lol kenji, didn't realised have this thread at /k, the watch thread doesn't allow us to rant much about these daddy stuff. Yes, I have a boy and girl, no maid and have to do most of the chores in the house especially when the 2nd arrival is still below 1 yo. But along the way of doing this house chores and cooking, there are positive side of it, as we progress there are lesson behind it. More of like a self actualized kind of stuff, for example, cooking, previously I don't cook at all, but we this condition, I have to pick it up as I don't want to just resort to take out food from restaurant. As I progress and practice and research through youtube, books, I found it therapeutic when I am cooking and even now baking a sourdough bread. Cooking can be as manly as there are science and art side of it, how to prepare food methodologically and understand the science behind it make better food, every time.

There are also a FB dad support group (the dad edge) that is quite good that keep us daddy motivate in being a dad to our child, a husband to a wife, a child to our parent, an entrepreneur and etc...

My humble opinion that you will need to be honest and work on the communication, i guess you guys are newly wed and in the midst to gone through the lifestyle inherit from the origin family. But better dont just say "you are lazy, cuz your are blah...blah...blah...". Maybe started to say like, "I feel that the fish could be taste better, if you could do this and that", then continue from there to express your opinion.

Congratulation! Maybe he is excited that he is able to explore outside and if he is able to reason, then reason with him, else parents have to take turn to jaga lor. Wait till you have 2 and more, the challenge is quadrupled.

I was that positive too when 2nd is otw, however in actual event, especially after work and both of us is dead tired, the smaller one cannot be reason and the elder one is deemed to be stubborn to insist its the elder's right, and your chores is stock pilling, unwashed dishes in the basin, trash in the bin for days.... And you are right, its about emotional control on the particular time, if its doesnt matter, it wont matter. But sometime our emotion is fragile and snapped...

yes, i agree, my lil daugther is very attached to me, like the saying of "past life gf".

Yeah, very nice to have such thread, even at /k. Very good to have the discipline to cook for kids even dining out.

Agree on that, they are like God's sent, test that making us a better person.

Rather than instruct, why don't do it together or have a dedicate time to plan and execute on chores.