QUOTE(Bluetec888 @ Sep 28 2015, 12:23 AM)
Recently I always had very bad arguement with my wife and i hope somebody can advice me
I know my wife for 10 years and we been married for 2 years with a few months baby.
Im 30+ self employed man and My wife however is a exec working in another company. Both of us same age.
I would put our life as good by malaysian standard
We live in a house fully paid and fully renovated by me.
I paid everything for the household expense, baby items etc
Every single meal we dine , i paid too and dine frequently at good restaurant like tgi friday or rukenzen etc
I do most of the housework too and had maid too
However, after married my wife always complaint about me and we always have arguement.
She always say I did not give her money for her own expenses. And she is not happy and always say i stingy cheapskate etc etc
I try telling her many times, is not that i dowan to give her money to let her enjoy more, it is becoz I cant afford more after deducting all the expenses above. Sometimes she also blame me for not taking her to europe or those expensive trip.
I try telling her that give me sometime to earn more money so i can be a better person to her, but seems like she just always looks dissappointed marrying me.
By looking at this perpective am i the 1 wrong or her?
Well, i offered my wife money the other day and told her that this is her pocket money but she refused it nicely.
Am not in a position to say that your wife is a gold digger because is do not know you nor her personally.
Maybe there's something that she is hiding that bring the anger?
Cuba fikir balik, is there anything that you did wrong?
Women mmg susah sangat nak bukak topik bg tahu whats their problem (even i faced that)
Perhaps maybe you can do is, bawak bini kau pergi honey moon ke or romantic dinner or buat macam ni:
Sayang, I rasa abang skrg org yg paling bahagia skrg sbb dapat berkawin dgn wanita yg disayangi dan dikurniakan anak yg comel dan jugak on the way yg kedua ni. dan yg paling bahagia sbb sayang memang isteri yg solehah yg membantu jaga abang, jaga anak, memasak dan sebagai nya.Abang sangat sayang2. Memang bertuah.
Tpi skrg. Abang sedih jugak sbb abang nampak isteri kesayangan abang moody dan abang tak tahu mcm mana nak bahagiakan atau nak berkongsi kesakitan yg sayang menghadapi. Memang abang merana dan sakit hati jugak sbb tengok isteri moody tapi tak tahu mengapa. Abang sangat2 nak tahu masaalah sayang supaya abang boleh tolong memikul beban yg mungkin sayang ade. Disaat abang berkawin dgn sayang, abang dah berjanji utk berkongsi semua happiness dan sadness together. I cuma berharap sayang sedia meluahkan perasaan sayang kat abanag supaya abang lebih memahami.
Tahu tak kebanyakan perkara dalam dunia ni boleh diatasi, dan jugak banyak perkara yg kita sendiri tk boleh menyelesaikan, unless berkongsi dgn org lain.dan abang bersedia mendengar apa2 saja yg sayang nak ceritakan...Tolong lah abang supaya boleh memahami hati sayang...abanag betul2 sayang kan isteri dan meamng nak memahami isi hati sayang supaya sama2 boleh menyelesaikan masaalah yg ade dan menjadi pasanagan yg paling happy.
Kalau sayang agak susah utk membuka hati mcm ni, sayang boleh guna cara lain yg sayang selesa, misalnya guna whatsapp, voice message, atau pun email pun abang tak kisah...asalkan sayang rela ceritakan dan luah kan perasaan u. Abang akan tunggu jawapan sayang dan tak akan paksa sayang.. Ingat ayat2 abang ni. Abang memang sayang isteri abang dgn sepenuh hati.
Ok tak?