Your Faith is the Title Deed to claim what you have prayed to God.
Non Believers all have the stigma of Sin and thus has this resistance & sometime hatred towards God.

Unless someone pray for God to work in their life to be open, they cannot receive the Holy Spirit.

You MUST pray for your family, it's not an option.

What did your son say that causes him to view Christianity negatively and how often do you pray for him?

Yes every christians are bearing as christ's representative, true but even Paul made this astounding statement that helped me (in understanding) to properly divide 
how to view Church and Christians.

Philippians 3:8 (NIV) - What is more, I consider everything a loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord, for whose sake I have lost all things. I consider them garbage, that I may gain Christ.

A Pastor, Deacon, whichever christian can only go so far to be representative of who Christ is but They cannot be our very Lord Jesus Christ, no matter what.
As Christians we still need to look to Christ instead of looking to people as role model in Church and especially in Church!

And that is the key difference in helping us to stay in Church or stay away from Church.  And I think I've said before prayer for your family is not an option, you have to pray everyday. And I think it's worth repeating this, if you want to see change then get on your knees and pray aggressively because that is what help us connect to God everyday.

With that being said; I mean consider the Apostles, even they admonished the church of that time not to look to them but to Christ.

Acts 14:15 (NIV) - "Friends, why are you doing this? We too are only human, like you. We are bringing you good news, telling you to turn from these worthless things to the living God, who made the heavens and the earth and the sea and everything in them.

Acts 10:26 (NIV) - But Peter made him get up. "Stand up," he said, "I am only a man myself."

Maybe he's looking up to you as one. If you don't go, he may also find it not much of a reason to go.

Yes every Christian should check themselves but I can confidently tell you, none of them are perfect, no one is. In this area we should all exhibit grace and be forgiving because we must remember even yourself and myself we're not perfect, we need as much grace as they do.

I'm not talking about people who on purpose exhibit contradictory lifestyle but people who desire change, understand the gospel but still on a journey with God may have make mistake at times. These we should be forgiving but you if hold them tight with high expectation THEN you need to check yourself if you qualify to judge them, whether your own log in the eye has been taken out.

I guess somehow this could be attribute to some funny reason that when people are Christian, they are automatically associated with being 100% Christian or Christ-like but in fact like all other religions, Christians are always on the journey of learning.
Another reason is probably because of the contradiction that was said. They said such and such are sins, but they themselves did those and still dare to condemn others. I guess this is why people are irked.

Anyway, I learnt a lot from conversations here 

I understand. The thing is, being able to understand and being able to perform are two different thing. And to me, the fundamental idea is that everyone learns until the day one dies. So, the subject A who goes to church every week could have performed more things "Christian-like" but that is also depending on how quickly the person learns, how much one has to overcome current "mistakes" and practice Christian ways of doing things, and ultimately, no one is free from committing err.
Even though I do sense a certain "hypocrisy" in what a hypothetical subject A could have done, I will try to adjust my perception to be more forgiving. After all, it's all about how we carry ourselves, right?

You sure? Most kids do look up to their dad, it's a paternal thing.

Yes not saying you're wrong to expect Church leaders to live up to the standard but if you can just calm down and understand what I'm trying to say, it's a duality situation.

On one hand you can expect but at the same time, as a christian, you exhibit grace as well.

Comment and Judging? I think Luke is quite clear.

Luke 6:37 (NIV)
"Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.

That is related to

John 8:7 (NIV)
When they kept on questioning him, he straightened up and said to them, "Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her."

I concur to a certain extent. Whether the dad is a positive or negative role model, it does have a certain impact on children.

I think all kids do look up to their dad whether for the good or bad and whether we want to acknowledge or not. Children naturally do emulate and become some part of what the parent is.

Will talk to you about the judging part later this evening.

Hey hey chill man. I'm not blaming you. It's not simply hey dad's not going to church. I'll not go too. I did not follow the previous conversations closely. Did u talk to him closely about his pullout from going?

Yeah you're right. It's complicated.
The church I went, it stressed heavily on building family as the nucleus of Christianity. Or at least I interpreted what the pastor said that way. I agree. Seems like Mr. Son isn't that much influenced by you (or at least in terms of religious beliefs).

Anyway, is your relationship with him tight?

I think I have similar issue like your son. hehe...

But aside from pride and ego, I learned to ignore those type of people in church. I focused on God because Men are just hypocritical.

You can be an encouragement to him, something that can make him think like, Hey Dad I know there are people who may have offended you but you still go to Church regardless...hence when you talk about not burning the whole forest despite a few bad trees is shown in what you've said.

As Fathers we are called to lead in the family, that's our role. So I encourage you, go to Church not solely because of people but because of God.

I think i'll skip talking about judging tonight.

Well...I had a rebellious upbringing. My parents would had me in detention most of the time. 

I had "minor" issues with church members as well. Nothing that is too complicated nor serious. It seems that Malaysians don't understand my culture. hehe...

How old is your son now? He'll probably grow out of that "phase" later on. Like I did. It's just a phase dude.

Finished catching up. Thanks for sharing your story.
About the role model thing, it acts both ways. Dad was born in quite a chaotic family. Gamblers, gamblers everywhere. Each has wives. But my dad held on to his own. He doesn't wanna be like the rest of the siblings (to be accurate, his sister is also the better of the bunch). So, to each his own I would say. But if we talk about influence, yes, to some extent you do influence your son. But not totally, especially teenagers (who in anecdote belief are more susceptible to peer influence).

Forget about the role model thing, I'm in no position to give you a better advice than the rest of us here. If you don't mind, I will add one more thing: This period of time will pass. Pray hard to God that He will lead him through his journey of self-finding. Who knows, the right church for him might be somewhere else, and he could fit there better? (This happens to me, somehow). I'm always against Christian, to be fair, because of certain individuals around me who happen to be (in my opinion)... ah, spare me the cursing. I learn a lot from their influence (or negatively reacted) by studying through online sources and reading the bible. Ended up having many unanswered questions, but found a church which could open my eyes (or ears) (thank God for so far so good). So, hopefully your son will come across some place where he belongs.

Brother, my own dad is not a good role model but that doesn't mean I can't be one to my own kid.

Haha...I'm just a bit older than your son.

Great parents are priceless in this world. No gold, jewelry, LV bags can substitute that. 

Dang. u must be as old as my uncle. 

No offense dude.

Pray hard dude.

Or just torrent. 

Wow! Cool dude. 

And my mum still sucks at Candy crush. What a noob..
Das ist cool.

The Noah movie really sucks man.

Wait will they show it in Malaysia?