Hi folks. I am 26 years old this year...I own a house, a car, quite a decent salary and a lovely girlfriend. I was a guy that always want to achieve something big in my career. But somehow, my life totally changed after my mom passed away 6 months ago. I lost direction. I felt that my life is so meaningless...the cycle is study -> work -> married -> children -> children grow up -> die. What happened to me? I seems so depressed. No motivation to wake up...I don't know...Someone please guide me. Really appreciate

Please accept my sincere condolences.

I had been once, have the feeling like you too. That is when I broke up with my ex.

Now I am 29. When I same age with you, I have decent pay, have car, have house.

Ok, I might a little straight here. But I hope I can enlighten you.

Don't you think you are a little selfish just think about yourself? Your life, your car, your house. Your your your...

Why don't you start to think about others. You know there is many people out there need your care, your love and your help.

I share what I tell myself and how I do here.

"God give me the skills that can archive this in age 26"
"Most of them out there might not as good as me at age 26"
"What will I get if I work harder, make my income higher?"

Everyday, I saw news about the poor. I listen to radio that we can donate to the child under World Vision Org.

I start to realize that the power that I have is not just for myself. I can also give more to others.

I started to do monthly donation to World Vision.

I started to treat everyone good.

I saw bangla that work in construction under hot sun, I buy drinks for them.

I saw newspaper that someone need donation coz they have financial issue for their medical treatment, I donate.

When I take breakfast before go office, I buy an extra pack of Nasi Lemak for the guard in the guard house.

When I am lost, I always think of give my love and care to others. And eventually, I will find my direction back.

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"Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can't help them, at least don't hurt them. "

-The Dalai Lama-

Spend more time with dad.

You cannot control what happen to you, but you can control how you react to it.

Rather than focusing on the outer things in life, look inside you.

Is your life about gathering achievements, or experiencing life?
Do you eat to live, or live to eat?

Everyone one day must find their meaning of life.
E_mc_square found it in charity.
So what will be yours?
Start from within, your answer lies there.

This is called a life cycle. Ppl born grow up marry or not grow old n die.

My heartfelt condolence on your loss.
Like the forumer said, this is a life cycle which no living things can avoid.
Its difficult for anyone to give you any comforting advise because its easier said than done.

I believe you still have some love ones with you. Spend more quality time together with them.
I am sure you are not the only one who is hurting due to this event. We should understand that life is too short and what better things to do then to appreciate every moment and time we had together with those whom we care for.

You seems to have less concern of financial needs, if I am not wrong, so you can afford to spend more time with your close ones and your girl friend.

Take a break. Go for an oversea trip. Breath some fresh air. More or less it will help.

You are such a good person . May good lucks always be with you buddy.

Let yourself grief.

life purpose is to create more lifes
else god will have no worshipers

if u can't create more lifes, just enjoy whatever life "pleasure" u can.

there is no other purpose, all are bullzhit

I totally understand your feeling... i lost my both parent in 5 month time... i also depressed but depressed is because our brain interpreter about something and make us sad.

we need is time to heal.. slowly bro

You are a good man, you deserves my prayer even from some one who don't believe in god.

May you lead a good life.

looks like your inner self need some enlightenment on religion, to know more about faith....
the answer of your soul looking is religion....do some readings and praying bro....

did you take the blue pill?

I can see you missed your mom very much. try care even more for your remaining loved ones.. the people that matters to you. thats all. they are irreplaceable.

Career is not everything. try focus on those people who are there for you instead. (dad, gf, family etc)

hmm sad one ts... yang sudah pergi biarlah pergi..kita yang hidup teruskan hidup..kawen cepat and dapatkan anak..maybe those lonely will gonee..

Your problem and solution is highlighted in your own words.

Any human who LIVE forever and do not DIE, please raise up our hand? Anyone? OK, I assumed no one. Then why worry about dying? Its about LIVING that matters. Thanks to e_mc_square, he has given a fine example.

At least u got a house dude.
Really, spend more time with your dad.!!!!

the solution is don't think about pass n future, just live now.

You need to have more happy friends and as you have more happy friends, you can observe how come they can be so happy.

You visit people who are misfortune such as at old folks home and orphanage then you will know how lucky you are... and when you start to "compare" you know you are not alone.

You need to be more creative and innovative like Steve Job, so you still live in the boring cycle (the cycle is study -> work -> married -> children -> children grow up -> die) but instead in a creative and innovate way.

You can do the samething, over and over again but do it differently everytime so you EVOLVED.

You have to forget the past by focusing somewhere. I would ask you to focus on your STRENGTH... your HOBBIES... to engage yourselves.. how can you do something great from your STRENGTH to benefits the people around you???

Finally, "The Positive Thinking People Always See Opportunity In Every Trouble. The Negative People Always Give Excuses" >>>> Practice this POWERFUL MINDSET.. and Happiness is your friend.

The devils are in the details. Little things go a long way. Think positive and try to help others as you possibly can. Especially important ones that you care for.

im really sorry for your lost ts.

spend time with ur dad

imagine how much pain he is in.

I have to say life is indeed short, accept my deepest condolences. So we need to make full use of our time and prioritize what we think is important and do something that we'll feel satisfied after finish doing it.

Hey guys..Thanks you for your response...I guess I acted strong for these few months...Cried it out makes me feel much better...I hope that time will help me recover...

Thanks guys..I din't know lowyat.net has so many friendly and kind people..haha =D

I'm lost too