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 Parenting Talk I attended this afternoon, Kota Damansara

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post Oct 4 2015, 08:32 PM, updated 9y ago

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I went to a parenting seminar at Sunway Giza this afternoon.
It is within my expectation, and some topics and experience are out of my expectation.

The first speaker Jamie shared about parenting style.
She began not just by lecturing but let us do a survey, that's good so the audience is no longer passive learning but

active learning, and we are actively participate from thereon. Great job

And I found out that both of my wife and myself were type A dominant.

The 2nd speaker Xue Yi talked about the 5 language of love.
She used a different set of questionnaire to to help us find out each of us our own dominate languages.
What surprise me was that the language of love that I fit into can be a dislike to others.
I learnt that understanding one's own love language can have great impact in relationship, of course, this apply to

relationship between parent and child.

So, Xue Yi shared about how to identify child's love language by the following:
Observe how do your kids express their love
How do your kids complaint, what do they complaint always?
What yoru child always requesting?
These are the three languages.

The 3# speaker Angela/Angel talk about human needs. There are 6 types of human needs.
Each of us, again have a dominant needs over the others.
What I learnt is that to understand the child, I actually indirectly understand myself better.
Each child requires different human needs.
E.g. some child like to share that because their driven human needs is #4 Growth, some child like to connect to each other

because their just love to Connect (#3)

Finally, Hanky spoke about Emotion Mastery.
What's surprise me was the way he bring out the important of space in relationship.
We all knows in a relationship we needs space, but knowing and understand deeper is totally different.
Hanky did it so well.

He also talk about the difference between Context and Content. He explains well on these too. I can't elaborate as well as

him at the moment.

Hanky said understand other first because you certainly can't give a fish chocolate just because you like to eat

chocolate.

Changing your focus. this is the 2nd point highlighted.
"Do you focus on this you have or you don't have?"
"do you train your child on thing they can control or they can't?"
Focus on time. do you train your child to focus on past or future or present?
He wrapped up this idea with this saying "Your life represents what you belief in"

Finally, he asked this: How many types of snow do you think Eskimo knows?
and how many types of snow do you think exist in this world?
Why he asked such question?
The more choice you have, the more power you have.

Thoughout the 4 hours session, it is jammed pack with activity and learning. I feel energize and felt blessed to attend

this parenting talk.
Great job to Hanky and Hankidz team.
Written on 4 Oct 2015, 8:22 a.m. as a way to remind myself and revise what I just learnt.
Thank you for reading this.
p/s: I knew my wife and myself even better now

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post Nov 24 2015, 09:56 AM

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I am going to attend Hankidz 2 days Parenting talk again this coming Saturday. So blessed. happy.gif

 

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