as a father of a now 5 years old boy. unless you earning the really big bucks, im sorry to say there is always financial pressure. at the time I had my son, i was even unemployed so i know what youre going through. But be honest with yourself and your wife, dont need to play the tough cool guy, at least discuss your fears and concerns with her. this is a life commitment. go through it together. you were planning for it next year anyways right? next year is only 3 months away. so its just a little early.

im not a specialist but i think you need to find the real cause of the anxiety is your anxiety truly due to finances or more towards being a father or something else completely? if you really cant find the answer, then please do seek professional help.

But in my opinion, if it is solely due to finances, you have years and years to improve your situation. bro, you have time to earn more money. but no matter how much money, you cant buy back this time of your life. Its not like the moment they pop out, you need thousands upon thousands in the bank. live within your means, and put in the work. people are raising families on less than 1k household income. its not ideal, but its possible. and there is also BSH/BRIM if you fall into that category. sad to say you may have to cut off some hobbys, friends, etc, but i will say this; only when you become a father, do you understand a fathers love, sacrifice and weight. when you see them sleeping peacefully. you ready to fking take on anything.

jus my 2sen. but anyways, What is it about your finances that you believe is not stable enough to have kids?

why so careless one???

how many weeks already when that happened? if quite big then need to do proper cleaning and confinement otherwise will make her body weak and harder to conceive next

mamypoko quite affordable for the normal range.

airfit also quite cheap if bought during sales...
and bcz airfit can contain more, sometimes it is cheaper to buy airfit (normal drypers use 2 pcs but airfit only 1 pc)

so far my boy tried from the cheapest pet pet to mamypoko airfit also no problem..
closest to airfit i think like genki or huggies green colour also ok

oh ya.. reddish izit bcz you didn't use suitable cream instead? what brand of nappy cream u using?

I use Apple Crumby, Dryper Touch combo. Recently bought another new brand Miezuu. Ppl comment good for overnight soak up all the peeeee!

Only buy Applecrumby from laz/pee during sales. my daughter currently 5 months old.

Ntg to do with 20k earner or young or not.

If your daughter private part is really sensitive, you really need to change more frequent and use better diapers. the cost of visiting doctor for consultation is more exp than your diapers. check if infected by fungus or not. always aleart on the small details. do not ignore small rash because eventually the small patch of rash become huge.

how many RM/pcs your mamipoko airfit and huggies ultra?

i used to be able to get down to RM40/packet for mamypoko but recently the price increased and discount less, the last round i bought on 3.3 average is RM42/packet after discount..

and yes, beware of fungal infection. my son has it but is at the leg area not private part luckily.

we all also young parent la... unless u r <20y/o....