QUOTE(Kanan Jarrus @ Sep 26 2016, 02:37 PM)
i see..... but don't you feel awkward when for eg your 1st son name starts with Lim.... while the 2nd surname is Tan.....??
what is there to be awkward about? It is easily explain that each of them follow each of their parent's surname. Just like married women nowadays no longer using Mrs as their title, and nobody question why they still claim themselves as Ms. It just matter of time to get ppl accept it.
Things change over time, everything is possible and people nowadays are getting more and more open to new options. We sees reason why traditionally kids must carry father's surname, coz father is suppose to be the sole-breadwinner. A wife is really marry into a family with big dowry given to the wife's parents. And her parents no longer need to provide her with food and shelter, and she have to rely on husband family on her living and welfare. Hence, that's fair.
But generation change, where there are lot of women save along for the marriage event. They share house fund, housework and if you aware.. there are some forumers even asking whether he can find a gf who willing to share buying house. But the fact, thou many of you guys who happen to carry the heavier financial weight may claim that girls are $ sucker and zero contribution. But women around me, basically watever the husband contributing to the family, they contributed the same, unless force to be housewife. And women bear the pain and risk her life for babies. Hence, for such women, I don't see why she can't have her say to change the norm practise. And of coz, it well depends on the woman herself whether she sees it awkward to do something against the norm.
But I am not saying that all women have that rights to have her say. I strongly against those princess, lazy woman, brainless kind who ignore their husband's hardwork for the family, and claim that this is their right as well.
But back to TS case. I truly feel surname is not the key issue.. the gap is due to religion, the way it practices here in the country.This post has been edited by cc980024: Sep 27 2016, 08:44 AM