So I have been with my bf for X amount of years and we have ald ticked off quite a few stuff on the imaginary adults checklist ie moving in together , buying a house together and are planning to move overseas together soon.

Parents incredibly annoyed over the fact that I don't really buy into the idea of marriage and keep pressuring me to pressure my bf to propose. But to me marriage does equate to happiness. And the idea of stressing/ spending money on one big day and going through a big fat chinese 'yummmmm senggggg' wedding dont appeal to me. I don't even have a wedding board on my pinterest!

They told me that they are afraid that if I dont get hitched then I will rugi. But I have my own career and still take care of myself very well. hehehee

Anyone else here in same boat? How are you handling annoying parents/religious/judgemental relatives?

actually i am almost in the same predicament but involves having more offspring.
but then i m a guy and it was never a problem to me because i did not let it bother me.
people is born with mouth, their mouth is theirs but your ears and emotion is yours.
the best advice i can give you is don't let it bother you.
sarcasm helps to irk those who went overboard.

I guess I just brush it off most of the time. Then again, my parents believe that we only need to get married if we plan to have kids.

And recently, my parents were the ones who were actually telling me stories about their friends's children marriage issues and how the parents are all headache over such issues. Until they also told me maybe it's a good idea to don't get married lol.

Don't let it bother you. It's your life. As long as you are happy and know what's best for you, do it.

Aiyaaa what's wrong if it makes your parents happy with this small request since both of you already consider yourselves husband and wife?
Just do a small scale wedding and go through the usual stuff and it will be the end of the story.

In your case, I think your parents just try to avoid "orang yang suka jaga tepi kain orang" Since, you go everywhere with him, kan lebih manis kalau bergelar suami isteri instead of bf/gf.

Cannot blame parents for having old fashion thought.

Only my opinion.

I think your parents want grandchildren. LOL

but it's very normal lah for parents like yours especially when it involves daughters.
just brush it off. my youngest sister is having the same problem like you with my mom and my eldest sis pestering her to kawin cepat. she keeps saying no money.... cause she always goes travelling with her bf. maybe you can use that excuse. LOL

@PrincipaliteY

The kpc questions never end hor..

@munkeyflo @WesGibbin

Its not for everyone. Of course I believe ppl sud marry lah if they have kids. Else poor kid will be called names..

@ckseong80

I see many of my friends gaduh until wanna break up before the wedding. Then gaduh with bridemaids, parents lah mother in law lah over alot petty issues etc. Y I wanna pay and put myself through that stress just to put on a show for people I see once in a blue moon? If kena pester frm both side until I kenot tahan max I will just sign and use the 'save face' dinner money to go one month holiday.

@carmenyta

Hmm good idea! last time use saving for house as excuse..then saving for reno.. but since house all reno furnished d the pestering start again. need to find new excuse muahaha

My issue has been the children part. Hammering me about it, yammering on about "the next time we see you, we want to see a bundle of joy!" etc etc and it's like, I don't want children. I don't even LIKE children.

I just ignore it. It also helps that I live on the other side of the planet so I don't have to deal with it on the daily basis. It's extremely aggravating, especially the part where they ARE being rude but when you tell them to fuck off politely, they say you're rude.

just tell them i dont want to get married. i will be more afraid to get married than to handle gepo relatives.

If wanna have kids, can just sign at Registrar of Marriage and it's considered a civil union already, right?

Don't even need to bother with wedding ceremonies and dinner all that. Some people just sign the RoS form and skip celebration

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