously? Really give RM10 to the parents when leaving? If Chinese, u will be cursed until "9 streets"😅
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No need to worry,malay wont open the angpao infront of your face and jot down the name and amount..Just give the angpao to the parents/friend.You dont give anything also OK. thumbup.gif
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