Hi Good Night to the community here, I m first time here, if I have any clear mistake about posting, pls tell me.
I m a student and working as a part timer at night and I am self support student where my life expenses entirely depend on my own earning.
I currently facing a situation where I totally have no idea how to handle it, I am totally......lost. Hope I can get some advices and guidances from the communities here to get rid of it. I realised my problem and I am looking for solutions.
I worked for 1 month here as a waiter in my working place there is a kitchen staff who scold me cruelly for my any wrongdoing, scold is his way of teaching me.
He scolded me again and again in every day, even just a small matter, he can just remind me gently but he wasn't choose to do so. At first I don't really blame him, because I told myself every time he scolded me (this is just beginning, after I learned and memorised norms and rules, everything will be ok.)
After I found that he treated me differently with my other colleague (guys and girls), I hate him. Why treat me different? Why raise his tone towards me?
I am just a ordinary person who work for a better life. Because of this, I lost my confidence from the inside, I lost my observation and judging capabilities every freaking time I enter kitchen to pick up food for customers, kitchen became a nightmare for me, he has caused a damage to me psychologically, I never meet this issue in my study-working life, I don't know which is the best way to settle this.
I am not a person who always moody or without confidence, I know everything that I am doing, etc for what and for who, I work while studying because I want to have a better future. I am not a man who easily cry, but there was a few times I cried while driving in my way back to home.
After returned to home, I knew that I can't let my mood affect my any single family members, I have to pretend nothing has ever happened to me, I interacted with my families as usual. As an adult, how could I let them worry? they are people on earth who love me the most.
In fact, I don't see any other way but to seek for help here.
1. My supervisors and colleagues knew it but they choose not to lend a hand into my case, even though I desperately want help from them but I understand that from their position, if any of them helped me, my issue later become their issue, which affect their life in working, from my observation they have chosen not to take any actions, none of them.
2. Inform my boss. I chosen to put this solution as last choice because I plan to settle this matter peacefully while I could work harmoniously without his involvement, you know la after boss speak on behalf of a employee what will happen.
3. Friends. I don't have a true friend that willing to listen attentively to me.
4. Family. From what I understand, they can't help me in any way, even a useful advice. They will straight ask me to resign.
Ladies and gentleman, I love to work there, I love my job. I try to solve the problem before i choose to resign, I will put resignation as my very last option. I have no one to talk to, I Hope to have your advise and opinion, please.
Thank you so much.
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anyway as you are in F&B business, i have thread that focus on mindset, geared to mind your own business. it should be good to you. take a visit n thx.