unfortunately.. very few ppl is as understanding.

i think in the old times, ppl live close together and since ppl see each other like every day, the face value become an important aspect of daily life. but nowadays, the world is so vast and globalized so this has become not so important.

keep in mind at ur wedding time that u don't expect the mandatory ang-pow from ur guest. at the same time, ppl who u think doesn't deserve ur ang pow, pls decline going to their wedding bcos obviously they are not very influential/important in your life.